Arguing with my mom?

Question

I'm getting so tired of my mom thinking she can hit me or slap me when we get into a fight, and expect me not to hit her back. Sure she's my mom, but when i'm being hit im going to defend myself and not let someone just sit there and hit me. I don't care if it is her house, which is one of her famous lines, she can just send me out then because i'm not going to be degraded like that and not stand up for myself. Does anyone else feel this way? Is it wrong that i do that? I think she should just keep her hands to herself. I never try to hit her ever unless she's touched me and then she gets bitchy about me hitting her, but hello, she just hit me too! Nobody likes to be hit, so why would she hit me and think it's okay, but when i hit her, it's not. The motherly title shouldn't stand in the way of that, whether or not she is my mom it's not right. Neither of us should hit eachother but if she's gonna swing first, i will defend myself. Does anyone agree or am i just stupid? REAL ANSWERS PLS

by the way, i'm 16 and female if that has anything to do with it.

Answer 1

First of all, you are right - your mother should not hit you or slap you. That's a waste of energy. She should simply pack your little rags and send you on your disrespectful, wanna-be-grown way. You don't even sound as if you respect your mother. It's hard to see if she is abusive or if you are just one of those typical bratty teenagers who doesn't want anyone telling her what to do. You are being stupid by not trying to have a conversation with your mother or at least analyze the compelling reason she feels she needs to hit you. What are you doing prior to being hit (not that this justifies anything); perhaps it is something you can avoid so she doesn't feel she has to hit you. The motherly title does give her the right to respect. You should always feel that you can defend yourself but there is a proper way in which to do that. No, no one likes to be hit but most people don't go around hitting for no apparent reason. If she is abusive, by all means, seek a shelter. If you are behaving unkind to your mother and this is HER defense mechanism, you have to work that out with your mom and stop giving her attitude. You're 16. Remember that. Respect goes a long way.

Answer 2

you are right about one thing i am sick of my mom saying that i do nothing around the house but hello i do 2 bathroom,2 living rooms,sweep,dishes,cats,dogs,table clean of and set for dinner. And i have 2younger brothers that are 9 and 10 and they can do something and 2 older that don't do anything. I am 14. I also think that your mom should not hit you even though you were arguing. if it is serious it could be child abuse.

Answer 3

all im gonna say on this is if you was my kid i would knock your teeth out if you tried ta hit me maybe if you would try ta listen she wouldnt treat you the way she does TRY TO LISTEN TO WHAT YOUR MOM TELLS YOU IM SURE THINGS WILL GET BETTER JUST LISTEN