2006-11-13 15:51:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have no idea how normal this is honey. It's usually about 30 when we start to recant our past and try to alter our future. It's why we always say "If I knew then what I know now". Life has it's funny way of throwing us curve balls and from time to time things happen that don't fit into the plan that we envision, so things change and as we get through them, we set our hopes/dreams aside for a later date. That later date, after life starts to calm down, unfortunately doesn't come around again until about your age where you are wondering what direction you are suppose to be going in.
If you honestly want to know what to do...do this: Close your eyes. Erase all the monetary issues, the stress, the opinions of others and ask yourself, if it were a perfect world...what would be the one thing you would want to do/accomplish before your time is up? What one thing would make you truly happy? What would give you so much satisfaction and self fulfillment that you wouldn't need anything more?...then visualize what those answers would be and apply them to life. I'm not saying, quit your job to become a bumb, I'm saying go in the direction that your heart wants you to go....when you use your heart, rather than your mind, you will be rarely disappointed in the choices you make.
Life's not easy hon, and it's always changing. I'm 34, my youngest just went into kindergarten and this past August, I was in your shoes. It was almost as if I was sitting there going "hmm, now what?". So I did some soul searching and I knew what I wanted to do and went out and I"m doing it. And the great thing about life, is that we don't have to be perfect...there isn't any choice we make that can't be changed. Each day is a new day to start over if we mess up. Don't be so hard on yourself...we've all been there, and those that haven't yet, someday will be. Keep your chin up honey, you'll figure it out!
2006-11-13 16:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is sooooooooo normal! I have a 29 year old stepson that still doesn't know what to do with his life, but he seems to make it and make plenty of money for him and his wife. I am nearly 42 and am going back to school, again. I had gone to school to become a Medical Receptionist. Didn't work out well once I got it. Went back to get my Legal Secretary Degree. Didn't work out well once I got that. Went to school to train to be a nanny. Had a job doing that for 2 years with a family of 4 very busy kids, ranging from 1-9 (now 3 to 12). I do NOT want to go back to that one after all the work I put into that! That wore me out! I have had many jobs in the past; none really 'fit' me. I am now going back to school for a Bachelor's in Psychology. I have always been interested in this field. This will take me 2 years to complete. If I want to, I can go for my Master's which is another 3-4 years.
Life is what you make of it. Yes, most people will change careers at least 7 times in their lifetimes. You just have to figure out which one you want to start with and go from there. Which one interests you the most right now? What interests do you have that could be incorporated into a career/job? What will make YOU happy, not necessarily everyone else? These are things that only YOU can figure out. As for the rest of your life, figure out if you want a family (spouse, kids, house, etc). If so, then also work towards that.
I know of people that at 50-60 still haven't grown up completely and still don't know what they want to do when they grow up. Some are happy in the jobs/careers/life they have chosen; others aren't. It is all dependent on what they put into it. Life is what you make of it. Live it to the fullest and live it according to how you feel it should be lived. At least, that's the way I feel.
2006-11-14 01:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 28. And have moved from one side of the world to the other, just come out of a 3 year relationship, about to change career, job contract finishing, moving out of flat, maybe having to leave my 'new' country, and start university.
So from my point of view, a definite YES! It's definitely normal not to know what to do with your life at 27. Whether it's desirable, is a different question, but normal, I'm sure.
2006-11-13 23:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank god because im 27 still living at parents house lol and still dont know what to do with my life. Our time will come when we are ready we will be ready in the mean time enjoy life as it comes just dont do anything that will get you arrested and prosicuted bye
2006-11-14 00:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by lilyangelita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
River: What one is to do with his or her life is an on-going process which is subjugated by changes in this world's technology, life's circumstances etc., etc., Consider the fact that knowledge now, DOUBLES every 6 MONTHS !!! What one decides to do with his or her life today, will be off-set by changes which occur, tomorrow ! Also; consider that multillple millions will be changing careers on a general average of up to 7 TIMES in a life span is just unreal !!! Conclusively; there are plenty of people employed today, who will be embarking on some other form of employment, later ... up to 7 times !!! Yes; you are very normal !!!
2006-11-14 00:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I am 28 and I am a teacher. I still don't know if that's what I want to do with my life (don't tell my husband!!), and I went to Graduate School so I could teach. I think the important thing is to jump into something and try it. If you hate it, you can move on. If you are like me, you might not know what you want to do, but you have figured out a few things you don't want to do...so just try something and start to figure it out! Take heart--you are not alone!
2006-11-13 23:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by mandiedq 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lord yes. 27 is the new 18.
2006-11-13 23:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Guelph 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be 50 and still not know what to do with your life. Many people float along through life with mundane jobs because they are secure. The job doesn't make them happy, but other aspects in their lives may make up for it. I can't say I've found my true calling, but I enjoy what I do.
2006-11-13 23:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
define normal??? Don't feel bad. It took me forever to figure it out, but when i did it was amazing. What do you want out of life?? What are your passions?? What would be your ultimate job?? What would be the ultimate relationship?? Where would you want to live?? How do you feel about yourself?? Identify you passions and keep asking questions. We all search and want to be completely happy and you're on your way as long as you keep asking questions and keep searching for the source of your inner self. When you find it and you will, your life will change all for the better and the rest or your life will begin.....
2006-11-14 00:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal not knowing what to do with your life as long as you know how to live each day fully. Goals are important, but will you be happy when you have reached that goal? Or will you become disillusioned by them? My answer would be to have a goal but don't forget to live each day fully and happily. That's the way to live.
2006-11-14 00:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋