I understand I have my whole life ahead of me, and much to come. But I am almost done with school, and getting married in two years. But I dont want to wait, my body wants me to have a baby, figurtively speaking.
2006-11-13 12:25:01 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
as in im am almost done with college not high school...
2006-11-13 12:27:51 · update #1
Ok just looking down the list of answers there you have been given a lot of For and Against reasons.
Biologicly 20 is by no means to young to have a baby. The decision comes down to what is best for you and the baby.
Some points to consider....
*Can you and your partner afford this now? You may think yeh we will get by and that s all well and good just bear in mind that once you have a baby all the other things can be harder....like saving to buy a home.
*Does your partner feel the same as you? If he isnt ready you may need to talk more and come to a consensis as to when you are both ready.
As far as your age goes....After 30 you chances of falling pregnant decrease significantly and the risk of birth defects and complications increases significantly.....if your planing on having 3 kids 3 years apart now is a good time to start.
If you wait a few years sure you will have more life experience but I'm not totally convinced that has any bearing on how good or bad of a parent you will be.
If you start having kids now you will (in theory) have more energy to spend time playing with them and running around after them (because you are younger) and still be young enough once they are grown to do all the travelling etc that you like.
Its a personal choice and one that can vary greatly from individual to individual, I know many people that should wait til they are 60 to have kids because they have a heck of a lot of growing up to do before they should have anything to do with bringing up another person. On the other hand I know some 16 year olds that would make amazing parents (not that I would encorage it).
If you and your partner are both keen to start a family, you have talked about what you expect from one another and about how you believe you want your child to be raised (this is very important) then I say go ahead. Personally I would wait til I finished school because realisticly its hard to study with a newborn in the house and even harder with a toddler. But if you think you can handle it and have great family support then best wishes to you I hope you have a beautiful baby.
I was 20 when I had my first.
2006-11-13 13:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I have to say that this question really shows that there may be hope out there after all. I come on here and read questions about 13 years old being pregnant, 14 years old telling there mom that the family DOG is the father (and the mother believes her), and how "I'm 13 and need to have an abortion".
Honey, if people were to judge by previous posts, you are certainly more than ready.
Seriously, I think you have a good handle on life. Think hard on having a baby before you get done with school. I know it's tempting right now, but it's so easy to get pregnant, have the baby, and decide that you only have a year to go in school so you can take this one off to raise the baby then go back next year.
You're right , you do have your whole life ahead of you and I can certainly understand the wanting a baby. Finish school and then have fun starting a baby. You will thank me for this advice when you can take the time to concentrate on your ne wlittle one and not worry about when you have to get back to school
2006-11-13 13:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by kara3967 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well as a mother of 2 before being 24 I can say that that's a hard question to answer. While my 1st wasn't planned. I was 21 when I got prenant and 22 when she was born. She is almost 2 now and I was a single mom until she was just over a year old, because her "sperm donar" split on me. I met my husband just after my 1st one's 1st b-day. We got pregnant before we got married. My second one is due around Chirstmas. I turn 24 in Jan. I can say that my family thought that I was too young the first time and they weren't thrilled this time considering the situation, but at least my 2nd child will know her real father. If you and your fiance think that you can truly handle the responsibilites of having a baby and it's what you really want than you should do it. However, you should both really understand what you are getting into before you do it. If I could do it all over again, I don't think I'd have done it any differently, however I have a biased opinoin b/c of how I feel about my daughter and the thought of the 2nd one on the way. But if you could send me back to where I didn't know any of this was going to happen, I think that I'd have been more careful and planned a little better. I did want to have children young, but I did want to be married first. Men respond better to being parents when they are married to the mother. While that is my opioion, it tends to be true. I got lucky with my husband, b/c when we found out he bought me a ring and we were married within a few months of that. I'm not saying that your fiance will run, but you should talk about it until you are blue in the face and then some more. Overall, I say be 100% sure you are making the right decision for the point in your lives where you are right now. Ask your family for thier advice and don't get upset when you do hear what they have to say. Remember that you asked. Whatever you do make sure that you are completely comfortable with your decision. Good luck.
2006-11-13 12:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by ribbitt_ribbitt_83 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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Is 20 years old too young to have a baby?
I understand I have my whole life ahead of me, and much to come. But I am almost done with school, and getting married in two years. But I dont want to wait, my body wants me to have a baby, figurtively speaking.
2015-08-04 10:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Marcellina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 20 and i have a 14 mth old. Being a mother at age 20 is capable and if your mature enough to handle the responsibilty and can financially support another human baby then its your call. Its alot of hard work raising a baby but its worth the outcome.
2006-11-13 13:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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As far as I'm concerned, as long as you're old enough to support your family & care for it, you're old enough, and it's nobody's business. Yes, 20 is young, but it's still adulthood. Some 20 year olds are just not mature or responsible enough for that kind of responsibility yet, but obviously some are.
2016-04-06 02:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also pregnant and 20. I think that if you have a good, stable situation and someone to help you, good luck. I don't think it's too young if you're ready for a baby, but if you're an irresponsible druggie, you shouldn't have a kid.
I would just make sure that your fiance wants a baby at this time too. Mine didn't, so he split. So just make sure that both you and your partner are ready for a child physically, emotionally, and financially before you actually go for it. It would make the whole process more enjoyable.
2006-11-13 12:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by Shelly 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
In this day and age, it usually is. Most 20 year olds don't have a good enough job/income to support a family.
2016-11-30 11:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not "too young." I got pregnant when I was 20 but had my baby a month after my 21st birthday. I wanted kids young also. There's nothing wrong with how you feel.
2006-11-13 12:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by Chavahleah 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
If you are ready to have a baby, then it doesn't matter what age you are. I'm 17 and I'm having my first child. It wasn't planned but I am getting through it and I can't wait. Me and the dad are so excited.
2006-11-13 13:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by kasey06 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋