Teen pregnancy?

Question

Why is it every time I turn around people are putting down teens having babies? I mean for one how the heck do you even know how they got pregnant? They could of been raped, BC failed or condom broke but most people assume they did it on purpose and they love to assume they drop out and were on welfare.

Some parents on here say if their teen were ever to get pregnant they would force them to abort or do adoption but here is a fun fact, by law if a teen gets pregnant she can make the decision on weather to keep her baby or give it up.

I was 16 when I got pregnant due to BC failing and I new right away I was keeping my baby and the first person in my family to know was my moms sister in law and her brother who is a cop happen to be their and told me by law my parents could do nothing more then kick me out, they had no say in what happened to my baby and that I basically became an adult.

I am now 19 and in college, never been on welfare and drive a $4,000 mustang convertible.

Just because a teen has a baby does not make them any less of a person and mean they are going to join welfare and amount to nothing. People can do anything they put their minds to and for a teen mom it may be harder to achieve things but it is not impossible.

People complain about teen moms on welfare yet it is a proven fact more adults then teens are on welfare.

Garrett, I could very well live on College campus, the college is only about an hour drive from where I live and they do have a place for married couples with kids or single parents, well it is not actually on campus but it is about 5 minutes from it but my parents practically begged me to stay living with them, they live in a 5 bedroom house so their is more then enough room.

I did have help from my sons dad who is in the AF but he never sees our son because when our son was 2 months he got moved to a base in his hometown of Texas which is very far away and he does send $100 a week.

When it comes to who watches my child while I am at school we have a daycare on campus.

Answer 1

Well said.

Answer 2

The reason people say these things isn't because of teen pregnancies like yours. You are in a group of very few. The fact of the matter is most teens get pregnant because they did not use birth control, and as it happens, that's also the reason most adults get pregnant, so teen pregnancies aren't much different are they? A large majority of teen moms DO drop out of high school. I'm sorry that you get tossed into this stereotype, but unfortunately, this will continue for the rest of your life, so either get used to it, or be prepared to fight this point every time the issue comes up. I'm not judging you, and I think that it's a wonderful thing that you have risen above your circumstances and are working toward a better life for you and your baby. And there is nothing wrong with USING welfare, the problem is with ABUSING welfare.

Answer 3

Hello, I was a teen mother of 2. Now I am 23 with a 7 and 8 year old. Yes I am on what you called Welfare but I call it help for right now and yes I did drop out of school. That is not the point to me, My life has not been easy and I have no family but my kids. I have made it this far by myself and when I say this far I mean it. I went back and got my GED and now I have a year until graduation day from college. I graduate with a major in accounting and a minor in business. People just judge others because they don't understand and it is different to them. Don't worry about what people think understand we are the Strong ones because no more than we can handle is put on us. (my spelling is not the best but I hope you have enjoyed my answer)

Answer 4

Congratualtions on making it. I am sorry though that most teens don't succeed as well as you. (Perhaps there are more adults on welfare than teens but teenagers only have 6 years (13-19) and adults have 19-65. ) The concern is with the teen and with the baby they have. Most teens are not ready to be parents and raising a baby is tough even if you have a good spouse, income, and maturity. Yes, there are reasons why teens get pregnant, but some of the reasons are not so good. They want to "trap" their boyfriend, they want somebody to love them (the baby), or they do it because their friends did. Finally the baby is the one who suffers the most if good choices aren't made. This is their ENTIRE life and a teen who isn't ready to sacrifice isn't sufficient to the task. If you are, then you are the exception. I am glad because I know from experience many children whose mothers were teens end up in and out of foster care their whole lives.

Answer 5

You go girl!! I had my first daughter when I was 18 and almost 6 years later Im now married with three children and just earned my associates in applied science to be a registered nurse. I also have never been on welfare and my husband and I have completly raised all of our children without the help of family or the government. For the first few years my husband worked 70 hours a week so I could go to school. But we both agreed that this was our baby and we would raise her, both financially and physically. You sound like your a good mom, keep up the good work!!

Answer 6

I completely agree with you, I was 16 when I first fell pregnant and I was told by everybody to abort, I refused but lost my baby anyway due to miscarriage, not long after I was still on birth control and gell pregnant again, I carried my son to full term and now he is 4. I had a job before I fell pregnant so I didn't drop out of school because I was pregnant, I tried to continue working but found it to hard to leave my son and let someone at daycare tell me what he achieved that day, so I decided to become a stay at home mum.

I was a single mother at 17 living in a house by myself, I was on a parenting payment but I didn't have a baby just to be paid by the goverment. I met a wonderful guy how is now my husband, and we used both condoms and BC and fell pregnant with my daughter. He supported me and my son with no rebate. I am now 21 pregnant with our last baby still a stay at home mum with my husband supporting our family. I have been doing courses as I can't wait to return to the workforse but I will never get this time back so I want to see my children grow up.

I didn't plan to have my daughter but now that I have her I am glad I have had the kids all together so once I start working I can focus on that only and not go back and forth My son will be at school soon and I will be having the other 2 but I know women who have another baby as soon as their first goes to schol just to stay home longer.

I am proud to have my children and I wouldnt change anything for the world, my family will be complete by the age of 21 then I can focus on maintaining it, I don't think age has anything to do with how you are a mother, The older you are doesn't mean you know more it all comes down to your life experances, and whats bwst for you. I don't recommend having children this young but if it happens step up and take responcibility as its your lifes course and everything happens for a reason.

Answer 7

You make a very good point. I totally agree that ppl just live to judge teens. I got pregnant at 15, b/c of the condom failing. I too new right away that I was keeping my baby...I'm now 17, still in school, not on welfare, and the father and I are still together and plan to get married soon.

Answer 8

well it is not actually that people are looking down at those teens who got pregnant at an early age but it is actually looking at a promising future which might be hampered because of the impending responsibility of parenthood. Parenting does not end by giving birth and putting your kid on a daycare center, it is actually taking care of the emotional and intellectual growth of this kid and experience tells us that a teenager is not psychologically and maturely prepared to deal with this issue. I mean if he or she does, there will always be a part of them seeking that young and restless thrill in the later life.
You might be successful now and I congratulate you for that. I do hope you wont be able to forget your responsibility for your kid who is growing up to be like you as his or her model. Sex is a different issue because it is a gift but pregnancy is a different one and one could prevent it from happening thru abstinence or by using a condom. There is nobody to blame though, coz this just happen. But whenever possible, we must minimize if not prevent the occurence of teen pregnancy because it is not doing good to the teenager's fragile body (i mean getting pregnant at an early age), the teenager's maturity (because it rushes things up for them and the teen's life perception.
If sex or having sex (premarital sex) cannot be prevented and it has always havent been, then the focus should be on the prevention of getting pregnant at an early age. Again either abstain from having sex or use condom. Getting pregnant is a mature choice. And as a teenager, are you matured enough to get pregnant?... think about it....

Answer 9

You are in most cases a rare case of teen pregnancies, it is not that we put teens down for having babies, its an statistic fact that teens end up pregnant for numerous reasons and one of them is to be loved, to keep a man, and they want to be grown etc. Then have the nerve to expect there parents to take care of a child they were already taking care of which is there teenager. You see you happened to got pregnant by the fault of birth control which shows you are a responsible teen, and you made an decision to keep your child, but not every teen is in that criteria. So I do give you gratitiude for your achievements and the best of luck to you.

Answer 10

ok, listen up. I totally understand teen girls that take every precaution necessary to avoid pregnancy and it fails and they get pregnant. What i dont understand is the ppl who try to get pregnant at a young age and the girls who dont use any form of birth control. Basically there just asking for a pregnancy. Anyways, honey it doesn't matter what kind of car you drive. Your parents probably bought the car b/c for 1 your in college with a baby. Also, i hate to burst your bubble, but statistics show that teen moms are the majority when it comes to being on welfare. No offence to the teens who were raped, or who tried to prevent pregnany. I totally understand that.

Answer 11

Good for you...but most of the time kids get pregnant to escape their home life or to hang on to a boyfriend. This is a little on the rude side but I hope you continue your education because there are a lot of misspelled words and grammatically misused terms in your rant. Your mother's brother and sister in law are correct however in the content of the law and you are proof of that. Most people rant about it, because most are not as ambitious as you and look to welfare for a living. Keep going to school and make the most of your life. Do it for you and do it for your child. Good luck to you!