Cant sleep after a break up?

Question

IMy girlfriend finished with me and i am devestated my heart keeps beating so much that i cant sleep, why is this?

Answer 1

When a relationship ends, it often takes a lot of support, talk, strength and ice cream to get through the pain. But as the classic disco tune suggests, you will survive: "I used to cry, but now I hold my head up high."

That heartless girl has ended it. Now your future is in shambles. You feel the need to panic and beg for her back. You'll do anything to make things right. But no matter how you try, you can't get back to that little spot of sunlight where you were so comfortable and safe. There's only one thing left for you to do: Forget her. I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but with this blueprint, you'll forget that girl and pick up the pieces of your shattered heart in no time.


1. Take her off that pedestal - Don't idolize her and build her up into something great. Don't gaze lovingly at pictures of her. Don't jump to answer her e-mail or phone calls. And definitely don't go out of your way for her. She no longer deserves preferential treatment.

2. Get closure - It's essential to definitively end any hopes of reconciliation between the two of you. And if you can't get that into your head, she owes you the courtesy of conveying it crystal clear. She needs to tell you: "I never loved you. I don't love you now. We'll never get back together." After some prodding, she'll probably do it, just to get rid of you. It provides what therapists call "closure." And you can begin to heal.

3. Don't contact her - After the relationship reaches finality, you have to break off contact or you will go mad. Don't beg or cry. Don't drunk-dial. Don't write her e-mail. Don't send packages or CDs. Don't dedicate a song to her on the radio. Get the picture? She will find you if she wants to. And even if you can talk your way back into her arms, it's only a temporary reprieve. She already knows you want her back, and she doesn't care. Take that as a sign.

4. Get negative feelings out on paper - Write her a letter pouring out your negative and weepy feelings, then disassociate them from yourself. Throw the letter away or burn it. But definitely don't send it to her. You will only regret it. She will show her friends and her new boyfriend. And they will all share a good laugh.

5. Avoid her friends & the places she hangs - Don't venture into her territory. You won't be welcome. Find new places to hang out for the first few months and make new friends, if necessary. If any of your friends insist on maintaining contact with her, you may have to shut them out, too -- at least temporarily. After some time has passed, you should go back to living normally, and that means hanging out at these places and reconnecting with mutual friends.

6. Throw away anything that reminds you of her - You don't have to burn it all, but definitely get pictures, gifts, clothing, letters, and e-mail out of your living area, or at least out of your line of vision. If that means giving away roughly half of your wardrobe to get rid of the memory of her, so be it. As a rule of thumb, if the object reminds you of your ex, discard it. This can save your sanity.


7. Don't try to get your stuff back - Unless it's a diamond ring or something that's one-of-a-kind, you're better off not contacting her to get it back. DVDs, clothes, your extra toothbrush... just let 'em go. They're only possessions. Is it really worth the pain of being in her presence just to reclaim a pair of boxer shorts? Don't exchange your dignity for menial belongings.

8. Hang out with your friends - Let your buddies give you a reality check on how your ex wasn't all that to begin with, and that there are more fish in the sea. A little male camaraderie can go a long way towards getting your head straight. We've all been detonated by a woman before and most of us will likely get detonated again.

9. Exercise your newfound freedom - Freedom is always intoxicating. There's a world of activities you can partake in that you were never able to enjoy because your "other half" didn't approve. So indulge. Travel. Build a model ship. Go hiking. Play video games on your computer. Watch TV all weekend. Do anything you want. Why not start boxing? Ideally, you want to find an activity that allows you to release your anger and alleviate stress.

10. Remember the bad times - If you feel nostalgic, then think of all the times you fought. That should do it. Remember the time she made you wait by the dressing room as she endlessly tried on clothing? Or the time she reminded you not too drink too much in front of your posse? Nobody wants that back.

11. Sleep with another girl - Nothing reminds you that you are a man quite like having a new woman in your bed. So take solace in the arms of another. Call it a rebound if you wish. Plenty of heartbroken guys go this route and for a very good reason -- it makes you feel better, even if it's only temporary. So go out there and feel better about yourself!

Bonus : Seduce somebody she's jealous of - Remember any friend your ex scolded you for looking at or picked up a fight with? Well, now's your chance to make a move that will pay off in more ways than just sex. Just think, if your ex finds out you've been fishing in familiar waters, it will drive her to the point of hysteria. This can be quite gratifying.

Banish her from your mind - Getting the woman of your past out of your present is a mental and emotional challenge of the first order. However the tried and true guidelines above should have your heart mended in no time.

Good Luck>r

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I gotta tell you buddy, I was engaged to a beautiful girl back in the day and after a 4 year relationship, she broke it off with me. At the time, she was the only long-term relationship that I had had. She was 3 years older than me and when it was over, she was very cold toward me and began to flaunt her new guy. After a year or so, I ran into her and she acted interested again, which helped boost my ego. It's hard but there are other fish out there. In addition, I have a much better fiance now, and seriously, I am happier than I had ever been with her or other exes. Don't do anything rash, I felt the same way, heart beating and all. At one point I got dehydrated and couldn't sleep. But it will all pass. Either you will get back together or you will find someone else.

Answer 4

Baby Boy this is called a broken heart. Give it time Sweetie and you will be able to feel again. And you may not believe it but there are other great gf out there waiting for you. If you can't sleep then you might want to see a Dr. Reason I say this is because if you do the over the counter meds for sleep to much they can become addicting. Take your mind off of yourself and keep yourself busy helping others. Especially these holidays. You never know you may meet! Try Chamomile tea at night that is calming too.

Answer 5

your mind is thinking too hard about the whole thing, so you cant get urself relaxed enough to sleep. what you need to do is try to find things that will help you calm down enough so that u can get to bed a little bit easier. I would suggest maybe wiriting ur feelings down on paper, that way they arent all pent up inside. Letting ur feelings out is a great way to get some relief from the pain. It's understandable that u have trouble sleeping cuz you just got ur heart broken, but little by little things will get easier and ur heart will heal. good luck with everything, hope u get some rest.

Answer 6

If you cant sleep after finishing once start over again. So that time is passed and if you feel like tired go to sleep.

Answer 7

Everybody feels the same one or the other time sweet heart. Give it time. Turn your interests on things like music, drawing and go out to places where you can meet people or meet your friends. Dont talk to them about this and have a nice chat and see it yourself. You will certainly enjoy life.

Answer 8

Been there done that, it will pass if you want it to. I cried for a whole week and ;ost weight after I broke up. If there is a good reason to no longer to be together you should get rid of things that remind you of her and focus on something else.

Answer 9

Because you had feelings for her ! When you can't sleep because of her think about this : she can not sleep because of you ? No , so don't think about a person who is not thinking about you ..... Use your mind & feelings in order to find another woman who will make you happy !

Answer 10

Hang in there, heartbreak is a bitc#

The more sleep you can get, all the better.
You might try some physical activity, exercise, it helps to beat the depression.