My best friend and I just had a huge argument.She was teasing her cousin.We were in a Yahoo!Messenger Conference talking.We decided to play a game.After we decided we didn't play the game anymore,my best friend started reading.She told her cousin to read.But her cousin told her where she was the only books she had was the dictionary.I got upset at my friend,and we started arguing.Her teasing her cousin cused me to remeber horrible memories about what horrible teasing I went through in kindergarden.We kept on fighting until finally I couldn't take her teasing her cousin anymore.She teases her cousin on a constant basis.I decided I didn't want to be friends with her anymore,and told her she had nobody but herself to blame.Am I right or wrong about this?
2006-11-13 13:10:29 · 17 answers · asked by debralizjr 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is what my ex friends and my fight was all about.I was telling her how I felt about her teasing her cousin.
2006-11-13 13:17:25 · update #1
Now that you are both here with this situation, I have only thing to say to both of you - why don't you talk it over and give each other a chance again? Everyone can get hurt and everyone can make a mistake.
Why not give your friendship another chance? My philosophy is always to try to keep my friends - I am very sensitive and I am always getting hurt, so if I reacted to every situation by ending friendships, I would not have a single friend left.
So, dear friends, talk to each other, and see if you can come to some kind of understanding between you. Believe me, you will be happy that you saved your friendship.
Good luck!
2006-11-14 02:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by happy inside 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot get into her business like that though. If you are not agreeing with each other, take some time off. If she is not a good friend to you, then you are right, but that's what some people do, is tease their cousin. Is that offending you?
2006-11-13 13:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are out of line, especially since it doesn't seem you've told her about it.
It sounds like her cousin wasn't teasing YOU. If she wasn't teasing YOU, you are letting it get to you. While I am sorry that your younger years were filled with pain, this is a game between your friend and her cousin.
You need to look at yourself--why EXACTLY does it bother you when your friend and her cousin tease each other?
You NEED to tell your friend about how you feel. Don't end a friendship because two cousins can't mess around with each other. You're assuming that she would even realize that would affect you like that.
It's like this: Your parents force-fed you milk. Your friend drinks milk in front of you, and you end the friendship because it brings back terrible memories. Is that fair?
2006-11-13 13:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are 2 kinds of teasing. The one that doesn't know when to stop is the teasing that hurts. When it becomes a constant thing, something should be said to your friend. Teasing can be very cruel. Good for you for saying something!
2006-11-13 13:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that losing you as a friend is a good way to teach her that teasing someone is a horrible thing to do. Or, she won't care. Either way, I think you are a great person for trying to stand up for what is right. Not everyone can do that. Maybe one day your ex best friend will realize that and come to her senses (I hope).
2006-11-13 13:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by reeba202 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is talking about me. see full details here http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvCKdXCI92PTIFrzZgwhSODzy6IX?qid=20061113175333AA7CXc8 she didn't give you all the details. I didn't mean to bring up painful memories. My cousin is usually fine with it. i tease her out of love. my grandpa does it all the time. now i feel like a jerk and i apologized many times but she refuses to be my friend. I hurt all over and i've lost many friends. I don't think i'll be friends with anyone again. She rfuses to give it a chance! I keep asking her if we can make up, but she won't.
2006-11-13 13:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by ~Amber~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, kiddo, I think your wrong, if she was teasing her cousin too much, let the cousin tell her off, it's between them, not you. Your are projecting your childhood memories into their relationship, why should this effect your friendship?
2006-11-13 13:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's hard you need to write your friend a letter telling her about how you were abused like her how it hurt and she may see how it hurts her cousin and you help that child from going though what you did remember what would Jesus do teach them what they are doing wrong and to see the truth about how they are hurting that poor child remember do it the positive way and make a difference in a small ones life telling the truth about yourself is a rise but worth taking to helping a child
2006-11-13 13:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by taterchips755 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you are right. She shouldn't tease her cousin and you shouldn't be bothered. If her cousin doesn't like being teased it is his/her job to ask her to stop.
2006-11-13 13:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are right that is here family she should be sticking up for her cousin but i just hope you told her what was wrong if not you should tell her and give her another chance. if you have been friends with her long then you should forgive her.
2006-11-13 13:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by Tayler Mckenzie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋