she loves me but no mater what she is going to abort our 1st child what should i do?

Question

she told me she wants a family with me but not right now she say a lot of different reasons why but i dont see them she is 24 on the 15th of november and i 23 on the 26th i make about $2000.00 a month plus benifits and 401k and she makes around $1500.00 plus stock i think if we spend wise-ly we can afford a child what more do you need? love, i know i will love my child and i wont let any one hurt him or her
p.s. it feels kinda wird to say i dont want any kids not even a year ago and now im trying to fight for my little boy or girls unborn life and no matter what it takes i will fight to the bitter end.

Answer 1

There is nothing you can do, legally. It is today a womans right to choose. If you can't talk her out of it, take it as a sign of bad things to come and leave.

Answer 2

I feel so bad for you; unfortunately, there's not much you can do except show her how much you love and care for her. This could destroy the relationship btwn the two of you, though - abortions cause so much more pain than people realize. Try to check out any support groups, make sure she's making a truly informed decision about what she's doing, as the psychological pain this will cause could haunt her for the rest of her life. An abortion isn't something you just go in and have done, and walk out like it never happened. She will think about it every day, trust me. No matter the outcome, though, you need to try to be supportive and loving toward her, because this is probably the most difficult decision a woman can make. Good luck in this, and you both will be in my prayers!

Answer 3

Well if she doesnt want a child now there is nothing you can do or say that will make her have one. Id just respect her and wait or move on if youre in that big of a rush.
About fighting for an unborn babies right, it is the womens choice and their bodies, there is NOTHING really that you can do to make her gestate.
Good luck tho.

Answer 4

You have a say on this since you are the father. Tell her that you will look after her and the baby. She might be afraid to handle another responsibility but assure her repeatedly that you will be there for her. lf she doesnt want any of that, better adopt the baby and raise it by yourself. lts her body so she can do what she wants,l know, but the baby has the right to live. lts not just a "thing" to be rid off when you dont feel like having it.

Answer 5

This is something that needs to be decided by both parties. I think she is old enough and responsible enough now that things should not have to result in an abortion, although I am pro choice.

Please also realize in the big picture of things 2G a month is not that much money. Although I do agree with you, you can make it work if you want to.

I would be questioning her commitment to this relationship and how strong your bond with one another really is since she seems to be the one making the decision weather you like it or not.

Seems to me she wants to leave her "options" open,

Answer 6

listen to me please. i myself had an abortion but it was for medical reasons and even then it was the most horrible experience of my entire life. i think about that baby every single day and wonder what it would be like today, if it would have been a boy or girl there are so many things that goes through my mind daily. unfortunatly it is her decision but try offerring up to her to take full responsibility for the baby and not ask of anything from her you will be fine by yourself. sit her down and talk to her and let her know how you feel and also let her see some pages on the internet about abortion and let her see pictures and let her read the risks that are involved in abortion. tell her to really think things through before she does something that will haunt her for the rest of her life and if it doesnt then she doesnt have a soul. she knew the risks of having sex could possibly result in pregnancy and if that was something she didnt want then she shouldnt have been having sex at all. and now an innocent baby is going to suffer because she was selfish and now isnt thinking of anything else. to me this makes me sad because you sound like a very concerned man who is really really wanting this baby and you dont see that too often. it breaks my heart that men nowadays dont get much say so in this type of situation. if it makes you feel any better there was this guy who was dating a girl who after being together for 3 months she ended up getting pregnant she wanted nothing to do with the baby and wanted to abort it as well he talked to her and convinced her to have the baby but sign over full rights when she was born so he could raise her and give her the life she deserved. the mother did indeed do that, he said it is rough doing it by himself and also going to school but he wouldnt take it back for anything in the world. let her talk to a nurse or a doctor or even someone who has had an abortion before that can maybe make her open her eyes and see that abortion and murder and it is something that you cant take back. my abortion had to be done due to it being an ectopic pregnancy as i stated it was the hardest thing i have ever gone through i ended up having a panic attack on the table in the dr's office and it was just a completely horrible situation. i hope this helps a bit please keep us updated as to what she is deciding to do good luck and i will pray for you

Answer 7

no matter how hard it is for you just remember that is even harder on her. it is growing inside of her and she will have to live with the pain for the rest of her life. no matter what the final outcome please be supportive because im sure she has a reason. sometimes women just have a bad feeling or even intuiton. You just don't know what is going on in her mind. I am very sorry and I will say a prayer for you and your loved ones.

Answer 8

Clearly your values are not the same as hers. I hope that you are able to convince her not to abort the child, and to let you raise it, on your own. Because if she's willing to kill it I can't imagine she would all of a sudden become a loving mother towards it.
No matter what happens with this woman, I hope you are more careful with the women you pick in the future and make sure you don't have children with women who don't want them again :(.
I feel for you. I can't imagine what you must be going through. I wish all of you well.

Answer 9

It is sad and you may want this child, and think you can take care of it, but its not your decision. It is hers and hers alone. If she doesn't want the child, for what ever reason it may be, thats up to her and no one else. The most you can do is support her in her decision. And babies take a lot more than love and money..You may think you are ready, but she doesnt.

Answer 10

wow a difficult situation - I agree - try to talk reasonably to her - tell her you will take full responsibility. Even so you should consult a lawyer and find out what rights you have as the father.

Good luck.