Can you become gay when you used to be striaght?

Question

And also what's it like to be gay? How did you first realize and how did you feel emotionally?

Answer 1

It doesn't happen. You could be confused about yourself and that is normal but is your gay your gay if your strait your strait. Bi Curios does not make someone bi. It is the way your made up and most people experience that awareness in puberty.. Deary.

Answer 2

If you become gay when you were once straight then you were never really straight. For someone to be gay it has always had to have been there.

Being gay is no different to being anyone else. Yes we get discriminated against and frowned upon but there are many groups in society that happens to.

I first felt it when I was 12 but I realised it just before my 21st birthday. I felt emotionally relieved that I had finally discovered who I was and that I had never felt so good being out. It was also a very hard time though trying to come out.

Answer 3

No, you can't just "become" gay.
Some, although VERY few, actually choose to be gay, but it's usually either an experimental stage or they "turn" gay temporarily out of emotional hurt by an ex-spouse or ex-boy/girlfriend.

Many only REALIZE later in life that we actually ARE and ALWAYS have been gay, but never accepted it until later.

Most of us have always been gay, it's not like a changing your underwear, you can't take it off and put it on when it's convenient.

What's it like to be gay? It's simply a part of your life. It's not the ONLY part of ones life, but just a part of it. No more or less than being heterosexual is.

I always really knew I was gay, but couldn't accept it until much later on. I was already an adult, previously married and divorced and had tried for years to deny that part of my life. I didn't want to be "different." I didn't want to be denied civil rights just because of a part of my life that is really no ones business but my own. I didn't want to be the object of hate or fear because other people couldn't or didn't want to understand.

But, as I matured emotionally, I learned to accept it and went about my life pretty much the same way I always had/have with only the exception of who my life partner is.

Answer 4

You can't become gay if you're not. Unless you actually are already gay or bi and just hiding it (possibly even from yourself,) in which case you can sort of 'become' gay by accepting what you already are.

What it's like... I can't say. I'm here mostly cuz I'm trans, and that's something that started long before I started feeling attracted to guys or girls (yeah, also bi) and something that wasn't so much a sudden realization but a slow accumulation of things.
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Answer 5

No, You can only 'become' gay after having pretending to have been straight or denying it to yourself....Emotionally it's a disaster...the rate of teen gay suicides is very high...you stand to lose everything...your parents, your friends, your job, your self esteem...plus you are bombarded by people who hate you for what you are....It's not easy for anyone to come out.

Answer 6

IT DOES HAPPEN.

There are many cases of people who, at some point in their lives, have had their sexuality change.

Psychologically, it's absolutely fair to think of it as going from 100% heterosexual to 100% homosexual or vice versa. Even experts in sexual studies cannot explain why it happens, but it does. It's not always a matter of "coming to terms" with who you are.

I know a man who was absolutely straight for 30 years, then met a man he fell in love with and has been a well-adjusted gay man ever since. Many people think he was just kidding himself, but I believe him absolutely.

Sexuality is not as fixed as many people believe.

Answer 7

it's like being a woman. having never been anything else, i have no point of refrence for comparison. i was fine with it till i was about 13 and people started being really mean to me about it. it didn't take long to realize that people mostly just suck and will pick on you for anything. i stood up for myself a lot and when i decided that i'm great just the way i am, those people melted away and now i make no apologies for who i am. people still try to bring me down, but they just wish their girlfriend was hot like me. they will have their judgement. when mine comes, i can say i've been honest, intelligent and adventurous. i have done everything i ever wanted. i never purposefully hurt anyone.
that said, it feels great and the sex is fantastic!!

Answer 8

I think that it's mostly just comming to terms with who you are. Being gay is just like being straight, I suppose, but with different effects if you follow popular culture. i think I realized it at 6th grade, and although at first I was filled with shock and disgust, that I came to understand it better and accept it.

Answer 9

i have dated a few girls who are bi-sexual,straight and been with gay girls who are strictly gay.in my eyes you can become gay if that is your preference and being honest to yourself about your sexuality plays a big part in it.i was bi-sexual for a couple of years but i preferred woman.being gay to me means accepting the person i am inside and out.twelve years ago when i was 19years old society were still coming to terms with it but gradually it was accepted.i realised in my younger years because i was attracted to girls and had heaps of boyfriends who were just friends.i was pretty confused but deep down i knew i was gay.i lied to myself and tried to be straight but it felt wrong so the day came when i admitted i was lesbian and told my family.my dad already knew it was just mum i was scared of.she hated lesbians but mum told me she knew before i knew,she was just waiting for me to tell her.my palms were sweating,i was nervous and scared they wouldn't accept me but my family has unconditional love.i was relieved and got on with my life.its about happiness and living your life they way you want to.

Answer 10

i have never experienced being gay