I have tried antidepressants for years, and if anything they only made me worse. I held myself hostage for years in drug addictions where i was more than happy to die at any given time, and nearly did twice (stroke, and 2 years latter a 2 week coma from shattering my skull).
I value my life about as much as i value the life of a pet fish. I go to a counselor and have found that to be successful. The worst part about it is my 2 sons pick up on it i'm sure. I hate that im short, 5'6 and just want out.
2006-11-13 13:46:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have found counseling unsuccessful not successful. (not sure how that got switched).
I have been clean for 2.5 years and feel as bad about life if not worse than when i used daily. shouldn't it be getting better?
2006-11-13 13:52:22 · update #1
if pills won't work, you need God. start with a christian therapist and go from there. it's worth a shot, right? good luck!!!
2006-11-13 13:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by jess l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you try Tianeptine, which is an antidepressant drug not available in the US but widely prescribed in Europe. It works wonders in many cases where nothing else does. There is also a modern treatment named Deep Brain Stimulation - also repetitive transcranial magnetic stimulation. Both of these are new but perhaps you could ask a good doctor about them, or search on clinicaltrials.gov for free medical studies in your area run by reliable hospitals and universities which you should qualify for easily. These above methods are known to work in some cases of refractory depression (basically a medical term for when nothing else works), so I wish you the best and hope you can start enjoying life.
BTW just in case you dismiss Tianeptine as a drug which will not work.. the method of action is actually the reverse of the SSRIs. It is an SSRA (accelerator). So you should give it a try as it works in many cases where SSRIs have not worked. It is legal in the USA to order a 3 month prescription from abroad for personal use.
2006-11-15 21:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by keystroke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to put it just this way, but there's a line in the Shawshank Redemption; ..."Get busy livin'... or get busy dyin'".
I've been there too. Drug-addict for many years, lost two marriages... children...everything. People said, "You have to do it for yourself...no one else". And it was kinda funny, in the end, there was no one left to do it for except me. And I went on that way for quite a while. Only when I absolutely knew that it came down to living or dying did I finally decide to live.
You want to die? Hey... that's your right, and you and I both know if that's what you decide... it's all over. But if you want to live... then get living! And living means building a life, doing the things that equal 'living'. Taking up space and waiting around to die doesn't add up to living.
And no one... absolutely no one can save you or live your life for you. I know... I waited for that magic, and it never happened.
Get involved with people, commit to something that matters, help others who are going through what you're going through... look past yourself and your pain... MAKE A DIFFERENCE! And I promise you... your life will change.
Not all at one time, maybe not in a month or 2 months, but little by little your life will start to matter to you. But you have to create the kind of life that matters.
I wish you well. I want you to succeed. But that's up to you.
2006-11-13 22:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need deliverance from this type of thinking. Dr. Don Colbert calls it "stinking thinking". Find a Christian small group that you can study the Bible with and share your feelings. Start thinking of all the good things you can about being short. Make a list! Make positive confessions to yourself out-loud about good things. You are a valuable human being for example. Eventually, you will be out, but for now god has given you this life so make something of it instead of wasting it. Help other people, develop a servant's heart, go to church. Look around your neighborhood for people you can help. Watch Christian TV, give to organizations like James Robison's that dig wells in Africa. Listen to Joyce Myer, get some of her books. God has a plan for your life and it isn't to spend it trying to kill yourself. Dig deep into your heart and figure your purpose out. One of the reason you were created was to praise God. Begin to praise Him and see how good it feels to acknowledge Him and thank Him.***Heavenly Father, draw this person closer to You. Show him you love him just the way he is. I thank You for his life and ask You to direct and guide him in Jesus name Amen
2006-11-13 22:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEEK HELP!!! Life is always hard on EVERYONE not just yourself. You are being selfish and you don't realize how others need you. What do you think your children would say if the knew. They'd feel they were the cause and would blame themselves for the rest of THEIR LIVES. Get a hold of yourself. and seek professional help immediately. There are people out here that care about you.
2006-11-13 21:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by burrgump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will get better how tall you are is not the problem it is what happen to you in the past it may not sound like much but counseling and group help me drugs never will but think about what would happen to your kids they are and will be their for you and god is the best fix their is just go to church and pray he will be their for you pick up the phone and call someone you do matter i have been though alot to much but god got me though it and i am getting better everyday belive me it works you have to open up to make it work go to NA and listen just listen help someone else give back you are here and we need you here for us it is time to love yourself too you have a right to be happy Jesus loves you and so do i !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-13 22:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by taterchips755 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that there are people that have way worse lives than you...I mean look at me...I just got done crying my *** off and I haven't cried that hard since I was little kid...it wasn't over nothing either...it was over my dead pet...who which I was closer with than my family...now she's gone...and I never even said goodbye...
2006-11-13 21:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Shoryuken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God and a good Christian therapist is what you need.
Begin with reading Rick Warren's Purpose Driven Life to motivate you and help you figure out your purpose in life. God Bless and I will keep you in my prayers tonight.
2006-11-13 23:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to some one who cares about you and wants to help you with the problems. You could turn to God who will help you through all the tough times. You could think about what is good and healthy for you.
2006-11-13 21:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you cannot seem to find joy within your own life, you can still cherish the lives of your sons and their hopes, dreams, and successes.
2006-11-13 21:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by appalachianlimbo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to see the positive in everything. You weren't a "hostage" to drugs, rather they "liberated" you from the troubles of the world. You aren't short, you are vertically below average. Death is not something to be feared, it is the beautiful eternity of nothingness that follows a (usually) painful dying process.
2006-11-13 21:48:32 · answer #11 · answered by A D 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋