Hi, I'm very interested in learning the truth about homosexuality in males. I'm not trying to be a bigot or smart@***, I just want to know did anything that happened in your life make you gay? How many of you guys have been sexually molested when you were younger? All answers will be deeply appreciated, please be honest!
2006-11-13 12:16:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
wombatusium's- Nice answer.
2006-11-13 12:26:01 · update #1
Don't be fooled by my question........ I asked it out of desperation, I guess I'm the only person who will admit....... Never mind.
2006-11-13 12:31:47 · update #2
I am gay. I knew I was gay when I was 4, though I didn't know there was even a label for it. I was attracted to men. I went through puberty at 8. By 12, my sexual orientation was fully functional. I had a wonderful childhood. Two loving parents, as perfect a home as you can get in all respects. I was never molested. I was never raped. I was never sexually abused. I had my first ejaculation at the hand of another boy when I was 12 - he was 12. We were equals who happened to have very strong feelings for each other. We were textbook best friends in every other respect. I dated girls in high school because I enjoyed their company, not because I was romantically attracted to them. I married at 19 because that's what we are "supposed" to do. I was married 12 years and we have 2 wonderful kids who are now adults themselves. (19 and 17). After 12 years, we decided that we both needed the freedom to find our own paths in life and we divorced amicably. I have been in a healthy, monogamous gay relationship ever since. My kids are well adjusted and love my partner - they call him Dad2. I have never done drugs, don't drink alcohol, and have never had the desire to smoke. I have never been, or had the desire to, be promiscuous. My parents were born in the early 1920's. They are still alive and kicking with sharp minds and moderately good health. I occasionally go out to gay clubs to dance and socialize. All in all, it's been a very good and rewarding life. Choice? Not likely. At the age of 4 one hardly has enough pieces to comprehend choice, let alone make them. It was always there - at no point did I have to make a conscious choice whether to be gay or not. I just am. Yes, I was married and have kids. Just because I am gay doesn't mean the plumbing doesn't work, or that I am sterile. Sex is simply a biological process, nothing more and nothing less. Love, however, is deeply complicated.
2006-11-15 07:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by deLaParre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always gay. Before I even knew what gay meant or for that matter what straight meant I can look back now and see the signs that i was gay. The point that moralist can't get through their heads, gay is NOT all about what we do in bed, its a part of our very fabric of being. Gay isn't something you can just have foist on you or adopt, its part of you.
Science is leaning more and more that it is genetic, part of our dna, but for me it doesn't matter. I do know that i was never molested, never traumatized as a child. I grew up in a traditional household, with both parents and an older brother (straight). I was blessed beyond belief that my parents were and are supportive of my coming to terms with being gay.
Its a sad fact that some children are molested or have traumatic lives, but logic says that if 10% of the population is gay, then 10% of abuse victims would be too. Its possible that a gay child was molested, not a child that was molested leading to turning gay.
So here I am, 18, relatively bright guy, who just so happens to be gay and that's perfectly all right with me and those in my life. I get angry when moralist presume to tell me what I am, or how I am when they have no clue and perhaps the last people to point a finger.
2006-11-13 13:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
O.k. seems you might be a little sincere. If you are the truth is.
I have never been abused.
I learned how to throw a football.
I was mischievous in school. (fights, and all the boy things)
It is something that I have always been, enjoy 4wheeling and etc, still yet. Football, wrestling and etc. (when it comes to intimacy, I have always been attracted to males, I have tried being intimate with girls but it was such an effort and felt un-natural)
Why I am I gay, don't know but I certainly did not choose the discrimination and abuse...(so it was not a choice)
I am happy that I am gay. (I can go home feel comfortable and loving with my partner, it feels safe and natural)
If at the end of the days if I can see equal rights then I would say everyone out of the closet made a difference.
I also have a dream!
2006-11-13 13:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by southernboy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The same thing that makes other people not gay is what makes me gay. It's my nature. Because there is nothing wrong with being gay, it does not matter what causes it. What causes someone to prefer strawberry ice cream?
And no, I was never sexually molested. No, I had no early trauma associated with sex - except for some girl who stuck her hands down my pants and groped me when I was about 14. It didn't turn me off girls, because I never had an interest in them. If anything, the only reason it bugged me was because I had zero interest.
2006-11-13 13:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its particularly very realistic. Gay men are homosexual men, i.e. guys who're drawn to guys. What you name female gays who think and behave as females are almost always transexuals. That's yet another kettle of fish totally and not anything to do with being homosexual. Transexuals do not determine with the intercourse they're born with, probably have corrective surgical procedure and accordingly do not particularly fancy the identical intercourse. Hope that is helping you out.
2016-09-01 12:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by fullington 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Listen Up !!!"
The truth is 95% of all males and females that are gay "WERE BORN GAY"!!!
God Created Gay people gay !!!
For the other 5% it took a tramatic experience to make them come to a full understanding of who they really are. ie: Husband cheating, a multitude of times, loosing the slim attraction toward husband; only wanted to marry because he or she wanted children, to name a few. Children can always be adopted by gay men anyway. Most gay women and gay men make much better parents than straight people anyway !! And I am not gay, but I gay (men and women both) friends that are. And this fact (of gays making better parents) is so....very obvious !! It is the truth !!
2006-11-13 12:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Im gay because that is who I am. I didn't choose the lifestyle, nor did anything happen to me in my lifetime that traumatised me. I am gay because that is the way I was born. In my teenage years I found myself attracted to guys instead of girls. At the time I didn't realise what it meant and hence didn't put a label to it, now I proudly identify as being gay. If people don't like it or judge me for it, then I don't associate with them.
2006-11-13 12:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by wombatusium 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Why r u str8? Were you molested by the opposite sex when u werw younger? We don't just wake up one day and say hey i think that i will be gay today.
2006-11-13 12:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I say what blue beluga says.
We were born this one. Most of us haven't been abused or anything like that. Most of us love women. We just aren't physically or sexually attracted to them like we are men.
2006-11-13 13:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by gc27858 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what happened in YOUR life that MADE you straight? Oh yeah, BEING BORN THAT WAY, SAME as GAY PEOPLE. Jesus Homosexual Christ get a clue.
2006-11-14 12:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by . S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋