Personally, I think you are born with it, but people argue vice versa. What do you think???
And this isn't a joke so don't be a smart @$$...
2006-11-13 11:59:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yeah, but if your saying that you decide to be gay through life, then thats like saying you can decide to be mentally challenged (no offense...) throughout life. And THAT doesn't make sense.
2006-11-13 12:06:05 · update #1
Having a preference is different, this kind of thing could be a gene. You never know. I think, your born gay. BUT, you may not realize it [or want to realize it] until you are older, and more able to handle it.
2006-11-13 12:47:34 · update #2
although we see this question literally dozens of times a day, I'll answer again. definitely born gay, not chosen. you can't choose your sexual orientation any more than you can choose your skin or eye color.
and, considering there's still a lot of bigots out there, would you "choose" to be someone who's discriminated against?
2006-11-13 13:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered this somewhere else, but here it is again, my stance on things:
I actually don't believe that we are born with a predetermined sexual orientation. There are too many people who find their sexual preferences changing over time for this to be true, in my opinion.
I do believe, however, that you don't per se CHOOSE/LEARN to be gay. You don't wake up one day and say "Geez, I think I'll eschew women and go for men instead." But just because you didn't choose it doesn't mean it's biologically a part of you, you know? It's not something you can change, I feel. Take this example, for instance- you are a cat lover. You just love your pet kitties. Never been a dog person, thanks. You just know for sure that you wouldn't ever want to own a dog. So, someone says- you choose to love cats. Well, no, you reply, not really. I mean, I just like cats. I've always been that way. Does that mean, then, that there is a cat-loving gene in your body? Of course not. It means that this is a preference in your mind, one that you cannot consciously change, but is not innate, either.
I think that human sexuality is immensely more complex than the labels we have today like gay and straight. I also believe that love is gender blind and a straight man can find himself falling in love with another man, still completely attracted to women and utterly not attracted to men, but emotionally and sexually satisfied with that one man he loves. Our sexual desires come from our personalities, our past experiences, our childhoods, socialization, and more. It's a heady, deliciously messy mix of everything, and it gives us all that's wonderful about our sexuality today, so diverse.
That's my stance on things. I know that a lot of gay/bisexual people claim they are born that way, and I understand why they feel that way. For them, the claim feels true. In my opinion, a lot of straight people call it a choice so they don't have to ask hard questions about God (creating that which He supposedly hates?) and their source of intolerance (how can you hate something that someone never chose to be, like skin color, or, in this case, sexual orientation?). Like I said, I think it's neither, but I don't mind people claiming they were born gay. Just as long as they don't say that all gay people were born gay, or all straight people were born straight, etc., etc.- until they have scientific proof to back that up.
2006-11-13 20:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Born gay. No one EVER chooses to be gay or straight. It's a gift from God. Just like the color of your eyes. It's just one of those things that are and not to be questioned.
2006-11-14 17:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by Allan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not really born gay, any more than you're born with male pattern baldness. However, you are born with physical traits that will result in you being bald or gay when you get older.
2006-11-14 01:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sexuality develops through life based on both genetics and environment. Just one being the cause doesn't make much sense to me, either way it's not a choice. I doubt anyone except extreme masochists would volunteer for that kind of persecution.
2006-11-13 22:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by Rageling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...I'm gay and I'm pretty sure I was born with it...I mean I had crushes on boys in elementary school so I'm pretty sure there wasn't a deciding point in my life where I decided which team I wanted to play for.
2006-11-13 20:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by JR 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most people are born gay.
2006-11-13 21:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by gc27858 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are born gay.
2006-11-13 21:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was definitely born gay... you're right, it's not something one can become.
2006-11-13 20:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by Rat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are born that way, like having brown eyes, or red hair.
2006-11-13 20:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋