I have this friend who's making some majorly bad decisions right now. I won't get into too many details, but let's just say she's with this guy whos already cheated on her numerous times and now he's getting her to do all kinds of drugs. How can I talk to her about all this without her getting mad? I want to help her before she does something she really regrets.
2006-11-13 18:31:25 · 6 answers · asked by Hippie Chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People are going to go ahead and do whatever they want. It is her life and it sounds to me like she is at the point where she wants to explore new things and maybe even be a little rebellious. You seem to be a really good friend and I know its hard to watch a friend make all the wrong choices (sometimes even after you counsel them on what to do). Let your friend know what you are concerned about and that you really do care about her. After that, let her make her own decisions whether they are good or bad. Over time, she will learn. The best thing you can do is stay by her side through the fun and hard times of your friendship. When she is ready for your help and guidance, she will ask for it, knowing that you do care.
2006-11-13 18:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People watch too many movies. I highly doubt you'll be able to take her to a psychologist yourself, unless you want to pay for it. It's a sad reality. I had this happen to a friend of mine (it was between 7th and 9th grade though).... her mom and brother were verbally abusive to her, so she started hanging out with this guy named Nathan, got into crack. She went downhill pretty fast. Last I knew, she lived in OKC and had a baby. Anyhoot, assuming your friend's parents are supportive of her, you need to talk to them without her knowing about it. Even if she's an adult (your friend), her parents still may have the right influence on her to get her to stop the drugs and to maybe get her the help she needs.
2006-11-14 02:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has talked to you about the consequences of her bad decisions. You need to tell her what you think and that you are worried. If she gets defensive then on some level she knows you are right.... There is only so much that you can do... There are some people who invite that kind of drama into their lives because they are co-dependent. It sounds like you are smart enough to know the difference...
2006-11-14 02:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by forme2poopon73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her around other people and have a 'friend' that happens to be a counselor or psychologist in the group talk to her. If you do it, you're just going to lose a friend and once alienated, the best you can hope for is an "I told you so" after it's too late!
2006-11-14 02:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her be honest ,
then it is up to her if she will listen.
For if she does want to know there is not much you can do
You may lose you friend if she does want to listen
But if it was you would you want someone to tell you ?
May God bless you
2006-11-14 02:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by jan d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray for her n invite her to church .. Gud luck
2006-11-14 02:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋