22 years old pregnant and happy but....?

Question

My partner and I are 22, both have a degree. My boyfriend is doing a post grad and working part time and I'm working full time as a lecturer. Just found out I'm six weeks pregnant. Wasn't on purpose, but we are both happy. My family are highly negative and ruining this exciting time for us with the whole 'you're too young, you've ruined your life and you should have waited until you married' I admit, it isn't ideal to have kids out of wedlock, but surely there are many similar success stories out there?

Answer 1

Sounds like you guys are fine. Tell your folks to get excited about their grand child and make sure that you enjoy becoming a mom. You can't go back so you have to go forward. You've got an education and it sounds like strong family ties so enjoy life, your baby, and your family. You'll be dead in approximately 70 years or less and then this won't matter. In case you didn't know (aparently you haven't had the brith control discussion with mom yet) you won't need to worry about birth control whle your pregnant!

Oh and tell dad you're sorry it only happened once and you'll never do it again :)

Answer 2

I was 21 and engaged to my now-husband when I found out I was 7 weeks pregnant. I am still in school trying to complete my music degree. My parents were very upset at first. My daughter will be 2 years old in a few months, and she has both of my parents so wrapped around her little finger it's ridiculous! My mom even made several 1 AM trips to my house when my daughter was a newborn and I was freaking out that something was wrong with her!! Of course your parents are upset- you know as well as I do that your baby didn't come at a "planned" time. But God has a purpose for this child. My husband and I have a home together, and sure, we have rough times- everyone does- but we are very happy together- and both love our daughter more than anything. My husband has a secure, full-time job w/ an insurance agency. I am a church pianist and I also teach piano out of my home. You're going to have rough days, you're going to be exhausted at times, there will probably be days when you think 'I can't do this'. But that little bundle of joy you have on the way is well worth it. When you're in the delivery room and you see those little eyes blink up at you for the first time- I can't even tell you how that feels. I'll tell you like one of my friends told me when I found out I was pregnant- It may not seem like it now, but everything will work out.

Answer 3

At this stage the situation can go either way. He could ditch you when reality sets in, or he may be a real man and step up to the plate and grow up and be a man.
I'm a little confused about this "partner" situation you talk about, I guess I am an old timer. You either have a bf(with or without being shacked up), a fiancee (ring and date set with deposit) married, or divorced.

Now is the time for you two to get married (forget the big wedding after the baby comes--real bad idea on so many levels)

After you are married you will win the respect of your family.

Forget this garbage.. do what you want, its your life yada yada yada .. these are the things low lifes say so they can feel better about their messed up lives.

Your educated and hopefully have some smarts too (well not in the area of how to use birth control) Get married now and live happily ever after.

Answer 4

I was 18 when I had my first...definetly not the ideal timing! I didn't stay with the "father" cause he didn't want to be with a girl who had a kid (go figure since it was his!) Anyway I ended up with a great guy and we've been together 9.5 years and have a daughter now too. We do just fine. Having a child young while not being married was just a bump in the road...and not one I'd change either. By the way.....22 isn't really all that young for a first child in my opinion and sounds like you two are being productive so just ignore all the naysayers.

Answer 5

I was in the same position as you except I was 21, and had not finished college. I am 29, now married to the father, have 2 more kids, and still no college degree. I am happy with my family, but sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like if I had made different choices. One of my regrets is that my husband and I were never really newlyweds. We always had children. Our parents were angry at first, but once the baby came, they changed. They loved her at first sight. They love all three of them. Don't listen to the negativity, in a few months, they won't be saying anything except how blessed you are to have such a beautiful baby. Good luck to your family on the way.

Answer 6

I had my first at 22 yrs old. We had been married for under a year when we found out we were preggo. It's not been that bad.

he finished getting his degree and now holds a great and stable job....and I am going to go back to school eventually. It's been really nice to have the baby this young because it's so much easier on your body and younger women have a much better shot and getting our bodies back into great shape then older women do. ;-)

Your families will probably get over their ill-will when they hold the baby. ;-) Don't worry about it. I'm so happy for you. You are going to LOVE being a mom! It's AWESOME!!

Congratulations!

Answer 7

There are lots of success stories out there. Good that you guys are staying in school. If you are both happy, hey, that is all that counts, hon. Avoid your family. They'll come around, I promise, but don't chase them. In your place with all the flack they are giving you, doubt that I would contact them for a long while. You can be sure that they will call you, however, and ask how things are. Then, and only then should you again share. They have a problem, you guys don't. Enjoy you degrees, your education, your prospects, and your new coming baby!!!!!!

Answer 8

I think its wonderful, congratulations. I am 22 and have been with my partner for 5 years, no kids yet thankfully but they wouldn't be an unwelcome entry into our lives. We have been enggaged for 2 years and more than likely will get married later when we can afford it. To have a degree each and jobs is a perfect beginning and a child in your early twenties is not uncommon. There are many success stories out there and your family should shut up and enjoy becoming grandparents. Thats probably their issues anyway they feel old lol. Good luck to both of you!

Answer 9

I got pregnant when I was 17 and had my son when i was 18 (3 weeks before my high school graduation). I obviously didn't plan on getting pregnant and my boyfriend (the dad) and his parents wanted me to have an abortion, which i said no to because I don't believe in abortions, so i ended up breaking up with him. I started working hard at school and preparing myself and everything ellse for my baby. My parents were very supportive unlike yours so it helped. I ended up graduating top of my class and got a scholarship to college. I do not ever think i chose wrong by having him. My son helped me in life. I wasnt going to go to college but because of him i did and met the man of my dreams. My son is the light of my life and I would never change anything. You sound like you and your guy have everything n line and having a baby out of wedlock is not nesicarrily bad, as long as you are responsable and ready to take on the huge responsibility. Your parents will except your choice to have the baby soon and will love the little one and never be able to imagine there life without there new grandkid. Parents want the best for there kids and sometimes don't realize how strong they are and can hit a bump but still be successful (in there career and as a parent) In my opinon being a parent is the most rewarding and wonderful job there is and becoming one does not ruin your life. Your parents will become supportive as soon as you talk to them and tell them how much your baby already means to you and that you are happy. and that should change there minds soon.
the want you to be happy and when they see that being pregnant tmakes you happy they will be too. Sorry its not much help but being pregnant is a wonderful experience and You need to just enjoy it and be happy. Congrats.

Answer 10

I am happy for you...just ignore others and prove to them that you can be a good mother wife and a career woman..
Cos I know I am..(given birth 1st child at 16 and have 3 now and all are well brought up, I work, raise kids and a wife to my hubby) all 3 in 1..
Its no easy task but its a challenge.
After 24yrs of married still doing the same and I am happy and satisfied!
(FYI my 1st child is out of wedlock too and married to the same man)