a cry for help!!!?

Question

hey i think im just suffering from a brake down! I really need some one to talk to i feelso alone and missunderstood!
i really want to get pregnant really really bad me and my dude have tried every thing possible and the doctors see no problem...well my dude is leaving for the army next month so this is the last month we can try! im just going crazy inside i need some advice or something to keep my head stright i dont think i can handel another month of disappointment!please some one just tell me they understand!i tried the not trying thing but it isnt working and this month we can not just not try..i need help or atleast a friend please!no rude comments

Answer 1

i had my 1st at age 38
problem was i didn't have a partner after a divorce at age 22,
and i had girlfriends for 15 years but no 'wife'
my daughter came along 3 years later
i wanted to be younger to play ball with my son,
i hope i am around to walk my girl down the aisle,
they are my pride and joy
so, i dunno, if it doesn't happen right away, there is always later

Answer 2

I really hope you get pregnant but just in case you do not, I wanted to give you something to think about....

This might not be the right time. Being pregnant is such a sweet time for two people. It is a time for a mother to be pampered. A time when your guy will be thrilled to go out and buy you any food you crave at any hour. The anticipation driving to your first ultrasound together is unforgettable. If it doesn't happen, you may find down the road - it was better to be pregnant while he is with you. Maybe your journey is happening as it should, although not as you would like. Trying to get pregnant is very emotional. The disappointment is overwhelming and a month feels like a year. My heart goes out to you.

Answer 3

Awe It's okay I know excatly how you feel. I've tried all those oh yeah dont think about it...and thats all you do think about..its not like something you can just not focus on anymore. They have as many pregnancy test commericials as they do fast food commericials! Your panicking and you cant panic its only going to make things more stressful. You dont want your man leaving you and the last time he saw you ...you were freaking out. What you need to do is get a cold dish towel run a hot bath and light some candles and lay the dish towel over your eyes and relax. If that doesnt work try going to sleep and sleepign it off.....goodluck to you sweetie if you need someone to talk too...BaBy DuSt on both of us!@

Answer 4

My best advice to you is to marry this soldier boy before he leaves for overseas. Then if you get pregnant, at least your child will be born legitimately. Otherwise, you risk a very unhappy child who'll grow into an adult who won't understand why you rushed to get pregnant knowing the father was going overseas. Do this soon, for the sake of your child. Also, your conception and pregnancy will go much smoother after you are married. You can go to a courthouse tomorrow for a marriage license and to a Justice of the Peace for a marriage certificate. Do it!

Answer 5

it's NOT the last month that you can try...NOT!
he will be coming back, the war is almost over.
so wait a little while and Relax, (sometimes that even helps the ttc)

Answer 6

Hey hon. I really don't have any advice for you cuz we are trying too. But I am always up for talking to new friends. So in short your welcome to IM me sometime.

Answer 7

i understand exactly how u feel. Ive gone throught the same thing. im me at jessica_baglan24 (my yahoo address) and we'll talk.

Answer 8

Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.

2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.

Answer 9

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