In a public situation, either with a group of friends or in a public place, is it appropriate to confront your significant other when they have done something to hurt you? Or is it best to wait when the two of you are in private?
2006-11-13 14:33:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Definately in Private. However, if she says something so disrespectful in front of people, speakup and say "Honey, can i speak to you in the bathroom/bedroom/outside" and then politely excuse yourselves. At least this way they don't think you're a doormat.
2006-11-13 14:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole world doesn't need to hear the two of you going for each others throat, at the same time negative vibes and sharp tones and comments are easily picked up by others. I suggest taking it to a private area for an adult discussion as to why he upset you and what he should now do or maybe should have done. Arguing is pointless anyway, it achieves nothing but anger and resentment toward you spouse which is not needed in a relationship. Confront by all means, get angry by all means, but do so in a constructive manner so as not to hurt anyone any further.
2006-11-13 14:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by hunter_razac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you've had to drink. I've been taught to never confront anybody in public--always take them aside and talk about it in private. Two wrongs don't make a right. Having a confrontation in public is not a good thing, If you're significant other is hurting you in public, kick his *** to the curb and find someone who will treat you right. You don't have to take sheat from anyone.
2006-11-13 14:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever confront yr significant other in front of others whether it is in public or at home in front of family memebrs or friends. Get him/her to a place which u both can talk in private. Confronting in front of others will let the other feel embrassed and insulted. Then matters will not get solve.
2006-11-13 14:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two wrong don't make a right best to wait in public and not humiliate him or make him feel small. He will get the hint your pissed off by your look or coldness. The rest can wait till your in private area in a car or at home.
Don't make him feel small in front of others even though he wasn't respectful to you could be it went over his head and he diddn't realize it bothered you that much. but either way not a good scene to make one standing there in front of others.
Keep that behind closed doors.
2006-11-13 21:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely in private.
If you confront him in public, it will be a very public scene and you may be seen as the horrible person having a go at him over something little or nothing (people will twist things around).
2006-11-13 14:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand it is not always possible to wait until you are at home, but TRY to wait until you are alone. If you are with friends try to pull him aside, take a walk, something.
There was a situation in my life where my 2 friends were fighting - I jumped in the fight on the Girl's side and eventually my husband jumped in the fight on the girl's side as well. I haven't seen that couple since. That guy was my husband's childhood best friend. (That being said though he's changed alot and was saying horrible things about his wife and women.) Still, I regret that, and I bet they sure regret fighting in front of us.
2006-11-13 15:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only time I ever did was six months into my marriage. We were out with friends, and my wife was not going to get her way about something, because it would have seriously caused an inconvenience for the others who were with us. I tried to stay calm and reason with her, but, she started to throw a fit, and that set me off. I did let her know that we were not going to spoil the day for the four other people who were with us, and, in no uncertain terms, that I did not appreciate her provoking me to an argument in front of them. She calmed down and was rational for the rest of our outing, and we've never had another scene in public since.
2006-11-13 14:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you confront someone in public, it always makes you look like the ignorant one. I think it's best to take it up in private.
2006-11-13 14:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, when I was younger I would have confronted him, but now that I am older it would have to be something that really stuck a nerve for me to snap on him...Such as being disrespectful...If I feel as if I have been disrespected, then I would let him know right then and there that I am pissed. If he continues to the third strike, then I would turn into a whole different person by the name of "Evelina"...lol...lol. Then everyone would run....
2006-11-13 14:43:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋