Hi there,im new here and just want some advice and to find out if this is experience is common or just happening to me.i had issues with my ex's
family either due to my colour,age,but this is a bit different.i'm going out with an older guy.we live together,we love eachother.he's white,i'm black.he's been married twice,has 4 girls,two from each marriage.his kids dont like me.when they come to visit i make the extra effort to make them happy.i take them shopping,i bake them cakes every time they visit,i got the 15yr old some jewelry cos she just had her belly button pierced and a necklace,christmas presents,i talk and advice them like a sister or friend.It gives me plesure to do all this and i wouldn't do this if i didnt like them.His 15yr old had the guts to call him a Paedophile to his face in my precence(i think thats very rude)because he's with me but the ironic thing is her mother is 20 years younger than him but that doesn't bother them.she's now going out with someone 10years younger than her but that doesn't bother them.
they told him they wont come for christmas or ever again if im still with him unless he leaves me.i dont know what to do cos ive not dated a man with kids before and its putting pressure on us and i dont think he's being supportive and it makes me very unhappy and he knows i have my own problems to deal with.all i want is his support,to present a united front or bond to them,
so they will realise that they cant come between us and to stop giving him ultimatims,or stop dictating to him who,what age or kind of woman he should be dating and mind their own business.
they had to deal with it when he got married to his second wife regardless of what they think of her.his eldest daughter doesn't get on with her mother inlaw but that didnt stop them from getting married and i dont make it my business or judge them so i dont know why they should make our relationship their business or prejudge me.what goes on between us two consenting adults in our home is our business
what do you think i/we can do to solve this situation
2006-11-13
14:22:07
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