i JUST RECEIVED MY CHILD SUPPORT COURT DATE. i HAVE TO FILE BECAUSE MY HUSBAND THAT i AM SEPARATED FROM REFUSE TO GET ME ANY MONEY FOR OUR 2 CHIOLDREN AGES 8 & 12. wE HAVE A COURT DAY AND WE HAVEN'T TALKED FOR THE TIME WE HAVE BEEN SEPARATED WHICH IS 6 MONTH. hE ALWAYS TOLD ME THAT HE WILL NEVER GIVE ME ANY MONEY. wILL THE COURT HONOR HIM. i THINK HE WILL THEY WILL.
i HAVE ASKED HIM FOR SOME MONEY FOR THE KIDS BUT HE TOLD ME NO AGAIN.; AM i WRONG FOR FILING ? NEED SOME SERIOUS ANSWERS.
2006-11-13 13:25:13 · 15 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not only are you right, but do not let him tell you anything. He should be ashamed for not taking care of his kids. And let him tell the judge that he will not pay... That will be a Kodak moment..
What the court will do is set support, even if your not divorced yet, and back it up to when he left. If he refuses to pay, they can take his driver license, business license, income tax returns, and even throw him in jail.
Don't worry, and let the courts deal with him..
2006-11-13 13:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing by filing w/ the court. However a court order doesn't mean he will pay. hopefully your state has laws that try to keep parents from being deadbeat parents. It is always best to go through the courts anyways for both parties. Besides any money given outside of the courts is considered a gift. This could be why he isn't paying (doubtful). Just let him know if he doesn't pay he doesn't see the children. Also Try to get your support payroll deducted by his employer. That way you know it's paid each month or week.
2006-11-13 22:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by way2sweet2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can say no all he likes but legally he is obligated to support his children. A man that feels that way towards his children isn't much of a man anyway. Most states and provinces have laws that calculate child support according to his income. You may want to look these rules up in you government web pages. If he refuses to pay at this point he will lose his drivers licence and possible his freedom. The law does not take kindly to these dead beat dads. I think that your children are lucky to have one responsible parent. Don't feel guilty about looking after these children this way. They are entitled to be cared for by this so called father whether he likes to or not. I wish you all the best and don't allow this horses *** to intimidate you. I hope you meet a decent person someday who will be the kind of guy we all dream of. God bless.
2006-11-13 21:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are 100% correct. It's your right to receive money for your kids. He is just trying to threaten you. I don't know what state you live in, but here in New York with one child I received 17% of his gross pay, for 2 kids it is 21%. Keep/copy any and ALL receipts of food bills, kids clothes, activities, etc and bring them with you. They cannot make him pay less unless YOU agree to it, and DON'T. The only exception to this is if he has some outstanding medical bills or something very unusual, even then they won't reduce it much. Don;t worry, you will be fine. DO NOT back down.
2006-11-13 21:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMFAO!! your ex isn't very smart. don't feel bad for filing for support. your children are entitled to be supported by both parents. no matter what his personal problem is. keep a journal of all the conversations you have with him. (i'm still laughing at his stupid butt) the only way he wouldn't have to pay child support, is if you had joint custody and he had the kids 50% of the time. but being this is a child support hearing and not a custody hearing....his case of not paying is invalid. i'm still laughing btw.
2006-11-13 21:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to have support payments coming in. Understand though that with him-paying the support payment he will also have the right to see the children. Good for you for taking a stand and doing what is right. You're children deserve money for food, clothing, etc. Good luck to you Sweetie!
2006-11-13 21:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?? Of course he will have to pay. What kind of person makes a baby and then say's I'm done now? MAN! what a loser!! Thank god you got rid of him when you did! I wouldn't want to be w/someone who didn't want to take care of his own kids! The poor kids, I hope they don't get caught up in it all. Good Luck!!
2006-11-13 21:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! Those are his children! The court will order him to pay child support. If it was something like spousal support he might not have to pay, but he will have to pay child support until your children are 18!
2006-11-13 21:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not in the wrong. And he will have to pay what the court orders or face having his checks garnished or even jail. It doesn't matter if he said he would not pay you, if the kids are his he needs to pay.
2006-11-13 21:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by Shalvia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should not have a choice if he wants to pay or not, those are his kids and his responsibilities. You are absolutely right to file, he needs to take care of his own.
2006-11-13 21:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋