I haven't always been this shy, and it seems like I have no communication skills. Whenever I try to talk to a person I have just met or barely know I can't say the right words. Something more like mmm, uhh, and hmm comes out. Like I said, it was always this way. This only started developing a couple years ago.
2006-11-13 15:26:56 · 15 answers · asked by Errny 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
*like I said it wasn't...*
oops sorry typo
2006-11-13 15:28:38 · update #1
Anxiety attacks. Just keep this in mind, the people you are meeting are probably struggling to find the right words to say too. The only way to get over your fear is to face it. I suggest making small talk when ever an opportunity arrives. It will be very hard at first but eventually you'll get use to it. It worked for me.
2006-11-13 15:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by dumbblond 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) You're not going to be able to just make yourself less shy. It's not that easy. This is a personality transformation and you have to realize that to a certain extent this is who you are.
2) Try holding conversations more and more with cashiers. Learn how to say hello and ask any questions--how are you, how has your day gone, etc.
3) Try joining a Bible study/evening college class/women or men's group--get involved with people who will eventually become your friend. Get acquinted with introducing yourself in new situations and keeping the friendship.
4) Whenever you feel like you are having problems coming up with things to say, talk about the weather. It sound corny, but you always know the weather.
5) Look at yourself--what has caused you to become so socially isolated? Once you figure this out, you can REALLY tackle the problem at hand. Shyness doesn't JUST pop up. You need to look back and see what happened.
6) Talk to yourself in the mirror. Come up with a list of 30 questions/topics you enjoy talking about, and ask your mirrored self those questions. Get accustomed to coming up with answers.
7) Get a tape recorder and tape record yourself every time you go out. You'll hear how awkward you really sound. Don't be afraid to admit this. Eventually you'll get to the point where you can leave the recorder at home. If you want, tape questions in the tape recorder and hold a conversation with yourself.
2006-11-13 15:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahahah @ da uda ???z but i like the beer answer ahahah......Alcohol is a very sure way to temporarily lose your shyness ahaha....um but i to sumtimes feel shy as well...but i dont have a problem talking to people i kan interact with others but it kan take a while to feel comfortable sumtimes and this is when the shyness sets in... but that is the main point i think, feeling comfortable with and around others...delibrately placing yourself out of your comfort zone is a good way...but the main thing is that you must have confidence and a good standard of self esteem otherwise you are always goin to feel shy and out of place n studdering will no doubt happen...feel good in who you are as a person then all the rest will follow then youll see everything else fade.....shame what a long *** msg heawl(Dr Phil wannabe ahahah)
2006-11-13 15:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by Krazi G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to people that are shy like you, and seem to be stumped in the same situation. Ask them there name, and start asking questions that will more probably could start a good conversation.
2006-11-13 15:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not something you lose. It's something you learn to get past through experience. Throw yourself into more social occasions and know that even if you don't come across as well as you'd like, there will be plenty of other chances to do so.
2006-11-13 15:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Empy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was shy when I was young. However, as you grew up & achieve something, you become confident enough that you overcome it. I am a physician & if I will be shy, I wont have any patients. Most patients wants their doctor to discuss alot about their illness.
2006-11-13 16:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same trouble. just make yourself relax. you aren't going to put anyone out if you don't come off with the exact answer or response instantly. when someone addresses you just take a second and think about what they said then respond. good luck!
2006-11-13 15:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sarafinna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alchohol is a temporary way, though should not be a requirement. My advice start trying to be more social with friends, and then after awhile try it with people whom you dont no, but dont see as
2006-11-13 15:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are either introverts or extroverts by nature. you sound more of an introvert, that is, someone who can be alone in a crowd and feel fine. extroverts have to interact with others, no matter what, just to be part of the action.
2006-11-13 15:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by de bossy one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to yourself a lot. Go out more. Drink more.
2006-11-13 15:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋