I don't trust condoms!!?

Question

Whenever I have sex with condoms, I don't feel the sex. Sometimes it will slip out. I really prefer the sex without condom but I can't do it unless I am ready for it.

Is there a way where I can ask my girl friend to take birth control instead of me.
If she can, what are the options she has?
Will she be able enjoy sex?
What are the side effects, if there are any?

Answer 1

This is a hard question to answer here on Answers because there's so much information but I'll try to give you a short version.
I personally don't believe that sex with a condom doesn't feel as good but, a lot of people have that opinion. You can buy lambskin condoms which supposedly feel more natural but they are very expensive and less effective at protecting against STD's. You can also use female condoms but again, they are expensive, less effective and in general, harder to use. You shouldn't have sex without any kind of barrier method unless you are absolutely sure that neither partner has an STD. Remember you can have an STD and not even know it so, I would suggest that you and your partner each get an STD test before you stop using barrier methods.
I would bring this issue up with your girlfriend in a respectful manner. There are a lot of options for hormonal birth control (the types of birth control that women take) but it's important to know that hormonal methods (the pill, the patch, the ring and the shot) only prevent pregnancy - they don't offer any protection against STDs. The pill is the most common method of hormonal birth control. When a woman's on the pill she takes three weeks of hormone pills everyday at the same time everyday and then takes a sugar pill during the fourth week, which is when she gets her period. The pills contain hormones that keep her from ovulating and releasing an egg, they contain the same hormones as the path, the ring and the shot. The path is literally a patch that a woman attaches to her skin in a specific place (shoulder, lower back etc), the patch releases hormones through the skin. The ring is a plastic ring that a woman inserts into her vagina and it releases hormones directly into her body. The shot is administered by a doctor every three months and again, it contains the same hormones as the other methods. Your girlfriend can still enjoy sex on hormonal birth control. The side effects are normally mild but they depend on the method, some methods work better than others for different women, it's up to the individual woman to figure out what works best for her.
All hormonal birth control methods require a prescription.

To recap: Look into lambskin condoms or the female condom, make sure you and your partner are STD-free before you stop using condoms. Remember hormonal birth control methods don't protect against STDS. Talk to your girlfriend in a nice, respectful way about hormonal birth control. If she wants to go on a hormonal method she should make an appointment with her doctor, gynecologist or visit a clinic like Planned Parenthood, they'll help her choose the method that's best for her.

Answer 2

Condoms are not just for the protection of safe sex but it will stop STD's, been on birth control does not effect sexual intercourse.

There are a few different options but she will need to see her doctor to be advises on whats best for her, theire is the pill, with the pill it take up to 2 months to be in her system and it has to be taken at the same time everyday, miss a pill and ther is a chance of pregnancy, so you can't have unprotected sex until sure she is on the corrected pill for her, it can take many trys to find the right pill all trying for 2 months min, it is possible to fall pregnant on the pill, always better to be both on something to avoid unplanned pregnancy.

There is the needle, which is a shot once a month or every 3 months. Or there is an implant that goes in her arm.

With all medication there are side effects and so putting anything into your body you will have some sort of side effect, it all depends on type of birth control she chooses and it effects everyone differently.

Condoms are much easier but if she is on birth control and condoms are used it reduces chances of pregnancy. as nothing is 100%. good luck

Answer 3

I feel for you my friend, I really do.

Taking the pill has vasrious side effects such as headaches weight gain, nausea the list goes on. The chances you will get pregnant is very minimal like 1%.

There are other things like this capsual you can get in your arm (her arm not yours) which lasts 3 years and stops her periods which is pretty good, get a good doctor to put it in as there are reported cases of dodgy doctors putting them in and having them move from the arm (very rare I might add) but it has happened.

There are also diaphragms a doctor can fit her for as well but are awkward and need to be inserted well before sex.

The point is all forms of contraception are risky in some small way. My partner uses the pill at the moment and that works for her but not all women like it. I will attest to the fact that sex with no condom is 100% better though both for you and her. Just remember to use lubricant for ease.

I suggest you put her mind at ease by both gettting blood tests and get checked for STDs before start intercourse with no condom on as well, and most important of all, staying faithful to her. Trust is essential.

The only real way to broach the topic with her though is to sit down and have an adult conversation with her and say what you both feel on the subject and come up with a solution together.

Answer 4

If you are only trying to prevent pregnancy there are other forms of birthcontrol, if you are trying to avoid STDs condoms are it. Your problem is the condomes you are usuing do not fit or you are not putting them on correctly. Birthcontrol for women can be harmful in the long run but most women can take it for a while with few side effects, every woman is different.

Answer 5

Birth controle is not completly effective i have gotten my gf pregnant while she was on the pill so i mean no protection is good there is always that chance.. also your gf can still get prego from precum also so becareful.. you may want to try female condoms its a condom that the girl inserts inside her insead of you wearing it she does

Answer 6

Man, you should back off. There is no way to force your girlfriend to take birth control, and you should learn to like condoms instead.

Answer 7

Not anymore!! We used condoms as our major start manage for six months and nine months after that I gave start to our daughter. We now do a duo variety of factor and use each the tablet and a condom. :)

Answer 8

Get a clue. Practice sex within marriage and stop using women. Try being a real man, if you can. I wouldn't allow you to go out with any female members of my family.

Answer 9

You can ask her, but you can get pregnent on the pill. Try depro, (aka the shot) but do not let her use the orthro eva patch. Nasty side effects.

Good luck,

Kassandra

Answer 10

just ask her what she would want to do but until you are completly ready for the risk have safe sex