I've been in a very stable, happy relationship for over 3 years. My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage frequently, and feel that our relationship is quite stable.
I am 21, he is 27. We are both full-time students and work part-time jobs, and jointly own a dog together. We won't join the full time work force for another two years or so, but help eachother balance our finances among other things.
I don't want to move in together (though we are almost always together) until we get engaged. Is it really just a combo of relationship and financial stability, since money is the #1 cause of divorce? I don't want to date for seven years, but I don't want to rush things. Any advice?
2006-11-13 18:37:28 · 5 answers · asked by rocksnobb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been in a very stable, happy relationship for over 3 years. My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage frequently, and feel that our relationship is quite stable. We are still madly in love, and if we followed our hearts we would have been married by now. (But we are logical people, as are our parents)...
I am 21, he is 27. We are both full-time students and work part-time jobs, and jointly own a dog together. We won't join the full time work force for another two years or so, but help eachother balance our finances among other things.
I don't want to move in together (though we are almost always together) until we get engaged. Is it really just a combo of relationship and financial stability, since money is the #1 cause of divorce? I don't want to date for seven years, but I don't want to rush things. Any advice?
2006-11-13 18:46:50 · update #1
Please don't consider marriage until you are self-sufficient.
Be with him because you want to NOT because you have to for financial reasons. Get on your own feet and then if you and he still wish to marry, then consider it.
2006-11-13 18:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve talked about money, jobs, and owning a dog together, while the part - the only part that matters - following your hearts, isnt much more than a footnote, and then quickly replaced by being 'logical'. yuck!
Your heart speaks the truth. It always has and always will - dont spend another minute second guessing what it's telling you loud and clear. Act now. Your children and their children will be freed by what you do today.
2006-11-13 19:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by ithinkimcanadian_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest that both of you finish school first. im not so sure about what you mean stable. there are a lot of factors to consider before you enter marriage. but i guess, a long term engagement can be considered in your case if you say both of you are emotionally stable. but as you said it, financial plays a major role. i guess it would also help if both of you try to establish yourselves, at least financially. save more on both your future. dont think much of the wedding ceremony. i guess im getting ahead already...but the bottomline is dont jump into something you are not really prepared. good luck!
2006-11-13 19:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by z0e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have to be practical about marriage, but your heart has to be in it first. It appears that you are looking at things from a logical point of view, but I don't understand where the heart fits in.
If you truly love each other, and are past the infatuation, and are ready for a lifetime commitment, then yes you are ready. But the pair of you will know in your heart if you are ready.
2006-11-13 18:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You'll probably just break up anyway. Then you have to divide all your stuff and move out.
2006-11-13 18:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋