My ex had a problem with being faithful in our marriage we have a son together My ex got involved with man for 6 months He was the reason for me to finally loose my love for her. I wasn't expecting to meet another girl nor be involve again However my girlfriend is like my soul-mate she is awesome inside and out! obvious out of respect I divorce my wife which now broke-up with her b/f
she keeps to herself on her emotions but states on still having feelings for me and at this point she isn't ready on meeting my g/f. I now live with my g/f and i have my son 3 days a week, My g/f has a major problem as to why she can't be around with me when i get my son at the ex's house
I feel that i divorce my wife and i live with my g/f should be enough reason to trust me! On the other hand i have compassion
towards my ex's feelings on not yet ready to meet my g/f
Am i wrong? or is my g/f wrong for not having patience?
What is the solution to this problem?
2006-11-13 14:22:24 · 5 answers · asked by FLEXizme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I see no reason at this point to rub salt into the wound. Give your ex a reasonable time 3 months? 6 months?) and then after that, it is HER problem to deal with, not yours. At some point she should begin to accept that someone else is now the focus of your attention.
Understand that your gf wants to "claim" what's hers in front of your ex. The gf feels insecure and rightly so, you have a child with another woman and that in itself is threatening to her. Put yourself in her shoes: Yes, she's being childish to a point, but understand why and then you can deal with it.
2006-11-13 14:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not know woman at all? ha ha We are always going to be jealous. Even if your ex-wife cheated on you, it's still hard for her to see you happy with another woman. Your girlfriend doesn't want to meet the ex-wife naturally because she was the woman in your life when you two met. She can be feeling guilty or just worried that things aren't settled between the two of you in your ex-wife's eyes. It's not that she doesn't trust you, it's your ex-wife. It's a very uncomfortable situation. I know that you need to solve it because you have a connection, your son. But give it time. Don't push them into meeting. Anways, I'm happy for you that you've found someone special who is treating you right.
2006-11-13 22:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by pippy4tao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend needs to understand that you had a life before she came along and with that life now comes "baggage". You are being very gracious to respect your ex's wishes not to meet your girlfriend right now, and your girlfriend is being childish.
2006-11-13 22:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your both wrong. see if you love your girlfriend as much as you claim, it shouldnt matter what the EX things... make your current girlfriend feel better by taking her along. yes your girlfriend should trust you, yet you have to admit if the shoe was on the other foot,... if she was in your situation you yourself would be questioning her as she is to you.
2006-11-13 22:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your both wrong because both of you didn't make up your mind. your wife had a b/f so you divorced with her to try to make another life with a girl so please make up your mind and go with your feelings!
2006-11-13 22:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋