I have been married to my husband for almost 3 years. I married him because i was pregnant and my family had nothing to do with me. Well our son is now 2 and i am to the point in our marriage where i am miserable. It seems that the only time he act like he loves me is when he is ready for s*x. Any other time he is so hateful to me (ex. He tells me to shut the F up, leave me the hell alone, etc. etc.). I am married to a sex addict ....he wants it all the time and since i had our son i am not so interested anymore. If i dont give it to him he refuses to go to work and sleeps all day......Am i wrong for wanting to leave?????
2006-11-13 18:13:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You either need to get professional help together or you walk out.
2006-11-13 18:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing good going for you in this relationship, leave him today! I'm serious, this isn't healthy for you or your baby so don't even try to make the excuse that you might be doing it for your child. Children know when something is up and it really hurts them to see and know one thing, and be told another. After being put through all that mental abuse and physical abuse (sexually) I'm really concerned about your well being. Take the necessities of what you and your child need and get the hell out of there. Things only can and will get better from here. You just have to do it without hesitation to get the ball rolling. Once you are out of there you will think more clearly and you should make sure you see a lawyer about the legal issues involved. If you are scared of your husband, let them, the police or at least a counsellor know and they will find you and your son some sort of protection.
2006-11-13 19:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for you. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. If you have someplace else you can go, I would suggest that you go. It will probably get worse to the point where he could hurt you. If there are friends, or a shelter, I think you should go. Your son doesnt need to see his mother treated that way either. Think of how this will effect his life. It is difficult, but you have to remember that he is the most important thing in the world and you have to keep his life stable. Staying with an abuser is not a stable life for a child. He is emotionally and sexually abusing you and you are so much better than that. Please get help and leave that man.
2006-11-13 18:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever tried to change him? Maybe he's been always like this? Anyway, the abusive language and all may not show that he doesn't love you. And that could be some sort of disorder that he is having...the sex and all. Bring him to a doctor? If not, try to talk to him? Try something really special during sex?
If you tried to change him and it doesn't work\you don't want to try, consider what would happen if you leave him. Do you like that? And what about your child?
If you feel that leaving him would not do you r child any more 'harm' than it is staying with him, why not? It's not going anywhere is it staying with him?
2006-11-13 18:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by pilotpensarenogood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it will be best to leave and just file for divorce..
why drag on a marriage where there is no love..
It does sound like you got married too fast and for all the wrong reasons. Why not just be fair to each other, end it quickly, so you both can move on with life and find the right partner you can both be happy with for the rest of your lives.
If I were you, I wouldnt wait for another day to think it over, I would just get it over with as quickly as possible...
2006-11-13 18:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough is enough....You are not wrong for wanting to leave. He sounds verbally abusive and usually the physical abuse is not too far behind. Hindsight is always 20/20 and I'm sure that you know this by now but getting pregnant is no reason to marry. It sounds like he is miserable too but that is not your fault he, most likely, has intimacy and maturity issues. He has to work that out. You can't do it for him. Get out before it's too late... your little boy doesn't need to be around that either.
2006-11-13 18:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by forme2poopon73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong to want a better life for you and your child.
If you do leave, make better choices. Don't repeat your mistakes.
Get some education and a job. Your child needs a better life.
If your family won't help you then call a woman's shelter where you live. They can help you make the right choices and how to move on in your life.
Keep yourself and your son safe
2006-11-13 18:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Sweetie; you are not wrong for wanting to leave. You should have left yesterday. You noted that your family 'had' nothing to do with you. Is that still the case? If so, there are shelters and places that can help you to leave him. Being verbally abused is almost as bad as the physical abuse. Contact the Human Resources agency in your county. They can advise you of who or whom to contact if you really want to leave him and need help doing so. Good luck.
2006-11-13 18:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get the hell out. This guy is not nice. You have your whole life ahead of you. You will get in a better situation, even if it is just you, and your son. You and your son alone is better than this arrangement. You will get $upport if he's working, you will need to work, but you will be free. Free is worth a lot.
2006-11-13 18:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by LuckyEddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ur not wrong at all...but b4 u think of taking such drastic steps of leaving remember u have a son n its difficult to b a single mother...tho lot of ppl are managing..
u need to talk to him n tell him love is not all abt having physical relationship but an emotional one too...n tell him u are feelin the lack of emotional aspect....demand respect...dont complain he doesnt give it to u...
take care..take action b4 it worst...
good luck!
2006-11-13 18:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by koolnsj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like a healthy situation.
Do you have anywhere to turn.
Church,friends a city program...anyone to talk too.
I would have a plan before doing anything....
any Yes you are right to feel this way.
If he speaks to you this way...what will it be like in acouple of years with your son or does he already talk to him this way and...what kind of role model is he for his son?
No one...woman,man and/or child should have to tolerate being treated and spoke to in this manner.
Best wishes
2006-11-13 18:24:19 · answer #11 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋