I had a stillbirth at 34 weeks! Pregnant again, 33 weeks.?

Question

I had a stillbirth 9 mths ago at 34 weeks gestation and found out two weeks after his time of death actually occured. Yes I was carrying him for two weeks deceased. I am now pregnant 33weeks 4 days and getting a little nervous on the upcomming 3 days. I dont have the issues like i had with him, but it still bothers me. Is this normal feelings and what advice may someone have to help get me through this. Thankyou.

I had a stillbirth 9 mths ago at 34 weeks gestation and found out two weeks after his time of death actually occured. Yes I was carrying him for two weeks deceased. I am now pregnant 33weeks 4 days and getting a little nervous on the upcomming 3 days. I dont have the issues like i had with him, but it still bothers me. Is this normal feelings and what advice may someone have to help get me through this. I also have two other children prior. I apologize for omitting that. God Bless Everyone! Thankyou

Answer 1

If possible try to relax, stress is no good pregnant or not. Try to pay attention to movement. if you arent feeling movement for a couple of hours drink something with high sugar and see if that wakes baby, if not may be something that you need to talk to your dr about what he would like you to do to ease your fears. God Bless you and your happy healthy baby :)

Answer 2

Im very sorry for your loss, Congratulations on your pregnancy, I can understand completely how nervous and scared you must be feeling, this is very normal as its coming up to the same gestation in your pregnancy. Do you know the reason for the sillborn? Was it a problem like the cord rapping around the babys neck or something? Im sure it was completely out of your control as miscarriage is not in the control of the mother.

You should express your concerns to your caring midwife or GP, so they can give you extra care at this point of time, have you spoken to someone like a counciller about the grief you have for the baby you lost? You should speak to someone as you will be at high risk of post natal depresion, so you could get ontop of it now before the birth to decrease the chances of getting full blow PND, and they can catch it early and you know you will be under control and able to enjoy the first months of your baby's life.

You should not put your arms above your head by hanging out washing as it can tighten the cord if it is in a wierd posision, also make a kick chart and make sure you count the amont of kicks you are feeling so you can catch any long periods of no movement early and see your doctor or go straight to the hospital. At this stage of pregnancy you should be feeling more then 10 movements in a period of 6 hours. If you feel less, sit down and talk to the baby as when s/he hears your voice will respond by moving.

Talk to your baby often and tell them everything, they can feel everything your feeling so your concerns ect, tell him/her how much s/he means to you and how excited you are to meet him/her. It is amazing how much comfort your baby can give you when feeling down. Try and relax as much as possible and don't do alot over the next few weeks, to reduce the chances of any problems, just chill out and bond with your baby, don't restrain yourself from the baby as you may because your scared, its ok but it wont' help you get past it.

Express your concerns to help get it out into the open, by keeping it inside it will eat you alive and you don't need that right now as your hormones are at a high you will be very prone to baby blues from now until after birth.

I wish you all the best and I hope everything goes well. I hope this has put your mind at ease a little, keep calm, and think about yourself and your baby first before anything else. You come first right now. Best wishes.

Answer 3

I totally understand how you feel. I had one son, then lost three babies one right after the other. I became obsessed with the idea of having a normal, healthy baby. I am happy to say that I did go on to have two more beautiful boys. I always lived in sick worry throughout the pregancy, but I had a great doctor who understood my fears and would give me an ultrasound every time I expressed concern. I found it really reassuring. Ask your doctor if you can have an ultrasound to reassure you.

I always so found a lot of support in talking with other women online who had gone through the same things. I met one woman who makes these really cool bracelets with baby footprints on them that read, "Remember our babies." This site helped me alot.
http://pregnancylossribbons.com/

I also found another site that talked about what it is like to have children who have passed and living children. The woman described it as having some children who run and some who fly. I thought that was really beautiful.

There is also a book that was written by a medium....I do not know how you feel about mediums, but I found it really comforting, because she had experienced pregnancy loss herself and she talks about how it made her feel. You can get that book at www.lulu.com (look under the name MY BEST CLIENTS ARE DEAD) or you can check her site www.intuitiveconsulting.org

I hope all this helps. I understand completely how you feel, but all the worry is temporary. The love is forever.

Answer 4

I work in the medical field and many times we have no idea what the cause of a still births. my wife is a neonatal nurse an she inputs that you should visit your obgyn and be checked out with a fetal heart monitor and if something doesn't look okay then have a trans vaginal ultrasound and if you still don't feel comfortable then do and amniocentesis at 33.5 weeks the baby is almost ready to survive outside the womb. our baby was born c-section at 35 weeks and was over 6 lbs and left the hospital the next day. The best thing to do is think positive, your baby can sense this, talk to him or her and let them know how mommy loves them. It will all be okay talk it over with you ob and see a counselor if necessary. Enjoy your new baby. -john

Answer 5

I had a dream I was going to have my baby at 22 weeks. I was so paranoid leading up to and just after. I had another dream I had it at 29 weeks, this is still scary as I just had chicken pox and in some cases it cause premie birth (im 26 weeks). I know it was only dreams, but I really understand how you feel. Im sure you have dr's taking great care of this baby. I couldnt imagine anything worse and im so sorry for you having to go through that. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

Answer 6

yes this is a very serious issue and is a perfectly good reason to worry! If you stress your fears with your OB and you have good enough insurance, I bet you will be able to go in every day and have a nurse check for a heartbeat! There are monitors available for sale out there so you can hear the heartbeat at home. Then every day you can check and make sure! Until then, remember that every pregnancy us different and pray for a healthy child! Good luck!!!

Answer 7

i lost my first baby at 33 weeks. then 1 year later i got pregnant with my son when i got to 33weeks i was nuts with worry i made an extra trip to the doctor to just be safe . you will always worry till that baby is in your arms all you can to is talk with doctor and pray. by the way i also had a daughter no problems you are doing great.

Answer 8

Yes its normal to have feelings like that. Right now Im pregnant with my 4th and my 3rd son was premature and Im sooo worried that this one will come even earlier, and that Ill lose her somehow. My 3rd son was fine, but Im still worried about it. Its normal to feel that way. Try to relax and tell yourself its all ok. That is really all you can do, because no matter what someone says you are still going to worry . Im sorry for your loss. That is a hard situation and anyone would understand why you are nervous.

Answer 9

same thing happened to me. My son was dead for about 2 weeks before i gave birth to him.. Dr, was out of town and i thought my baby was just not moving like my first son. Well, i lost my baby at 32 weeks and became pregnant 3 months later and gave birth to my son (actually 3rd) a year and 10 days later. It is nerve racking but let me assure you that your Dr. is on the look out for many problems and will keep a close eye on you. To tell you the truth I was more nervous giving birth to my last child because i knew she would be my last. I will say a prayer for you... you will be blessed and happy!!!

Answer 10

It is absolutly normal for you to worry about this. As long as your doctor knows about what happened before then I am sure she/he is doing everything to make sure the baby is doing alright. If you wanted to just call and say you have not been feeling good and you wanted to get an appointment to have the baby checked so that way you can go in and hear your baby's hearbeat. Hearing that heartbeating is a sure way to help you calm down and not cause any stress on yourself and the baby. Relax mom this is just your motherly instinct kicking in. Congrats!!