What Can I do If I hate My life?

Question

It seems like nothing i do is right. my parents or any other family members dont understand me. Im the smartes one in the family but Im always insulted, they tell me im useless and stupid and I know im not but i feel like I cant live on like this anymore.... I wanna move out or just plain kill myself..... though I cant do either. Im too proud to resort to tears but they just come out now... i feel terrible and no one cares..... what should I do??

Answer 1

You and everyone on earth of the same age, have a case of angst.

Get over it.

Answer 2

Of course many people come to this point in life where they think they feel useless in one way or another. I know that once a person belongs to a family doesn't mean that their interpersonal relations are warm and fuzzy like those in TV or some sitcoms.

The thing is, you have to hang on. Life doesn't always come your way though not everything about it is bad. If you're old enough I guess you can move out, but one of the best ways to deal with this is to find someone whom you can really talk with. It doesn't have to come from your family, but someone whom you could confidently "open" yourself up to. That's what smart people do.

Remember:
You are WAY larger than the things that annoy you. Always.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Dont let it get to you. It is mostly a stage that you go through and the names I am Positive are not how they truly feel about you. Its hard to take but they dont mean what they say and I am also sure that they probably feel bad about themselves for saying those things to you. They just dont/cant tell you that they do. Hang in there and keep your focus on your future and dont take what ANYONE says to heart. When it comes down to it, you are the only one that can make your future bright and have a better ife than what your parents have, and by doing that your children will also have a better life than you had. So, keep your chin up, their are always hard times and people that give you hard times. You just have to decide whether you want to let them win or come out the winner yourself! Remember, what doesnt kill you makes you stronger! And, you cant kill yourself, God may just have a special plan for you, ya know. Good luck!!
P.S. Remember, even the rich and successful hate their lives sometimes.

Answer 4

Hey I care and I'm not no one. Make good friends and hang out with them the most that you can. My mom used to be really hard and me always calling me useless and would get so angry she locked me out of the house repeatedly! Stay away from people who don't treat you well. Why should the insults of people who don't care about you, matter to you? Have faith in yourself and work hard to get out. Probably not too many more years right? if you've made it this far you can definetly go on. Amen.

Answer 5

Hey there.. First of all, think about life itself as a learning experience.. As a Buddhist, when someone insults you, you thank them... A Buddhist does this because when someone does the opposite of something you want such as insulting, it gives you a chance to perfect yourself, to react differently, to see your own selfishness and its effects... basically the other person gives you a chance to observe how you defend yourself when your beliefs are attacked... so you'd thank them, because they helped you see this and perfect yourself in the process...

But anyway, here's one thing to think about, In the world today, we have 6 billion people, and countless animals insects etc... If you live in a 1st world country, its very good to think about how fortunate you are just to be there, compared to Africa, or polluted china, etc.. to know that you have a chance to live a life which will be easier than another persons life can give you a feeling of being more fortunate... think about what someone in Africa or Iraq must be feeling...

What you can do, is stop looking for self praise, and start taking the necessary actions... I think these actions should first be embracing your family with compassion whether or not they insult you or not.. If you hug someone, there's no way they can attack you.. and also this quote is something that makes sense to me, "If you're happy, no worries, if you have problems, why worry?" Hope this helps.. Cheer

Answer 6

As hard as it is, shut these people out. You said yourself that your smart...then your smart enough to know that for whatever reason your family is calling you names, they are WRONG, how sad for them that they are so miserable in their own lives that they have to try and bring yours down also.
Endure with what you have to for however much longer you have too,..Maby it will help you to feel better if you start planning fort the day when you CAN leave. Have everything in order and ready to go!! It will actually give you something to look, forward tool
And, as always,...find a friend in God! It is absolutely amazing how comforting he can be.

Answer 7

hi there you sound to be in a terrible situation. Keep your head up and seek counseling or support from an adult outside of your home. Move out if you can and find family elsewhere.

Don't kill yourself get help there are people out there willing to listen and help. You don't have to accept the negativity from your family get away from them fast. Learn to love yourself and get active and involved in living a more positive, upbeat existence.

if you can't move right away get busy and get active outside of the house;

volunteer and do something for others
get a night job so you are away from family in the evening
visit with friends

good luck and you have the power to make things better

Answer 8

Words can hurt but they still remain only words. If you can manage to accept them without the emotional reaction, you may be surprised at the degree of contentment and accomplishment you can generate within yourself. Do not allow anothers opinion to thwart your desire to be all you can be. Always working to improve your life and your confidence in yourself.. You will save yourself many problems if you can get control this early in life.

If you read a lot of these posts, you will see what happens to those who allow these negatives to accompany them into their adult life and have no idea why they are having the problems they seem to face continuously. They have brought into their adult life, all the garbage that has accumulated for many years.. then don't know how to get rid of it.

Answer 9

Quit worrying about if anyone else cares and change your own life, if you don't like it.

Go make changes and do this to better your life.

Don't let others win against you. Why give them what they want? make your life change for the better. Those against you will then be jealous of you.

Parents have a way of calling their kids stupid or whatever and they don't really mean it. They are just frustrated at the time. Your parents love you no matter what though. If you talk it out with them, you will see.

Answer 10

there was a time when i felt like you do. i can tell you from experience that you need to withstand all of this because there doesn't seem to be any help at hand. i was deprived of so much because i was so different.

i don't know how old you are but fairy tale writers found ways to get messages through to people like us. you've heard of the ugly duckling?...cinderella?...well that came from somebody who either saw or experienced these wondrous events.

I'm not saying believe in fairy tales.....just know that those are each one person's opinion and they're put out there for you to see and if you get something from them .....BONUS!

i tell people about a document that helped me a great deal through the years called "DESIDERATA".
it may be found on the Internet. look it up and see if you get anything from it.

if you a young person, there will be a time when you are in command of your life. in the meantime you'll have to adhere to a lot of older peoples' crap. but between all of the unpleasantness there is fun or good times to be had. look forward in time with the hope that you are able to make memories, fond memories that will stay with you all your life. you really don't want to look back and see all the fun you missed....yeah? be strong my child and all this too shall pass.

Answer 11

Talk to your school counselor or seek some other type of professional help. I'm sorry about your family, but you have to hang in there. Things will change for the better. You just need to believe in yourself and do what you feel is right for you.... try not to pay attention to the insults or criticisms.