so my friend is pregnant, she's only 13, its been almost a month and she just found out yesterday that she was pregnant. she doesn't want her parents to know, how can she get rid of the baby without her parents finding out?
2006-11-13 12:42:19 · 21 answers · asked by Brandi// 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
she doesn't actually have to tell anybody if she really doesn't want to BUT this is a very big thing for her to go through on her own especially at that age.
if she can't talk to her parents then she should go to her doctor. he/she has a patient/doctor confidentiality law that he has to stand by. so he wont be able to tell her parents and he might be able to point her in the right direction.
either way i hope she makes the decision thats right for her! it's not going to be easy.
2006-11-13 12:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by acemum 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, if she doesn't want her parents to know there are many options for her!
1. School teacher or guidance counselor
Or, if she wants someone who doesn't know her...
She can call Planned Parenthood.
Does she have a friend's mother who can help her? Maybe your mom? At least your mom could talk to her mom...so your friend's mom won't go crazy when she hears it.
FYI:
In most states she can get an abortion without the consent of her parents. And, even in states who don't have that law the juvenille system can take on her case and ask a judge to aprove of her abortion.
That's why I said she could call Planned Parenthood. They will know if she can get an abortion without consent of her parents in your state.
They will also provide her counseling. I hope she takes it because like others mentioned it will always be in her mind...
2006-11-13 20:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant get rid of a baby, because it will eat at her for the rest of her life. She is only 13, she sholudve been think about that before she had sex. That is the most idiotic thing ever. Abortions are wrong, trust me, my girlfriend was pregnant and got an abortion behind my back. I was ready to be a dad no matter what. I dont even wanna know how old the impregnater is, but he shouldve been using his head.
2006-11-13 20:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by The Bry Man 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friend thought she was old enough to have sex. To have sex you need to be mature, and not telling her parents is the total opposite of being mature. This baby did nothing wrong, why have sex if you can't handle what happens. SEX MAKES BABIES!!!! no birth control is 100% she needs to tell her folks and let them help her. There are a lot of young couples out there who can't have any children, who would love to adopt a baby, pay for EVERYTHING, and she could still go to school. She needs to look into ways to give this child a chance at a good life, and look at this as a lesson.
2006-11-13 21:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by ~*April*~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is so sad but what is sadder is all the comments people are making - she made a mistake so now she just needs help to fix it. Her parents will need to give permission but if that is too hard to start of with then she first needs to talk to responsible adult who can help her do what she needs to do with her parents. Maybe a teacher, counsellor, doctor or close family friend can help. Tell her not to listen to all the comments whatever happened doesn't matter and just to seek help from someone, anyone that is capable of helping her. I can't be more help but whatever she decides to do in the long run is what is best for her and that is all that matters.
2006-11-13 21:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by caz_dendy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your friend is old enough for sex, she should be old enough to accept the responsibility, at least, of talking with her parents. I believe that abortion is murder, so hope that she decides NOT to "get rid of it", since "it" is a tiny baby that she should be thinking of protecting, even if she doesn't want to or feel that she can keep it once it's born. There are people and agencies who can help her to deal with all aspects of an "unwanted" pregnancy, including dealing with her parents. Killing her own child, no matter how socially and legally acceptable it may seem, and how easy it may be to do, will have painful consequences for her, emotionally, for the entire rest of her life that she can't possibly anticipate at this young age.
At the very least, if YOU are a real friend, you will help her to find the courage to talk with her parents and to accept responsibility for her behavior. Killing her own child and hiding the truth from her parents in order to avoid any consequences for her own behavior will set the tone for the entire rest of her life. She is at a crossroads right now - to be a strong, courageous young woman or to be a coward and a liar, who has to live with the terrible guilt of ending her own child's life for her own selfish reasons. As a friend, you should want her to be the best person she can be, and that has to start with taking responsibility for her own behavior. Her parents will still love her, even if they are disappointed. She can earn back their respect and trust. Once she has killed her own baby, there's nothing she can do to undo that mistake.
2006-11-13 20:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by gseeband 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WHOA. Your friend needs to talk to her parents. There is no way around it. I don't believe in abortion, but if that's the road that she wants to go down, her parents are going to have to take her, sign the papers, and more likely than not, pay for it.
What in the HELL is she doing having sex in the first place? Sorry to sound like such an, well, ADULT, but seriously... Sex was the farthest thing from my mind when I was thirteen.
She needs to be a teenager instead of trying to grow up so fast. I hope that this is a lesson for her that being an adult isn't as rosy as it seems, sometimes.
I wish your friend well. I hope that it all works out.
2006-11-13 20:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Chances are she is going to have to tell her parents. Becasue most states will not let a minnor have an aboration with out the parent sign some papers..Depending on where you live there are free clinics that she can go to and talk to someone..hope that helps..
2006-11-13 21:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by ladytaximom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not going to tell her anything like that. Get RID of a baby? Geez. She had sex, she needs to be responsible. She NEEDS to tell her parents regardless. Actually she has too tell them. She cant do anything by herself. She is only 13. I would be devastated if my daughter got "RID" of my grandbaby. Sure I would be upset with her for getting pregnant, but the baby didnt do anything wrong and I would deal with it the best way possible. I definiltey would never take my child to have an abortion.
2006-11-13 20:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by Blondi 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
its illegal for her to get rid of the baby on her own, she has to discuss it with her parents, why would she want to destroy life? there are many solutions to it, she can have the baby and put it up for adoption, or, she can have the baby and leave it at the fire station or hospital, they are required to put it in an orphanage and find a home
2006-11-13 20:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mooshak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋