i want to know if there is some thing i can do to no be a lesbian all it does is cause problems any help pleas

Question

i came out of the closet 2 years ago i've all was new i was gay but i dont want to be any more causes to many problems i dont cary what it takes to be straight i tired of hurting because i got really drunk one night and i was told i hit on my best friend and said some stuff i never would and now she unconterobal around me so i'll do any thing not to be gay

Answer 1

Sweetie you have to be who you are...you can't be what people want you to be.. It's a tough lesson..but your friend has to understand that it's not your choice to be gay. You can't change your sexuality so you will have to learn to accept and like who you are...it's not easy...but the end result can be really great..

Answer 2

First of all a sincere decision has to be made that you will do what it takes to get your life back on track. It is apparent that your decisions have not been made carefully, to the point not only have you hurt yourself, but someone else in the process. By this question there appears to be some low self esteem and insecurites going on, as well as some inner pain.

I definitely recommend that you seek God for direction, cleasing and strength. I would also recommend that you change the types of people you associate with, especially if they are negative. Did you know that th people you associte with the most is the person you are likely to become. I would also like to suggest that you read some personal development type of books, that will help you look at yourself, for example Woman Thou art Lose-by Pastor TD Jakes. I also wanna encourage you to seek professional counseling if needed, don't be ashame, get the help or assistance you need. Finally as I bring this to a close seek forgiveness from your friend, forgive yourself, and allow the healing to take place. Be encourage.

Answer 3

If I've been gay all ur life it is not something u can change over night. I tried going straight and I couldn't do it. To be with someone u never will really love completely isn't fair to them. I get depressed and frustrated a lot but it is who I am. All I can do is keep praying to God for strength.And if it is wrong in the religious sense, pray for forgiveness, everyday. I do, because I'm not sure. If ur not religious, u can try to go straight, who knows everybody is different. Maybe u can find someone that truly makes u happy. I'm sorry I can't be more helpful.

Answer 4

First off, you can't just "not be gay." It's part of who you are. You have to learn how to deal with it, accept it and live your life fully and in a healthy way.
Getting drunk and hitting on your best friend is probably not a health way to live.
You're gay, so what? It's not everything in your life, it doesn't consume your entire being, it's only a little part of all the great things that have come to make you "YOU."

Anyone who tells you that you can simply pray way being gay, is not only a fool but a liar. You can pray for strength to avoid drinking because it's not healthy for you, but being gay is neither healthy or unhealthy. Just as being left or right handed. You can't change your sexuality. You can try to deny it but that will ONLY bring you more pain and agony the harder you try to deny the truth.

Answer 5

I don't think it's your fault that you said those things-it was what you felt right? I don't know what "unconterobal" is though...sorry. If she is "uncontrollable" around you meaning she likes you-and you like that, then maybe you could develop something out of it? Or, if you don't like that-then could you tell her you are gay and although you did hit on her that night-it was the booze doing the talking-not you?

As far as not wanting to be gay, I am bisexual and am fighting with only liking women. I still see guys that are very attractive and who have sensible attitudes. But, a beautiful girl turns my head faster. I don't think I could ever not like girls.

I hope I didn't completely miss the point of your question. :) Good luck with whatever path you choose on taking though.

Blessings

Answer 6

First off stop drinking booze. It is poison and no good for you. See what the result of drinking was for you, you lost your best friend.
When you first come out, people will react differently. Over time it seems like a lot of your old friends disappear after you tell them you're gay. Give them time some might come around, others might not. You then see just how good of friends they were.
Life is never easy. It wasn't meant to be. I was so miserable when I denied the fact that I was gay. After I realized that God made me this way, and I intended to life my life to the fullest.
I have been in a happy,loving relationship for 3 years. We are happy and our families and friends see our love for each other.
Be true to yourself. Learn from the rough times in your life.

Answer 7

hon, think about these two quotes: "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" and "Always be yourself, for those who care don't matter, and those who matter don't care." Honestly, your friend doesn't deserve to be your friend if she's getting that riled up, especially if you were drunk! You deserve better. Honestly, you don't have to become straight to be happy. It's a lot harder it seems to be a part of the LGBTQ community, but if you try to change yourself, how happy are you going to be then either?

Answer 8

Don't change who you are for anyone... If you are gay thats just what you are, try to find an area where you can explore this part of your nature responsibly and unrestricted, most major cities have Gay/Lesbian/Bi/Trans gender groups or bars.

Answer 9

First, learn to accept yourself. If your truely a lesbian, then thats how it's going to be regardless of how much you try not to be. Secondly, if you try to repress your true fealings your going to end up in much more misery down the road in life any way.

Answer 10

To deny a truth is to give it force beyond endurance.