How many ladies here were ina abusive relationship and had the galls to leave?

Question

are you glad you had the courage to leave my sister was ina abusive marriage for five years she left her husband the best thing she did for herself any one want to share your stories

Answer 1

I left 2 previous relationships that were abusive. It got to the point where it was a life or death situation. I had to leave to save the life of my child and myself. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. Right now I'm doing well rebuilding a better life for my little boy. I didn't want him growing up thinking that the way my ex treated us was right or the norm. I give props to every woman who has had the courage to leave. For those who haven't yet, I pray for your safety until you do. There has been a drastic rise in the number of women being killed by ex's lately and I knew if I didn't leave, I'd be next. I thank God for making a way of escape. Be encouraged.

Answer 2

It took me many years to realize I was emotionally & verbally abused. I left 9 years ago. I went from being well of fiancially to struggling. I would choose poverty over being in an abusive relaltinship any day. I regret that I didin't do it sooner. I stayed for the kids. Which in the long run ended up being the wrong thing for the kids.

It is better for a family to be from a broken family than to live in a broken family.

Abused women lose who they are. They are belittled and demeaned. It is a brave thing to take a step out side and make a new life for herself. It is well worth it.

Answer 3

maximum abusive relationships i've got seen are way extra desirable than merely actual & ensue in tiers. The abuser usually isolates the sufferer from their pals & relatives leaving them no person to bypass to for help. They then paintings over the sufferers self self assurance making them sense like each and every thing that's going on is their fault & that they choose the abuser, like the abuser is the only individual who could desire to available love them with all their faults. in many circumstances it gets to the ingredient the place the sufferer certainly feels they should be dealt with poorly & that they could not do to any extent further valuable in the event that they left. till now long they sense trapped by making use of the area. it is much extra psychological conflict than the rest.

Answer 4

Left early June, and still trying to maintain my sanity. Abuse was mostly verbal and emotional, but truly painful and stressful. I have 5 children and I must say it has been a struggle, but we are making it. I don't want a divorce, but for him to see the error of his ways and seek help. He says he is willing. However, I feel very nervous about trying again. I feel that I must seek as much help as I can because I "allowed" this abuse for so many years, when I could have left a long time ago. Now, I feel stressed and strained to find myself! It is difficult to do with 5 kids, looking at you to see what's next.

Answer 5

I was in an abusive relationship for 2 years. my excuse for staying was MY BABY NEEDS HIS DADDY.the last day he beat me up he was trying to kill me he kept telling me every time he slamed my head down, I looked up and saw my 10 mo old son watching and crying I thought my baby needs his mommy I left that night never looked back that was 20 yr ago best thing I ever did. Once an abuser always an abuser no matter how much he says he is sorry he will do it again and again ect.ect

Answer 6

I wasnt exactly miss perfect wife, but I was in an abusive relationship for almost 8 years. We were married almost 4 years and I left him a few days before that. Life's crazy, but I dont regret doing it. :)

Answer 7

I'll be the first to stand up and be counted. I was married to an abuser for five years.My ex was a drinker, when he got drunk he became an angry monster. At first I convinced myself that if I just loved him enough, he would change. Then as time went on he convinced me that it was all my fault and that if I left that no one else would want me. He took away every part of me, I ceased to exist in any part of the person I once was. He even convinced me that if I told my family everything that was going on, that they would side with him. So I kept alot of it secret from them. There were nights he would chase me from our home with his guns and knives, having to run to strangers for shelter. Many times I called my family to come for me, and they did. We would ride back to my parents house in silence, I guess they didn't want to ask and I didn't want to tell. Come the next day, he always came for me and I always went. I no longer had any will of my own.

One night, as I sat waiting for him to return from one of his very late nights with his out of town girlfriend, I actually considered suicide. You see, I thought that was my only escape from him. The only thing that stopped me that night was a tiny life asleep in the crib in the next room. So instead I prayed to God for strength and guidance. A short time later someone came into my life that gave me back just enough of myself that I was able to say " No More "! Today I am married to that person, 24 years and happy.

Answer 8

Actually I will be leaving by this weekend after 12 years of abuse and even though I am nervous, I can't imagine anything being worse than this. I can't wait to be free from his control and rage.

Answer 9

yeah i left that crazy bastard 14 years ago. no help from family or the cops/ no money, two kids, no skills to speak of, couldn't get welfare. it was hard to say the least. i didn't run off and hide, though. i held my ground. i moved up the street so i could stay close to the kids when they were with him. i new his way of thinking and i always stayed one step ahead of him. the last time he tried to bother me i grabbed a baseball bat fully intending to use it.. scared the bejeezes out of him and he NEVER came back!

Answer 10

good for her yes definately better to live alone than to stay in a marraige like that. She's better off free to find someone else or jsut be happy with some peace in her life.