I have been with working with sb for 4 years and recently, I have been thinking so much about him that I think I have fallen in love with him. But he is 15 years older and worst he has a wife!! To complicate thing, I have a decent boyfriend that treats me so well. I think that sb knew how I felt and so do I. We both have not really started anything but the feelings is quite strong and worrying.... but can't help it.
This sounds stupid I know but how should I stop thinking of him? People said out of sight out of mind but not quite the same with me... I felt so guilty..... Am I really fallen in love or am I looking for adventure? Need advice
2006-11-13 18:33:01 · 6 answers · asked by lullaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me put somethings in perspective. When you work with a person for a long period of time there may be times were you get confused and think you are in love. These feelings are what i like to call sexual tension. Usually the best way to get rid of it is to just get it out of your system but he is married. So i would avoid that all. Your best bet is to go to the club or go out with other friends. The way its sitting now you may help yourself if you do take him away but your also destroying a family. Besides if seen this time and time again . A wife can be very very vengful worse than a man bar none. your best bet is go to vegas get all that tension out of your system and there is no better place than there to do it. but be safe wht ever you decide take a cruise or just get a nice long vacation somewhere and think about your desicions.
2006-11-13 18:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by DR.PHIL-A-LIKE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,you are simplest 15 and frequently too younger to discover that you are simply having an infatuation with this older man. Don't allow this important time of your lifestyles cross by way of wasted.I'm certain you would not wish to are living to inform that you just regretted this.Go and uncover whatever extra precious doing like making extra peers,finding out & journey.Things that children round your age will have to be doing.Have a laugh however do not be taken potential of.For all you realize this men simply out to have a laugh so do take care, pricey. You recognize,in the future after you are performed with finding out and all and be anybody positive...you can frequently discover that there is such a lot of well, high-quality guy in the market for you.Take your choose then however now do not rush into relationships while you do not even recognize what you particularly wish and now not even certain what to do.Take care! All the excellent,hon!
2016-09-01 12:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he feels the same, maybe try something. Just beware of his wife. Also make sure that he knows that you're not going to do anything "serious" as long as he has a wife. No matter WHAT side your on in a relationship, cheating does nothing but cause major problems.
It's possoble that the thrill of having a relationship with someone who you shouldnt be could be whats making you feel in love. But then again, it really could be love. You should find out before you get too involved and you end up way in over your head. He could end up faling in love with you and leaving his wife, and the thrill would be gone. If it wasnt love for you...you just broke up a happy relationship.
I hope that helps. Oh, and dont feel guilty, I never believed that saying anyway, its not true for me either.
2006-11-13 18:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kaylie Reanne - Born 08-06-09 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Lul, your feeling lust not love Baby Girl. Leave that man alone and don't get involved with a married man. Because if you do, he will break your heart. Because who do you think he will spend his holidays with,,,that's right the wife. He is taken and so are you, so let it go. You work with him too and if something happens then you will end up in a really crummy position at work. After all he is older which means he has more time in than you so guess who will have to leave, You! So this involves alot more than you realize. So take off the rose colored glasses and get on with your boyfriend. Get away for awhile!
2006-11-13 18:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has the word dangerous written all over it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Stay away...he has a wife and probably kids too. Resign if you have to and save yourself a lot of heartache...it's not worth it. If your looking for adventure go rock climbing for goodness sake...not mess around in someones marriage. These feelings your having is definitely not love BUT pure lust.
2006-11-13 18:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by j -cold 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a crush. Don't act on it. You'll meet a more suitable partner eventually.
2006-11-13 18:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋