why do woman become lesbians?

Question

i mean, its just a question that has been going on in my head.I mean, i know bout "you born with it" but what bout the boyfriends and other issues that may make a woman turn the opposite way.

Answer 1

Because of guys like me ...... sigh..........

Answer 2

Barking Lunchbox is right on the money. The media has been glorifying lesbianism for a long time. That's what that whole Madonna/Christina A/Britteny S kiss was all about...it had nothing to do with any real bond between any of the three girls involved. If it were something else, we'd see more of an effect across the board, age-wise. But the truth, once again, sheds light on the reality of the situation. The rise in lesbianism is almost solely with the under-25 age group...the group that is most impressionable and the most likely to spend an extra amount of time watching TV.

So, to answer the question, a lot (if not the majority) of women becoming lesbians these days do so because they think it's cool. It has little to do with actual sexual preference. They just want to do what they think everybody else is doing and what they think everybody else thinks is cool. They get their ideas about this from the TV, movies and the internet.

Answer 3

First of all I am a lesbian and I know I was born a lesbian and I believe most homosexuals are but I don't believe this is the case for every homosexual. I know some homosexuals that have never been with nor had any inclination to be with someone of the opposite sex. I also know plenty who have lived a heterosexual life and realized later that they were homosexual the whole time and for whatever reason (usually because of the way they were raised) never acted on it till later in life. And then I know some who have chosen, due to numerous reasons, to be homosexual. These three circumstances can also work in the reverse going from homosexual to heterosexual though not as often and probably not for the same reasons. There really isn't a single answer to your question because sexual identity is a very personal issue for each individual but, I do hope my input has helped shed some light on the issue for you.

Answer 4

The boyfriend didn't 'turn' them that way...they likely grew up in an environment where they were expected to couple with men exclusively and be straight. In many instances women who are homosexual take a good deal of their lives realizing it because of the cultural indoctrination we all go through as children to find 'Mr.Right'...very few households say it's ok to find the right person regardless of gender. It causes a lot of unneccesary difficulties in these peoples' lives.
Perhaps if more people were raised that way then those who are born to prefer different lifestyles wouldn't be so stigmatized and go through such pain figuring out why they feel different. Gay friends that I have tried to be heterosexual growing up and took years, even decades realizing exactly why they never felt comfortable in those types of relationships. Trying to force yourself as a homosexual individual into the stereotypical heterosexual lifestyle only hurts yourself and the one in the relationship with you. I'm straight, but I'm in favor of people being comfortable and able to live the lives that they see fit. No one has the right to tell you how to live your life.

Answer 5

This is an interesting question. I have heard many schools of thought on this, particularly sexuality as a choice versus sexuality as "nature" versus sexuality as a result of "nurture."

Honestly, in all the reseach I've done on this (and I have certainly done my fair share of academic, peer-reviewed scholarly articles reseach on this), NO *credible* study concluded that it was all of one thing. Some people feel that their sexuality is nature and have felt it since they were young, some think it was an environment they live in/grew up in, and some thing it is the work of the devil. They are all valid opinions, but some happen to have more data to support than others.

However, in all the reseach I have done, "becoming" a lesbian (or gay man for that matter) was mentioned only anecdotally. If one is to "become" a lesbian later in life, it is typically spawned by romantic feelings for another woman and rarely has to do with boyfriends or "other issues." It is not unheard of, but it is also quite uncommon. To assume that women become lesbians because of bad boyfriends is pretty disrespectful and kind of male-centric. Obviously the only way a woman could entertain the thought of loving another woman is if she was really really hurt by a man/men and couldn't face the prospect of having another man in her life so she /turned the other way/. No. That just doesn't work. People don't just turn the other way for no reason, it is typically to follow an attraction or curiosity.

Answer 6

As you said, most women don't become lesbians. They are born with it. However, some women opt to go homosexually because of bad experiences with men, or because they are not being fulfilled in heterosexual relationships. Also, some women are simply more comfortable around women than men. The more comfortable you are around one person, the more likely you are to allow your relationship with that person to go further.

Answer 7

It could be the free toaster and ipod they give you, when you fill out the application to become lesbian. However you have to be born a muff-diver you can't suddenly become lez. As for "issues" turning one lesbian. Those women are a least bisexual to begin with. No one becomes lesbian they are that way from the factory. It does only seem that way.

Answer 8

I just finished a research paper on this very topic. What I found was that 2/3 of lesbians believe it to be a choice. When looking into why, we must detail the bonds that were nurtured in childhood. We as women have been subjected to abuse, be it physical, emotional, or the basic intellectual abuse from society, it is no wonder we find comfort from the very same women we emulate. This is seen particularly with women in prison, while inside they choose to establish relationships with other women, yet most upon leaving prison maintain heterosexual relationships. I find the difference between women labeled as lesbians, as almost a romantic title, where as men are homosexual in their labels. curious no?

Answer 9

I think it's just the ultimate rebellious act. Same for men. Born of anger at someone or something, society, parents, perhaps members of the opposite sex. A way to thumb your nose at everything and everybody, and get off on that nasty and oddly exciting feeling people get when they are doing something FORBIDDEN..

And it IS a choice. I don't buy for a second that people are even genetically predisposed to it, let alone predestined and/or condemned from birth to engage in such behavior.

There's no evidence to speak of to supprt that notion: at least if you discount the scientifically unsupported ramblings of a few mendacious members of the Psychiatric community, a group engaged in alleged science for profit that alternately convinces normal people they are nuts and nutty people that they are sane and has just about everybody in the whole world convinced they have "chemical imbalances" in their brain and are need of medication and $180.00 an hour sessions with one of them to get "well," and, until fairly recently, sanctioned the scrambling of people's frontal lobes with icepicks.

I think if they and the knee-jerking, politically correct media do succeed in making society as a whole consider it "alternative" rather than "deviant" behavior, it will lose a great deal of it's appeal, and fewer people will go for it. That would be an odd twist, wouldn't it?

Answer 10

Come on guy's the way most of us behave I'm surprised there not ALL lesbians.

Answer 11

A woman is lesbian because she has a high level of the male hormone testosterone which triggers the male sexual libido rocket high.