Ex and still Friends?

Question

My ex dumped me a month ago through email. She dumped me right after she started going through therapy. Her father passed away 4 months ago and she has very low self esteem. She siad she was really sorry and she thought we had good potential, but the timing of everything sucked because of her. She asked me not to hate her and said she hoped we could still talk and be friends cuz thats all she could handle at the time. I apologized and said I needed time to get over her and get to a friend level. I really cared about her when she dumped me. Last week she sent me an email basically asking me how I was doing, saying there was no need to apologize, saying she hoped i was doing well, and told me to drop her a line whenever. So tonight I get in a car accident. at 7pm. I had no idea what to do or who to call. I txt her and tell her that I was just in an accident and don't know what to do. She never replies. So should I be mad and does she want to be friends?

Answer 1

Maybe she hasn't gotten the txt msgs yet. She may or may not contact you back so I would suggest not to expect anything from her.

Answer 2

There is no such thing as being friends with your ex, if there is...its quite rare. A relationship can't go from C to B, Its ABC etc. you already reached a higher state than friendship why backslide. Now is the time when you need to selfish and cultivate who you are. I think you need a longer break from her, and I mean NO contact. Seems like she wants to have her cake and eat it. Not to say she's a bad person. But she might get used to snaping her fingers and there you are. Know your worth and she will too. Your'e probably not over her yet, breakups are hard especially being the dumpee. Don't allow pity for other people to get in the way of your self development. You have been through tough things too. Don't don't be mad, but don't be anything to her either, instead give that energy to yourself and the other special people in your life.

Answer 3

First of all, check with her, whether she got your text message. do not jump to conclusions before listening to her side also.

secondly from your statement "I txt her " y in the world would u send a TEXT MESSAGE, during accident. y cant u call?

thirdly I dont think it is a good idea to be friends with your ex. It might get very complicated. Life is too short (as you know) to get entangled in these extra, unwanted, un called for, complications.

fourthly if you decide to get seperated from her, then tell her in the most nicest way possible. Remember she is under great trauma (her father's death, losing her boyfriend, going through therapy), so be nice to her, but dont sacrifice your precious part of life for that.

finally if you still have good feelings for her, then wait, wait until she recovers fully from her trauma. The break up and the weird actions might be because of that. After she fully regains her self, then you will know what she really thinks. After all she needs your support during crisis.

Answer 4

I went through something similar about three months ago. My girlfriend and I after 4 years of dating decided to take a break. We ended it on "good terms" because the potential to get back together was there. After a couple months, it was clear we weren't on a break, because we were still talking a lot and our relationship was the talk of every phone convo. I decided to not talk to her for awhile. She's called me 4 times in the past two weeks. I say you cut her off from you for awhile. You will be amazed at how she will come back.

Answer 5

Well in the first off personal opinion u messed up left her when she ahd trama in her life although she broke up with u she still needed that comfort and scurity and that caring nature its normal for a girl yet anyone not to want to be alone in a time of losing a loved one.. I mean you didnt call her or anything and that email was her cry for u to talk to her and u didnt answer her her not answering ur txt is kinda like what u did to her jsut up left and no conversation.. i went through a relationship with my girl for 5 years here in december breaking up getting back together i love her to death i would do nething for her but when we broke up i never left ehr side stop talking to ehr i fought for her cause i wanted it if u wanted it that bad ud fight not make it very noticible but be present in her life who her u care and that u want to be with her and help her through the tuff times cant jsut leave em

Answer 6

Don't be mad! No need for that! She loves you still but needs time to heal from loosing her father...as a male figure you came close to the deal (if u know what I mean) ...I lost my father when I was 12. I can understand her pain...she loves u....and honestly, I KNOW she is hoping ur okay....she's only human hun, no need to be hard on her...keep happy!! There's a meaning for everything in life! Keep positive! Ciao!

Answer 7

I am hoping she just hasn't gotten the text message yet. But if there is any way to find out if she has, then find out! If she got that (pretty urgent, I'd say!) message from you and ignored you? Not very good friend material, in my opinion.

Hope you recover ok from the accident, and good luck!

Answer 8

i would be mad...but what if she never got the txt? then it would be ok and i would feel stupid for being mad... but i would be very upset if she said all that and then didnt txt u back after u got in an accident...gud luck tho! hope u are ok!

Answer 9

it is quite possible that her phone was not on...but it is also very probable that she just didn't answer cuz she's trying to "get over you" too...when she sees her phone light up with your name on it, she remembers that you both are trying to get over each other...and she pri does want to be friends, but is not completely ready to have a conversation with you yet...

Answer 10

its not really possible for ex's to be friends since they have been more and if it were me yes i would be mad because she should have called you back to see if you were ok