On Friday, there was an all day conference my daughter attended for 7th & 8th graders. Near the end of the day, my daughter went to pick up her ID card which had fallen to the floor. She was told by a counselor to pick up a cell phone which was near the ID card. My daughter picked up the cell phone and placed it on a table nearby.
At the end of the day, all the girls (70 of them) went to gather their bags to leave. One girl, Nubia, from the 8th grade noticed her phone was missing. The counselor said, "Oh Skylar picked it up". Nubia then went to Skylar, who said she had placed it on the table. But when Nubia went to look, it was gone. Nubia then accused Skylar of stealing the phone, which Skylar denied. At this point, one of the teachers searched my daughter's clothing and bag, which were of course empty. No one apologized to her after this.
This experience has her avoiding school since the 8th graders were nasty and accusatory even after the search. How would you handle this?
2006-11-13 17:00:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would first go to the principal and discuss this with him/her. Your daughter deserves an apology and it should be brought up in class that your daughter did nothing wrong and that the other kids need to leave her alone. This is not the middle ages. Don't tolerate your daughter being treated like that.
2006-11-13 17:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know if there will be an easy way for your daughter to get over this unforgivable thing.
Girls in school no matter what age are just plan CRUEL and MEAN!! Does your daughter know that.?
Giving or trying to give your daughter as much confidence as you would like sometimes can not even help. Having someone be mean to you is never easy to handle.
I would speak to the principal of the school and explain how you found it very uncalled for your daughter to be 'searched' in away with out you being present. And that you would like a formal apology.
If it gets really unhappy for her there, I'm all for changing schools. No body should have to go to any school where they are unhappy, no matter how old they are.
2006-11-14 01:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well 8th graders can be very rough, because they start establishing their groups. I really empathize for your daughter's situation but the only thing I can suggest is to avoid those particular students altogether. And as a concerned parent contact the school's principal and the counselor involved and have a afterschool meeting with them, including, the student the cell phone belong to, your daughter and maybe the guardian of the cell phone student. Good Luck.
2006-11-14 01:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Vivian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her this is a life lesson and learn to deal with it. next time have her hand the phone to someone and make sure they acknowledge it. and what the hell is a 8 grader doing with a dam phone. she can't seem to hang on to it and capable of loosing it. the 8 grader deserves to lose it .have your kid learn from this and learn to cover her *** better. or it will happen again. the peeps in charge should be told off too. they should have checked everyone or called the phone to make it ring. show her she did the right thing and the peeps in charge are dumb and not always do the right thing and have them go in front of the class and anounce it so all can learn from it. DEMAND JUSTICE. one girl accused you daughter does that make her gulity and get the phone back???? Make them pay
2006-11-14 01:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter didnt do it, then she didnt do it. Young girls can be very nasty. Invite the other girl and her parents over and sit down and talk about it. Tell her not to let these girls get to her, they just want to accuse someone. Im so sorry this has happened to you, its a really tough situation.
2006-11-14 01:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by minz_8104 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you.I feel bad for you and your daughter.They had no right to search through her stuff especially if they have no proof that she did it.I suggest homeschooling you don't have to deal with as many stupid people.
2006-11-14 01:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a blackbery phone. Then she can tell her: Hey! Why would I steal your crapy phone. I woulden't want that piece of crap.
2006-11-14 02:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by I like BEER 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋