Why would a man stop holding hands, stop showing affection by sitting on the couch w his arm around you= and act like you are not there- unless he wants something? ANd tell his sister he had picked up where he left off- his previous wife died- and his sister told him that he has got to be kidding- I have mentioned the change and does not seem to care- I feel very neglected- he golfs a lot and works very part time- any suggestions-?? I am starved for affection-he is always off doing something to help someone else= D
2006-11-13 14:38:11 · 11 answers · asked by Debby B 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Married man, here.
Unfortunately, you have married a child. He is emotionally challenged, and that's being polite.
You would be best served to find an attorney and get this marriage over with. An annulment may be a possibility if you are still within the first few months of the marriage.
No woman deserves to be treated like this. It is abusive and cruel. There are better men out there. It's not your fault. Move on.
2006-11-13 14:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy - obviously - but I will add this.
Sounds like he managed to score the prize. He got what he wanted - a wife. Now he feels he doesn't need to do anything anymore. This is normal behaviour for some people. They work at getting the relationship but not keeping it. And if he says he picked up where he left off - then he must have been doing the same with his previous wife - the no contact.
You need to talk to him about how you are feeling, tell him that you are not his previous wife, and tell him that unless he changes, you will leave.
2006-11-13 22:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anna K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His mind must be procupied with something else.
Do nice things for him to prove your love, devotion, support and faithfulness to him, expecting nothing in return. he will eventually pull out of his rough time and come back to you. Just don't give up on him.
Try reading "Men Are From Mars and Women are From Venus" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husband's". Both excellent books that should help you a great deal.
Good luck!
PS Sorry I'm not a married man! Just thought this would benefit you.
2006-11-13 22:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all,it sounds like your out numbered.You have to think that his sister will always be on his side because they are family.Don't get wrapped up in the he said she said S@#t!It's not your fault she's dead ,so don't let him take it out on you.Don't ever let him compare you to anyone else,and if he does.You need to put a stop to it right away!Let him know that he's not the same person that you married and that you are very disappointed with the decision that you made if thing don't change.There are consequences to every action.Good luck
2006-11-13 23:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by charles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont say how long youve been married but i presume not very long to a husband with emotional baggage. I would say you need to discuss this with him and be prepared to deal with things as they are or move on within a few months. Only you will know within 3 months if he can change from what he is right now to what he can and should be. Best of luck...sounds like hes self absorbed to me.
2006-11-14 00:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well im not legally married but been with my wife for years, he may have gotten comforable with you, and you guys may have lost the spark in your relationship, so you will need to try different things, explore things, either behind closed doors or out there. He does love you, if he didn't he wouldn't return home to you, and its a typical guy thing. Don't feel offended by his behaivor, try different things. He may feel that he done his job and snagged himself a women that he's happy with. My buddy once said to me once you can fart around your girlfriend without being ashamed, she has became your wife.
2006-11-13 22:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by markie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although you love him you are not his previous wife and you have different needs and desires than she did. Let him know this. Be yourself.
His actions do not mean he is cheating but set in the ways he had with his previous.
2006-11-13 22:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by googlemeatyahoo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a classic case of the hubby cheating. but i really don't mean to get you insecure...yet. sit down and talk to you him. if he really is a man he will listen to you, if not he is pigheaded and you are better off w/o him. yeah, you might love him, but in a marriage the love has to be equal or it will have no foundation.
2006-11-13 22:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you have not done anything wrong, he is being a jerk. He has lost his love and interest in you. time to divorce him.
2006-11-14 10:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no all of us are like that
2006-11-13 22:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋