I was talking to my cousin and my best friend on the internet. I asked if my cousin had any good books. she said all she had was a dictionary. then i said "so read the dictionary!" I was totally kidding of course. my friend goes all out defensive and tells me i shouldn't make fun of my cousin because it reminds her of when she was teased in kindergarden. I told her i was joking and she said it wasn't very nice. we spent half an hour argueing, for most of it i was bawling my eyes out. after 5 minuets my cousin left. when i thought my friend and i had made up, she told me we were no longer friends. after that, i cried and cried and my stomach hurt. on this website she is known as debralizjr. which side do you agree with?
2006-11-13 12:53:33 · 12 answers · asked by ~Amber~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ive been caught in this before. i got a whole childhood story on it and the more the girl went on, the worse i felt. but apparently this friend of yours must have been pretty traumatized (i cant spell lol) by what happened to her and still kinda haunts her. i can understand both of u, as u not knowing her past like that, and since u were friends u felt like u thought u could joke about anything. i guess some things are really still hurting deep inside. but she didnt NEED to blow up on u, cuz u didnt know. i get the feeling shes guna come to her senses eventually. try and see it from her side, being a constantly teased child and then getting it all over again, kinda like re-opening the wound.
best of luck with your bud.
2006-11-13 12:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by sh8dybrady120 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 06:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by swett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't agree with your friend telling you that you guys weren't friends anymore. You were just having a little joke w/ your cousin and as long as your cousin knew that you were just kidding that's all that matters.
I don't think you should make up with that friend either, because no real friend would make you cry like that-they'd at least say, "Well, it sounded as if you were being rude to your cousin, but maybe your cousin knew you were just kidding."
If I were you I'd get a new "best friend" who didn't make me cry so hard and make me feel hurt for nothing I did. Cuz I don't really see how "So read the dictionary" can hurt anybody's feelings, but hey, it doesn't hurt to check up on your cousin and just double check to know that she knew you were just kidding and isn't hurt by it.
All the best,
Stacie fan
2006-11-13 13:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are always two sides to one story. It could be something that was building up and this was the last straw. I have seen that your views on religions are quite insulting to others, do you think this fact spills out into your everyday life, do you think people can't tell when you are kidding and being serious because of your religious views, maybe you should try and take a deeper look at your self before you try to put the blame outside of yourself.
2006-11-13 22:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is referring to me.I explained to her how hurt I was.She asked why.I told her because I was constantly teased by the all the kids in my kindergarden class.She then uses an excuse how she was teased in first and fourth grade.So I decide I don't wanna be friends with her.I did forgive her,I am just refusing to be friends with her.
2006-11-13 13:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by debralizjr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, if that's all it takes to break up friendships and send you into an emotional tizzy. The three of you have re markedly problem free lives. That drama is created at the toss of a word er dictionary........MARY
2006-11-13 13:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by mary57whalen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep writing her and letting her know you are so sorry that you really meant no harm. Tell you are lonely without her. No one is right in a situtation like this! Maybe let some time pass and ry to let her know how much you miss her friendship!
2006-11-13 13:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by MagikButterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shoudnt have gotten upset with you over this issue she should of talked to you about it and explained that she didnt like how you talk to your cousin but then you should of explained that you was only playing and that you apologize if it offended her in any way. But you shouldnt have lost a friend over this if she was atrue friend
2006-11-13 13:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is very very immature. I wasn't even here and I know your just kidding...try to talk to her, no crying! And explain to your cousin, maybe he/she can help you, Good Riddance.
2006-11-13 12:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin and friend are very strange. Don't cry; they're aren't worth your time.
-Emilie
I give my full, honest, and sometimes blunt answers. Like it or not, it's true.
2006-11-13 13:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by Emirii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋