I am ok with being friends with benefits, and I have this one guy friend who I hang out with for that. Now this guy seems to say something to me everyday through email whether it's hello or he just wanted to see how my day was going. I asked my girlfriend why does he send me an email every day and she said maybe because he is trying to be my friend because if you don't have the friends part then you end up looking like a hoe because all you will have is just the benefits part. I thought that was the way it was suppose to be since this is a new phase I am going through and really enjoy. I like the no strings attached that's why I never really said anything to him until it was time to hang out again. She said I need to stop taking a guys approach to this, and ask this guy if he would like to catch a movie or go out to eat or something so we can get a better feel for each other even if we pay for ourselves when we do go out. My question is, is that really what friends with benefits do?
2006-11-13 12:16:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a new phase for me because I was one of many women who felt like I could not sleep with a guy unless it was going to develop into something serious, but I don’t feel that way anymore, but I don’t want to come across as a hoe. I do enjoy his company when we are alone together, but I had never given us hanging out any thought I just make sure that I don‘t get attached, but does that mean he has thought about us hanging out other then sex if he keeps contacting me every day? And am I really taking the guys approach to this.
2006-11-13 12:16:37 · update #1
Sounds like he may be looking for more than you are looking for. If you're not interested that's fine, but be sure he has that understanding to be fair.If you don't want any emotional attachment or commitments that is also your choice, but again be fair and honest with your sex partner to avoid misunderstandings. Most importantly be responsible, protect yourself and your partner or partners from sexually transmitted diseases. If you don't want any emotional commitments and are honest with you partners you are doing nothing wrong. You have the right to do as you wish and the obligation to respect others rights to agree or disagree. Be responsible and safe first and utmost.
2006-11-13 12:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by big dawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're only interested in the benefits part and he feels guilty or doesn't know how to thank you for all the free sex. I would just tell the guy that you're okay with things the way they are and not worry about it...if that's truly the way you feel. You shouldn't have to manufacture a fake friendship just to complete the game.
2006-11-13 20:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am in that stage or used to be. i didnt enjoy it because some guys kinda took advantage if me. and no if u are goood friends with this guy and u have the benefits part then it might end up as a relationship. Good luck.
2006-11-13 20:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...its supposed to be that you are friends, but can also do the things that boyfriends and girlfriends do, but without the strings attached...no jealousy, etc...never happens though, someone ALWAYS gets feelings.
2006-11-13 20:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by Moops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just might be too good at the sex thing...he might be falling for you. I'll help you with that, I'll give yyou all the benefits you want and you won't have to call me until you need more benefits. We can be...aquaintences with benefits. lol
2006-11-13 20:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'd talk to him to make sure ya both want the same thing..sex with no strings... he may want more or he might just be trying to be nice... but my personal experience with "friends with benis" is that sooner or later someone wants to delvelop a relationship outta it... so if you already made up yer mind about that... be careful cuz it might end badly even without the "strings"
2006-11-13 20:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by mrbubbachowpuss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny
2006-11-13 20:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants to be more than "friend with benefits". Maybe he`s starting to feel a little something something for you.
2006-11-13 20:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by mythoughts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-13 20:28:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋