My ex had a problem with being faithful in our marriage we have a son together My ex got involved with man for 6 months He was the reason for me to finally loose my love for her. I wasn't expecting to meet another girl nor be involve again However my girlfriend is like my soul-mate she is awesome inside and out! obvious out of respect I divorce my wife which now broke-up with her b/f
she keeps to herself on her emotions but states on still having feelings for me and at this point she isn't ready on meeting my g/f. I now live with my g/f and i have my son 3 days a week, My g/f has a major problem as to why she can't be around with me when i get my son at the ex's house
I feel that i divorce my wife and i live with my g/f should be enough reason to trust me! On the other hand i have compassion
towards my ex's feelings on not yet ready to meet my g/f
Am i wrong? or is my g/f wrong for not having patience?
What is the solution to this problem?
2006-11-13 14:22:48 · 8 answers · asked by FLEXizme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sit down with your girl friend and explain that your ex wife has realized that she still has feelings for you although you do not have feelings for her any longer... explain that you do not want to cause your exwife any more pain than she has all ready caused herself... tell her that you would respect her feelings in the same situation... ask her to be patient for a while longer
your girl friend is probably still very unsure of herself in this relationship even though you co habitate... do your best to re assure her of your affections
if this problem persists you might also try sitting down with your ex wife and explaining that your girl friend is not happy with the situation and ask her if she will consent to one meeting... for a few minutes only
you are being pulled in two different directions by the women in your life... you seem to be handling the situation well... trying to be considerate of both women's feelings... in this case one of your ladies will have to give... or you will have to take matters into your own hands and force one of them to back down... but be very careful if you choose to do that... you may cause hard feelings in someone
2006-11-13 14:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by auntbea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is wrong. It is essential that you maintain a respectful relationship with your ex wife for the sake of your son. If she does not feel ready to meet your girlfriend, you should humor her simply to be diplomatic. If your girlfriend cannot be understanding of this, the question is, does she really have compassion for your son and respect that your child comes first in your life, or is she just trying to muscle her way in and erase your past? Unfortunately there may not be a solution or compromise. You will need to put your foot down in this and any other problem areas regarding your son, even if it causes problems in your relationship or ends your relationship. Your first priority is to be a good Dad, even if it ticks your girlfriend off. You cannot be a good Dad if you cause drama and hostility at your ex's house when you pick your boy up.
2006-11-13 22:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, when you love someone you cant just stop loving them on the drop of a dime, but she cheated on you and once a cheater always a cheater. So your ex needs to get over the fact that you moved on, although constantly fighting wouldn't be a good solution either. Your gf also needs to understand that you need time with your son, but maybe you should let your son meet your gf, after all your ex will find out eventually. Its better to face the situation head on that keep putting it off, it will only get worse. So i'd say introduce them,,,,Good Luck hope everything works out.
2006-11-13 22:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by need4speed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex needs to concern herself about your and her son and not get involved in your personal life. Pick up your son at a park or somewhere like that.
2006-11-13 22:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend needs to understand how your ex feels, she should respect the fact that your ex does not want to meet her.
2006-11-13 22:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the EX needs to get over whatever she is feeling...If you and your girlfriend are serious the ex needs to accept this....your girlfriend will be a part of this boys life...
need to tell EX and girlfriend...this isn't about them...is is about your son...they need both get pass the difference and do what is best...for his sake...
i would talk to a counselor
2006-11-13 22:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your girlfriend has to realize being w someone who has kids is hard. i think your girlfriend should be a little more patient. maybe you could set up a pick up at a mutual place so that she could come. i have a kid and my ex has a girlfriend i don't want her at my house!!
2006-11-13 22:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by msvirgo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your ex cheated on you, you are none of her business ( i am a female myself) no one can tell you how to live your life, she should have thought about her actions before she cheated on you. if she wasnt happy, then she should have spoke up or divorced you.
2006-11-13 22:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋