I go by myself because I dont have any gay friends, only like straight ones, but everytime i go to gay clubs, im always like by myself, iam a very shy person and so i dont have the strenght to go up to someone and start up a conversation. I dont want to stop going because id rather be over there that at my house all bored, at least at the club i get distracted, but im all alone. What can i do? Maybe if i take like a couple of beers ill cheer up, but i dont know, any suggestions?
2006-11-13 11:51:51 · 6 answers · asked by mackmeal 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
One more thing, Ive only gone like 3 times and well, maybe it's like a little too early.. but I dont know, I aint gonna give up, I'll keep going to see what happens.
2006-11-13 12:24:31 · update #1
Your avatars lookin a little Brokeback Mountain-ish lol your Q caught my eye cause I go to the gay club (with gay guy friends) fun isnt it? im not gay but I have a ball I love the guys there anyway yeah try some beers...cheer up...take someone with you maybe...
2006-11-13 11:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't turn to alcohol to try to make yourself feel better.
Are you sure you need to be in a "gay club"? Why not a "normal" one? There is nothing wrong with staying home and working on a puzzle, reading a book or watching a movie.
Learn to feel confident with being alone. There is nothing wrong with being single. When you are comfortable in your own skin, then others will see it, and a relationship will develop naturally. If you are feeling uncomfortable at the club, others can pick up on that from your body language or the way you speak.
2006-11-13 19:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up and have a few drinks...it's a gay bar, trust me, no one is passing any judgement, just be yourself. I was the same way at first even though I was actually going with friends but they got me to be a little more of a fun person and now I act like a whore (not literally, but I hit on all the guys). I'm sure there's a dance floor, find someone you like and go dance with them...you will have a good time, trust me
2006-11-13 20:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same predicament as you. I made friend with the bartenders and usually confessed how shy I am. They ended up introducing me to all the fun, decent people.
Good luck!
2006-11-13 20:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CLUBBING AND NO FRIENDS YET...
THAT IS ONE WAY TO MAKE FRIENDS..
WELL KEEP GOING AND ALCOHOL IS NOT THE ANSWER TO
SHYNESS..
LEARN DARTS--VIDEO GAMES-POOL-
2006-11-13 19:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by cork 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi...
i do that too.
let us go together....
ady2u@hotmail.co.uk
2006-11-13 21:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋