2006-11-13 15:12:38 · 23 answers · asked by pcgal 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Ask your doctor or clergyman about grief counseling. Please.
2006-11-13 15:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so sorry for your loss.
One idea I've read about is taking a lock of your daughter's hair and keeping it in a locket you can wear on a chain. You can find a locket just about anywhere, but the site below deals specifically in memorials for stillborn children, and probably has some ideas we (the responders) have not thought of.
One more note...do whatever feels right for you. Some people like to take photos, even if it's after the baby has passed on, just so they have that for themselves. If that feels right, do it. Most people like to name their baby; if that is what you wish to do (or not), don't let other people discourage you frm that. This is YOUR baby, and you are allowed to deal with your grief however you wish to.
I hope you find peace and comfort.
2006-11-14 08:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by katheek77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for your loss. My best friend has gone through this recently, and it really is hard to say the right thing, and there really isn't. Just remember how it was when you were carrying her, did the hospital take pictures (may sound morbid to some, but helps the mother out a lot) take footprints, a lock of hair ? Just keep on looking at things that were meant for her. Even if you don't have any of these, I really don't think you'll ever forget her.
2006-11-13 23:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Liandrew00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your loss. Some catalogs have plaques that you can buy with a poem about the loss of a loved one, angel statutes, you can remember her as your little angel. Pictures of baby angels. I am sure that you will never forget the little one who was here for just a moment. And when you have other children, make sure to talk about her to them, let them know they have an older sister, that is in heaven.
2006-11-13 23:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lilat180 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the nurses in the hospital will take a picture of your baby in case you ask later. I would definately inquire about this just in case. They usually take them so they look like they are sleeping, but often parents don't think to do that at the time and then ask later. So some hospitals have this service, but not all.
2006-11-15 02:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I want to say that I am very sorry for the loss of your baby and I commend you for seeking some suggestions to help remember her.
I would suggest several ideas
plant a tree in her honor
memorial service
memorial jewelry www.myforeverchild.com
donation in child's honor
2006-11-13 23:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetness2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even answer without 1st saying that I will lift you and yours in prayer. May God keep you and comfort you during this time...
I would definitely get a frame engraved with her name and birth date and put one of her sonogram photos in the frame. If you are able, a copy of her foot and hand print would be nice.
Having a blanket or pillow embroidered with her name and birthday would be a beautiful keepsake. Planting a tree in her memory, doing a garden in her memory, a scholarship in her name, etc.
Again, I will pray for you...
2006-11-14 00:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can do this idea it realy helped my sister_law with her last still birth of a set of twins.My mother and i talk to my sis inlaw when it gets to her she gets realy depressed pushes every one away from her,shuts down i allso told her she should attend support goup with thoses who been there where she is now they have them in all hospitals support personal.Also u can go to the mall or a store where they do ingraveing on neckchains or braclets and have ur babies name/date of her birth/and like a chinese signe ingraved on it that specializes love and never forgotten and always wear it close to u. wish u luck and best of health.
2006-11-14 00:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by melanie o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy is that sad! You are going through a lot!
I would find the earliest and most treasured moments in celebrating the conception. Those clothes you bought for her or anything. Perhaps the evening you thought she was conceived...a special totem. I'd be looking for anything too! Any particular test they did while she was in utero that is directly connected to her would do it for me. I'd frame it and keep it next to my heart.
So sorry to hear about that. Best wishes...and my condolences.
2006-11-13 23:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I agree with an earlier post; about making a scrapbook with her ultrasounds in.
Maybe you could have a plaque made for her that you could go visit & talk to if you want to.
If you were able to dress her in clothes, keep them.
You should definitely get counselling if you're not receiving it already.
Again I'm sorry to hear that, no one should have to go through that.
2006-11-14 07:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of all things, do remember to hug her. it may sound silly but you'll be glad that you've done it when you look back in years to come. it'll be nice to buy a box to put all the things you've bought for her, maybe you can also put in the identity tag from the hospital (if there is). if you want, do take a picture of her. God bless.
2006-11-13 23:43:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋