I'm not afraid of dying- I'm afraid of my children being left alone and/or discovering that I'm dead. I have this irrational belief in my head that I won't survive my 20s that I have had since I was a kid. I'm 22 and sincerely believe I will never see 30. My children are 1 and 3. I know it's a silly thing to worry about, but I have already written up a will and guardianship and discussed with all of my family what I want to happen with my kids "when I go." I haven't actually told anyone except my husband that I believe I'm going to die before I'm 30, but I have made it clear what my expectations are for my children. I know this is crazy and I don't need anyone to tell me I'm crazy- but has anyone ever heard of this with anyone else before?? What can I do to curve it??
2006-11-13 12:00:54 · 6 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I always thought that I would die before I was 21, partly because a doctold my mother that would happen. Now here I am nearly 20 years later.
I've given up thoughts of dying and live every day as it comes.
2006-11-13 12:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same fear since I was in my teens! It wasn't 30 though, it was 25. I am now 32 and still going strong! I remember my doctor telling me that many young women fear that they will die and leave their young children behind, so it sounds like it may be a fairly common occurence among young mothers. If it still bothers you after taking all the steps you have to make yourself feel better by making sure that they are taken care of, then I suggest you see a counsellor of some sort to help you through.
2006-11-13 20:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by edawns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no most women feel the way you do i had an experience once that death was all around me and i thought surely it was me but i had just had a baby the death feeling stayed with me for some time until i just got on my knees and prayed that god would take the feeling away are me away two week's later my baby died i was very sad but i knew he was in heaven doing heavenly thing's and that give me comfort but i have not had that feeling since i was 20 when that happen and now i'am 58 a lot of times we need to listen to god for the feeling you are haveing do not have to be you and don't have to be your child maybe someone close to you?an aunt or even a friend and then again may not be anyone, just pray that is what i did
2006-11-13 20:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by mishoney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes- My husband kept saying that he was going to die young . He always was making reference to this and he was a healthy man. Well he got a rare aggressive form of cancer and died-young-25--2 weeks before he turned 26.
I believe that if a person believes something that it will manifest. I suggest that you start visualizing yourself seeing your children in their cap and gowns graduating high school, their wedding day and your there, being Grey with your husband doing something you both love. You really don't want to die young do you.
Get rid of this Anxiety now. It gives you nothing but grief so why hold on to it?
2006-11-13 20:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ask us ... ask someone who knows ...but thats strange and i would hate to think i really believed that ..so i want to say things like it is all in your mind and you need to get over it , but you really need to get through it more than over it...and you should definately talk to your husband about it...
2006-11-13 20:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many of us parents have this fear so many of us find someone we trust and ask them to god father or god mother our children in case of our demise,
2006-11-13 20:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋