my best friend is a girl i've known for twelve years (since we were four in summer camp). we can talk about anything and i even set her up with her boyfriend and theyve been going out for about three years. life has been great until this year (junior year in high school) when guys made fun of us when she was driving me to football practice....they think its weird to have a girl as a best friend.
its not like i go to sleep overs and hang out with her girl friends and shop and stuff. we both do things we like to do: paint ball, see movies, go to broadway shows...and be in broadway shows since we're theatre kids.
everyone yells out things now like "he's so gay" and crud. wtf??!!! im not gay (even though i dont see anything wrong with that...im not against it) but now i feel like me and friend, Dani just cant hang out anymore.
HELP??!!! wat should i do?! shes the only one that knows me better than i do and i know her. but we cant hang out anymore...my whole team laughs. HELP?!!
2006-11-13 14:18:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ignore all those idiots who are making fun of you. They simply have no understanding. Don't let their ignorance drive a wedge betwen you and your friend.
Occasionally you connect really well with a person and a bond is created. This can result in a very special friendship. The ones who are making fun of you have no such bond and you should just ignore all their noise. Eventually it will go away but hang onto your friendship.
2006-11-13 14:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in to what your teammates think - the only reason they're teasing you is because they're jealous that you can have a healthy, solid friendship with a girl, while they're probably all insecure. Just take the teasing with good humor and keep on hanging out with Dani. They'll respect you even more for being above their teasing, and eventually it will stop.
If you give in to it, it's just sending them the message that you are "weak", that you can be picked on, and that picking on you will make you change to whatever they want you to be. If that happens, they'll lose all respect for you and the teasing will only get worse.
2006-11-13 14:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by cajun m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not weird. because my best friend in the whole world is a guy and believe me i can tell him anything. i come to him and tell him when its that time and he understands me better than the nurse. no its not wierd. you see maybe your friends and stuff are just jealous because you have someone special that you can convide in. your friends are at the stage where they feel like a guy should only be best friends with guys and that girls should be best friends with girls and although it makes more sense you have to see it this way. your best friend who is a girl can answer all the girl questions your guy friends cant answer. if you need to ask her what happens when a girl is on girly time(if you get curious sometimes) a guy cant answer that because he doesnt get that. and who knows better than your best friend who is a girl. and the fact that she can be sympathetic when your guy friends cant then you know that your guy friends are very imature. and calling you gay because of that makes no sense whatsoever. and to have them do that is just plain flat out STUPID on so many levels. so dont worry about that. just worry about how your friendship can grow stronger with this girl. because believe it or not when your guys friends are all gone your best friend who is a girl can be there to help you. okay so hang in there.
2006-11-13 14:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by shanice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with it, it is not weird. They don't have g/f like the way you do and they make a big deal out of it . I have just "guy" friends i hang out with and people seem to think there is "more" to it than that, guys and girls can be just friends. There's people out there that can't just have a girl/guy for a friend because they always think "something" always has to happen between them. NOT TRUE!
I believe you when you say , you are just friends.
2006-11-13 16:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by ~muffun~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what other people think!!??? Don't worry about them, worry about your friendship!!!! I'm a girl and my best friend is a guy and i see nothing wrong with it!!! We have been friends for 6 years, don't let them being you down with all there BS people did that to us to in middle school, but when we got to high school they stopped, if you let them get to you they will only reunion your friendship, and maybe you won't have her anymore!! Still friends with her, I still love hanging out with my best friend!!! That's how our friendship is and I wouldn't give it up for anything or anyone!!!!You should do whatever you believe is right, but really don't let other people decide how you live your life!!!!
2006-11-13 14:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by cheerpunk2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird. It may be unusual. But there is NOTHING weird or wrong with that.
Don't be peer pressured into giving up a friendship.
Do not throw away a very dear friend/friendship because your peers make fun of you. If you would not be pressured into doing drugs, smoking, stealing, why would you let them dictate who your best friend is?
I'm sure its very hard, but just blow them off. You've been friends with her for 12 years, you've only got another year or so left of HS.
True friends are HARD to find. Do not give it up because its not "cool" with OTHER people :)
Tree~
2006-11-13 14:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tree S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, be a man, who cares if they tease you, is it worth a frieindship for that long? if i were you, you guys should still hang out. when you get out of high school, nothing matters. people move on, people who teased you or her will get it back down the line. they are nobody's ya know? do you honestly care what people think? I dont'. i never have. they are just jealous that you have a real friendship with a girl. there is nothing wrong with that. there is also nothing wrong with someone be gay but that is besides the point. i've learned people who pick on others are just insecure about themselves, something or someone they can't be.
dont let them win! for a friendship its not worth it , is it?
2006-11-13 14:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really other people's problem. Being in the football team you are expected to act masculine and never be 'friends' with a girl. But that's their standards, not yours. If you are stronger or bigger then them, then make a scene if you have to. This is a tough problem, maybe getting a girlfriend would help?
2006-11-13 14:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! That's not weird. When I was in school I had a few close girl-friends but most of my best friends were guys. With the experience I had w/the girls- they can be so catty and back stabbing. At least w/a guy friend I could trust them w/my boyfriends! lol!!
2006-11-13 15:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, anyone who says that you are gay for having a girl for a best friend is actually the gay one. I'm a girl and my best friend is a guy. So don't worry about it.
2006-11-13 14:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋