This person is also "always right" and has to be the best at everything, very judgmental and it has to be "her way or the highway". Also, she is family (an in-law) so I can't just write her off. Any suggestions for getting along with this person that do not involve me just grinning and bearing it would be most appreciated, or is that the only real solution to keep the peace?
2006-11-13 16:45:11 · 11 answers · asked by HCH32 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I know the ideal answer would be some kind of solution that can help you keep the peace, but you can't- at least not by yourself. Instead of holding your feelings inside and letting her ruin your day, be up front with her. Tell her that first of all, she is free to express her opinion whenever she wants, as long as she isn't degrading you, your way of doing things, the way you live, etc. Tell her that you don't mind meaningful suggestions, but that you will no longer tolerate hateful critisim( which probably stems from her need to look and feel important by making others look and feel small). Secondly, tell her that if she doesn't feel that she can treat you with the respect that you deserve when she comes around, then you don't think she needs to be around you anymore. After all, if she thinks you're that bad, then why doesn't she just stay away?
2006-11-13 16:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by doodlebugg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe I am about to embark on this, I have a sister-in-law with horns growing out of her head and a tail to go along with it. We use to be friends years ago. Matter of a fact I am the reason my brother and her are married. I introduced them ( bad mistake). Well here is where it gets bad, my late husband and I had a business in town and we hired my brother to work, because he had gotten hurt and was on a disability, you know they never pay enough and with four kids in the house we agreed to help out. We even caught up their house payments, paid utility bills, etc. Then one day at my Mom's no less she began ragging about something stupid. I tried to ignore her to no avail, I turned to walk away and she began to follow me. I was going outside to cool down. She came around the corner of the hallway and I was about to open the front door (my hand was on the knob). She kept coming towards me and said "You are nothing but a country club B***h". My blood went for 98.6 to 150 in a split second, my right hand came off the door and in an instant it was up against her chin. I have never been so enraged in all my life, I began hitting and punching her as if I were in a fight for my life. I had a daughter that was pregnant at the time come running in to drag me off of her. She could not get me to stop. I was being called Rocky for a while and then I told everyone I was ashamed of this, it was not me and this was not the way I was raised, my parents would not approve of this type of behavior, even though they really don't like her either. Any way I guess what I am trying to say is don't let it bring you down to their level.. Hold your head up and stay true to yourself don't go there.
2006-11-13 17:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would simply state my opinion in a relaxed setting, (take her to lunch) She can respond 1 of 2 ways. neg. or pos., If you present your feelings to her properly and do not attack her then she will at least think about what you have said. Even if her pride will not let her do so publicly. It sounds like this individual has a serious insecurity with herself, in the form of needing to control everything. That is really a sad way to live.
2006-11-14 00:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by cowboycoffee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i would just avoid her on the bad days and only be civil on the good. She either has mental issues or is a coke head if she is sometimes extremely happy then other times it ready to fly off the handle then she may have drug issues and i would just avoid her.
2006-11-13 16:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by noone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...I have a relative like that - the know it all, holier than thou type that obsessively gossips. I see her at holidays and a few get togethers - we are friendly at arm's length, but we have very different views on things. I refuse to get into it with her, bc she craves a good fight. Her annoyances have nothing to do with how I live my life.
2006-11-13 16:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could always resort to psychological warfare. Start messing with her mind and make her think she's losing it. Once she thinks her memory is slipping it'll be much easier to get your way simply by telling her that she already agreed with you.
2006-11-13 16:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by j_n_turner 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ive found that using a Bronze Hammer to slap her around a bit works Real Well and the best part you only have to use it once before the old ***** shuts up.
2006-11-13 17:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by I Kick Babies 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be quite and see the results. Do not attempt anything.
2006-11-13 17:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by R S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chloroform and a rag. You know what to do.
2006-11-13 17:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let them think that they r right ...let those fools be happy with their nonsense arguements
2006-11-13 16:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋