effort to come and collect us from the airport.
I am flying very soon and my fiance has been delayed with work and wont be arriving back in the Georgia until a few weeks after I get there. I have asked his parents to come and collect us from the airport but it seems that is too much trouble and they are not going to come. Yes, it is about an hour and a half drive, but thats nothing to the 24+ hours travelling that we are doing to have a family Christmas.
Should I just not bother and have my fiance come to Australia for Christmas or should I just go and play nice so that they can have their son and only grandchild there for the holidays?
Do you think they dont like me maybe? Im white Australian, my fiance and his family are African American. I really didnt think they had a problem with me but actions tend to speak louder than words.
What do you think their problem is? Or am I expecting too much of them to drive to the airport?
2006-11-13 15:47:23 · 10 answers · asked by skattered0077 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes they have a car...three between the two of them. Yes, they have the money for gas. I arrive at 9pm at night not that I have a choice in the matter when flying from Australia. I thought that we had a good relationship over the phone and email, but I am beginning to think otherwise.
2006-11-13 15:57:08 · update #1
yes they are invited to the wedding, Im getting married in the US and not Australia to please them.
2006-11-13 15:58:22 · update #2
If you chose to marry into this family, at least you know what they think of you and their granddaughter. Look at this as good fortune in a way, since you will never make the mistake of depending on them for anything. Better to know the truth now rather than later.
Good Luck and enjoy your visit to Atlanta forget the in-laws and have a great time!!
Issy
2006-11-13 17:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Issy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each to their own but before you get too wound up go and when you arrive perhaps they will have an explanation as to why they were unable to come and pick you up at the airport. It is Christmas and as such is suppose to be a time of giving and so you are by trying your hardest to satisfy everyone and accommodate them by traveling this distance. If however they do make you feel so uncomfortable then you will either need to speak with them or your husband and discuss these emotions. It's sad to think that in 2006 people are still judging others by the colour of their exterior skin and not for the love that they have for one and other within. Best of luck to you, have a Merry Christmas, and lets hope that your in-laws have a change of heart before you arrive in Georgia.
2006-11-13 15:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's a lot of questions. Do they have a car? Do they have enough funds to buy the necessary gas? What time would you arrive in Georgia - in other words will they be at work when you arrive & it would be a hardship for them to lose salary in order to pick you up.
Are there other reasons they may be angry with both you & your husband? Were they invited to your wedding?
Do you have a good relationship with them by phone or mail?
We'd need to know much more than you put in your question to give a thoughtful response.
Good luck.
2006-11-13 15:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would not go. How would you get to their place from the airport? A taxi ride that long would cost a fortune and so would an airport shuttle.
Have your fiance come to Australia instead and forget about his disinterested parents. They don't care about you at all.
2006-11-13 15:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i imagine you may want to be more effective served to attend to go back the following until eventually the fiance is able to p.c.. you up. look in the journey that they needed to have you ever there they could purely say "confident, what time is your plane landing?". perhaps the discussions are to make sparkling purely who is going to be able to flow, Christmas is quite a few weeks away, no human being is familiar with precisely what they're going to be doing so that they could favor to placed a plan mutually. do not get your nostril out of joint yet. enable them to have an afternoon or 2 for plan making formerly you settle on what to do. solid success and luxuriate in our chilly climate.
2016-11-29 03:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think your expecting too much....lets face it they should be all excited about seeing you and their grand daughter....if you catch a cab in australia and you have an hour and half drive to your destination your looking at a cab ride of about $150AUD. i would suggest hiring a car it would be cheaper and that way you can drive back to pick your hubby up as well.....i dont agree on them doing this let your hubby know how unreasonable they are being...but at the end of the day play nice....be thankful that you only have to see them once in a while.....enjoy your trip
2006-11-13 15:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're coming from Australia, and they won't drive 90 minutes to come get you? Don't bother, friend! They sound like losers! Have your fiance come to Australia, and call it a day.....
2006-11-13 15:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Taffi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be expecting too much but you are certainly making a deal about it, which is likely to upset the whole tone of the visit. They may not be able to collect you from the airport.
Go if you want to, don't if you don't. But your daughter needs to know who her grandparents are, at least.
2006-11-13 15:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bart S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for fiance to step up. Tell him you need a ride and his family is not stepping up. He needs to show you--and them--that he is committed to YOU. He sould be able to get a friend, or a cab, or SOMEBODY to get you to where he is. If he won't step up, step back and think it over.
2006-11-13 16:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by Stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this instance I think , no I know I would have to
be the bigger person ,do what ever I had to .
If these people are acting this way to hurt you
don't ever let them know they can . When he
get there they will have to explain .
2006-11-13 15:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋