how do you get over someone that you have known for 10 years of your life and is in love with them?

Question

how do you get over your first love when you feel like you just want to die because they are with someone else and it's like they hate you? for no apparent reason they just don't know you anymore and you didn't see it coming it just happened and you are so used to them being in your life! good advice please!

Answer 1

and how old are you??? 15 or 16 maybe and you have known this person since kindergarten???

You are in marriage and divorce...have you been either married or divorced?

Answer 2

I feel for you,I was broken hearted myself.It really does feel like your heart is broke and not there anymore.I prayed to GOD not to let me wake up tomorrow because I couldn't cope with the pain.Like you I was use to having my husband come home at night ,sleeping next to me,that was the hardest thing to get use to.This is how I got through the long,long days and nights by myself.It was to hard to think about tomorrow so I took it a minute at a time.I couldn't see past an hour.When it got really lonely at night i would yell and scream at him in my tape recorder if that didn't work I got out my diary .Before I knew it that minute turned into an hour .My husband of 18 years left me for a woman 10 years older then him and very ugly.They worked in the same office .They went to many happy hours together. After two and ahalf years he came back home.That was when I found out about the two of them.My heart is still hurting.I'm only telling you this so you no that you are not alone with this.No this he doesn't hate you,he has this other person that is making him feel like he is the most important man alive.That will get old after awhile and that is when he will start remembering all the fun and good times you two had.He will start calling you for no reason and stopping by unannounced.So hang in there it will happen

Answer 3

No matter how good the answers youre getting about the ways to get over a first love or a long-time love and you try to apply it
in reality - it seldom works,well,hardly.

You just gota let time take control and work its magic on you.
Time changes people inside out in a big big way.

You may think that it couldve worked between you two if only...
You should try to be happy and embrace this memory because ten years down the road,it will become one of those priceless
memories you wont wana trade for anything in the world.

Answer 4

Unfortunately these memories will always be there, BUT, you can control them to an extent. Whenever this person enters your mind emmedietly dismiss them and think of your new love and life or something else. Do this every time and pretty soon your mind will automatically do it on it's own without any effort from you and then you will start to rarely think of them.
The fact of the matter is YOU CANNOT HAVE THIS PERSON. You must come to terms with this and accept it and admit it and move on. That's all you can do or you will continue to be stuck in a cycle of grief and pain.

Answer 5

The best way to get over your first love is the realize what you had in the past was just that, "the past." If it's been ten years and you have not gone on with your life, my suggestion is to seek professional help to find out why you feel you don't want to let go of the past.

Answer 6

the only way to get over them is to give it time, the hurt and anger, and confusion will slowly fade but it's not an easy road, for me rededicating my life to the lord has helped tremendously, I have been able to pray over a lot of issues that I wouldn't have thought about praying for prior to my re-dedication, and by attending church regularly I am around people who care and love me for who I am not what I was or what I had. fellow shipping with normal people who do not display anger all the time and act dysfunctional is also a big help, for it allows me a chance to think positive and not be subjected to all the negativity and insults that we receive from our opposites.find some self help devotionals to read that's a help also. try counseling for yourself they will offer some good suggestions also, Good luck and God Bless

Answer 7

think in a positive way and know that it is not easy but it will pass, many poepl split up after many years, so my advice to u is not to rush into a new realtionship, u will miss ur ex and u will suffer alot, just grieve, let it pass and give it time, meanwhile u can do some changes, in ur house or ur looks, and do something u always wanted to do but never had the time to, mainly do new things, meet new poeple, but dont date yet, u will wake up one day and wonder where did all the pain and sorrow go, good luck, take comfort in ur family and friends.

Answer 8

if this is your first love you will not get over them anytime soon especially if you really love them...but if you will not know if you really love them unless you date other people and explore your options. Now, realize that you will have many breakups and you won't be the one breaking up with person all the time so don't get depressed just find another date and go on with your life.

Answer 9

you don't EVER get over your first true love..but as time goes by,things will slowly (and i mean slowly)get easier. its sad to think about being away from this person right now,but remember they are your EX for a reason..don't sell your self short and hope they will come back..go out when your ready and enjoy life.if they are supose to be in your life,they will somewhere down the line...good luck and lotts of love~

Answer 10

You will never get over first love---but the best way to feel better is to find a new one----works every time

Answer 11

Even though its hard, focus on other things besides that person. Keep yourself occupied. It takes time, but you will get used to seeing that person with the other person and soon enough you'll move on. The person will always be there, but at least you will move on and be happy.