Today my man had a very bad day, and I don't know why. He says it has nothing to do with me, but he took it out on me. I understand he's kind of cranky, but why take it out on me if I didn't do anything? I'm at work, and he had the day off, I'm here for another hour and a half. When he called me he was extremely disrespectful. Yelling and swearing, and even went to the extent of telling me not to talk to him EVER again if I have a problem with it. But then he calls back and appologizes. Still didn't tell me why his day was bad. I know he's under alot of stress, his father tried to make him choose between his family and me a couple weeks ago, and he chose me yesterday......... Today is his dads birthday, he's going over for supper. What do I do about this? Let it slide because he's stressed? Or what?
2006-11-13 12:49:43 · 11 answers · asked by MaNdYb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We've been together for over 3 years now
2006-11-13 12:54:33 · update #1
When his dad made him choose, I was there. And I walked away and told him I didn't want to f*ck up his family. He came back to me..............
2006-11-13 12:55:55 · update #2
Unfortunately, many people have the problem of taking out our frustrations with the closest one to us. Speaking as a man we tend to have that problem alot. try not to take it personally if you really ha vent done anything to deserve that kind of treatment. Try and be patient with him and find the root of his frustration. Men like to be confident in knowing that his woman fully has his back, trust me with that confidence we feel as though we can take on the world. Without it we feel like were failures and start looking at our self and our problems with no hope insight. And never let a problem slide no matter how big or small it is.
2006-11-13 13:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by ausaramenra2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't want to hear this, but this guy isn't worthy of you. Calling you at work and yelling at you isn't only disrespectful, it's immature and manipulative. It sounds like you've got some high drama stuff going on with him and his family. Do you really need this? If this is how he's treating you early in the relationship, it will get worse. Whether he's under a lot of stress or not, the kind of behavior your describing is verbally abusive and you shouldn't tolerate it for a minute.
2006-11-13 20:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Holly R 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Certainly you should probably discuss this with your man later tonight and let him know that he has no right talking like that to you firstly and secondly let him know that you are there to support him but he must treat you with respect also. It's definitely not an excuse that he is feeling stressed to turn all his emotions on you. Perhaps he should seek some sort of anger control or management sessions to help him learn how to find other outlets for his frustration. It's very sad that his dad wants him to choose between family and you and this must make both of you awful upset. Best of luck to you I hope that things improve for you.
2006-11-13 20:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him how much it hurt you and say that in relationships talk about what their problems are and that you want to help him. Try and be there for him since he is so stressed and let him know that it wasn't your fault.
2006-11-13 20:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may be resenting you because of his family making him choose. Why would they make him choose between you and them? I think he probably loves you, but is having mixed emotions about his decision. He needs to discuss this with his father because if they love him they wouldn't make him choose, I mean, unless you are influencing him to do things he shouldn't be doing, then he should choose his family.
2006-11-13 20:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! He is pissed off because the Fam made him choose, how lame. You need to talk with him, and tell him that you understand how difficult it is for him and see if he is going to be OK with that. maybe you should try and get in with the Per-rants
2006-11-13 20:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by cece 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you've become more of the problem and less of the solution. You should talk it out and really think about if your lives would be better apart.
2006-11-13 20:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Harushnakarvikonivonich Hakopyan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone for the rest of the day and just let him know when and if he's ready your there to listen and don't be judgemental!
2006-11-13 20:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by lee lee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the fact that he had to choose and he chose you is probably the problem and he is blaming you for the fact that he chose you, even to he was the one that did it, he still blames you and is taking it out in you
2006-11-13 21:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as he doesnt hit u or nothing then just let him be and let him carry on pouting and whatnot if he doesnt get over it then i unno.
2006-11-13 20:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by Epidemic 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋