He's in my votech class.... So I'm with him for half a school day. I think he was just being nice but...... He bought me lunch in the cafeteria one day and told me I should come eat in there more often..... Also he started asking if I was gay. He was asking because he ask me once about girls and I said that they were a waste of time. (There not but I mean.... What's a gay guy to say when caught off guard?) I asked why he wanted to know and he said he'd always wanted to meet a gay guy. I said yes and he was like "cool". How do I carefully approach him? I think he's straight but then again it seems he has.....attractions that he doesn't wish to be known. What do y'all think?
2006-11-13 12:29:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He's probably curious, and wondering how to confron his own feelings. Don't push, but just act casual and easy around him - don't be different or forward. You can carefully steer conversations now and then to see how he feels about gays, or even simply "kissing a guy". Hanging out after school, or working on homework together - anything that gets you two closer in relationship and proximity can help lighten things up and perhaps get him to open up a bit more about what he is going through. If it was or was not easy for you to deal with, it may be difficult for him. Just be yourself - buy HIM lunch.... :)
2006-11-14 08:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Blonde 501s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want MY opinion, which I'm assuming you do since you asked it, no. Just like I can't go to Peter Pan's neverneverland, nor can I visit the Land of the really great Wangdoodles, mostly because they do not exsist. If you want a long-shot at seeing it thought, you could always take really bad shrooms. :D But honestly, if you are Christian, you do believe in heaven, hell, god, etc, then Don't you think that God will judge you based on your morals? If you live your life trying to help others, being kind and respectful, caring about other people, if you live your life and at the end, look back and are proud of yourself, then I don't think you will go to hell. I think God will judge those based on their morals, not their sexual preference. The bible was writtin by racist, sexist, scared little men, and no matter if it was inspired by god or not, they've added their own little twist on things, probably including the "man only lie with woman" part. Probably for procreation, seeing as back then they were very few, as opposed to today, where we are over populated. If you have faith in God, have faith that he is richteous and good, fair and all knowing. If they will let people like G. Bush snr in, ANYBODY can get in :D
2016-03-28 04:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should assume he is straight until he tells you otherwise. If he is gay, he may not be ready to come out of the closet. If you move to fast and force him out you may risk hurting the friendship you have with him. Just continue the talks and see how he feels about you being gay. Ask him about the girls in his life and maybe even try to hang out after school. If he's open to that, there may be a chance. If he isn't open to hanging out outside of school, he is either straight or not ready to come out of the closet yet.
2006-11-13 13:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by gc27858 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he may already know you are and is just exploring things right now. Just open up to him, he's obviously not afraid of you for being gay or whatever, I mean he bought you lunch, the first step has already been taken =)
2006-11-13 12:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say i know your not gay dont make him feel like a "HOMO" since the way hes acting he probably is gay just get him alone and say have you ever thought of exsperimenting and see where it goes then ask him if he wants to "CHIL" sometime.
2006-11-13 12:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im kind of going through the same thing. i would say to take it slowly, open up to him, ask him some questions. just try to get closer, but dont make it obvious. good luck
2006-11-13 13:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by mr.band_geek 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree just open up dont be scared
2006-11-13 13:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jimmi H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋