and more specifically, do you have significant regrets over the relationship?
2006-11-13 16:55:53 · 16 answers · asked by Spugsy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes I did.... I was 19, he was 42. It lasted 11 years. He didn't work regularly, was abusive, unfaithful, and couldn't tell the truth about what he ate for lunch, let alone something important. BUT, he gave me a gorgeous, intelligent, sweet child. So, I have what I have and I am who I am, in part, because of that relationship,...so no, not one single regret.
2006-11-13 17:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did. I've been sexually involved with 3 men and I'm 19 next week. I lost my virginity when I was 16 to a 21 year old after a few months with that man I moved onto another man who was 21 and then eventually I started dating my current boyfriend who was 21 when we first started dating I'd just turned 17 and he was 21 we've been together for very nearly 2 years and have been living together for a year and a half.
I have huge regrets. I wish I'd never slept with the 2 previous guys because it was so obvious they were just taking advantage of me. I wish I'd kept my virginity for my current boyfriend because I know he would've appreciated it enormously.
I knew I was being used but I just didn't care. Thankfully I've got alot more self-worth now and would never put myself in a position to be used by any man ever again.
I am grateful for what I've learned though and overall I'm just glad I learned from mistakes- many people don't.
I think it's disgusting how some men prey on young girls, knowing how vulnerable and naive they can be.
-Elise
2006-11-13 17:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats your definition of older? I am 16 and i was involved with a 19 year old. Regrets? Not really. But if the guy is in college he expects a lot more then highschool guys.
2006-11-13 16:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did when I was 19. I 'thought' I loved him. He was at the end of his divorce and asked me to move in with him. I was with him for 4 months. That whole time he was controlling, expected me to do absolutely everything in the apartment while he worked and expected dinner ready and on the table when he got home, and I didn't always know when that was either. He got mad when I got super sick with a kidney infection and couldn't handle doing anything and couldn't get up. All he wanted was a mother to baby him. I finally left him. I saw him a year later right before I met my ex husband. He was still the same guy, still the same way. I don't know what I ever saw in him! I guess I was just infatuated with someone older (he was 12 years older than me).
2006-11-13 17:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well wen i was 16 my bf was 21 now im 19 and my man is 27 and i hav a kid with him and another 1 on the way and noi dont regret it i think older guys r beta!
2006-11-13 17:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by kirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and why would anyone have regrets being with an older man? I would have gone crazy with irritation had I given my time to 'kids' my age.
2006-11-13 17:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by Craiova 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you get older is a larger age diffrence is more okay but with me between 16-18 the biggest age diffrence was 5 yrs...and no...no regrets. PS. u must be a sick "older" man...
2006-11-13 17:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, any more effective than i might want to submit with my husband having an affair. i'm a one-guy woman, and anticipate him to be a one-woman guy. i do not recognize the way anybody might want to willingly enter right into a courting like that, both, yet perhaps the following the major observe is "willingly".
2016-11-29 03:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I was involved man. It's cool if you know what you are dealing with. I have no regrets.
2006-11-13 17:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I was 18 and he was 30. And yes, I regret that relationship because I was his "rebound" relationship. He kept telling me he loved me (which I knew was BS) and we dated for a while, then he left without saying a word to me. It was all a big mistake.
2006-11-13 17:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Jenna 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋