does a 42 yr old married man who cheated on his wife with a 21 yr old and then left his family for the girl........will it last...we were married 24 yrs and now he acts as if i dont exsist ....up until the affrair i thought us happy...........what do you all think?
2006-11-13 11:50:53 · 19 answers · asked by kelly h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-13 21:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you thought wrong. Im sorry this is happening to you. 24 years is alot of time. Now a days couples dont last even a fraction of that. You ask if it will last.... well no one can tell for sure. Some adult men, at some points in there life, start to feel to old and when a younger woman finds him attractive, its a ego boost. However wrong this is, it does happen, alot. The overall determining factor here is love. Was there alot of deep love between the two of you?. He may on his own, realize what hes done and come back to you. I would suggest that you try to have a sit down with him to discuss whats to happen now. If your willing to move on...ect...then maybe the two of you can start afresh. If hes insistant on leaving you then set him free. You should not waste the rest of your life chasing after something you cant have. Besides, at that point I would be wanting to get back those years you wasted on the sap. There truely is life after love. It can be painful, its a long bumpy road, but when you get there, youll see that Im right. You can be happy again. I get so angry when I read or see young woman throwing themselves all over married men. Granted it takes two to tango, but the "GOLD BAND " on those fingers, they scream I'm married. Why cant those damn bimbos just keep walking???? I wish you well and I hope you find your true happiness!
2006-11-13 20:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by cjpburgess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OKAY, one last time. She is 21 for god's sake. He is dealing with the daddy syndrome. Of course you do not exist because you are as old as her mother. That he is also father age as well has not quite sunk in yet. It will when he sends her to bed without supper and she rebels. Either that or in seven years and he cannot do it for more than 10 minutes even with viagra she will move on. Then you will have your revenge because you will have moved on to your next one.
Just remember, 20 goes in to 40 a lot more than 40 goes into 20.
2006-11-13 20:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh he'll get tired of the twenty-one year old and she will get tired of his old azz too. He's probably buying her stuff and just thrilled to death - she is a child she will soon begin to want to hang out with people her own age and he will feel out of place in her world. He'll also get tired of spending money and when he stops he won;t be that attractive to her anymore. He is an idiot sugar daddy - but If I were you I would move on honey or at least enjoy yourself until hubby sees the light - who knows you may get a younger man that rocks your boat - don't go for twenty-one though - try 32-36 - lol Good luck my dear
2006-11-13 20:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way of knowing really. If she has his children then it may but my gut instinct tells me that the age difference is too vast and she will give him the heave ho if a better, younger guy comes around. I think that is unfair how he is treating you but some people are like that...sounds like a mid-life crisis to me so I would not bet on their relationship in the long run. You can find someone better than that who will treat you much better. I say let his happy *** go and you find someone else!
2006-11-13 19:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M THINKING MID LIFE CRISIS AND A WOMAN YOUNG ENOUGH TO BE HIS DAUGHTER. I have no idea if it will last maybe maybe not? That depends on why this woman wants your husband. You must be really hurt and upset so go see a counsellor and talk to your friends get a make over and start going out and having fun life is worth living and don't let your husband be the only person living it :)
2006-11-13 19:56:25 · answer #6 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, she is a trophy. A young thing to show off to the guys. Someone to make him think he still has it. Let me tell you a little secret. His friends aren't jealous they are laughing at him because she is in it for money or stability and in a few years she will be doing a man her own age. He will find out, beg her to stop, she will say she stopped, but doesn't and finally leaves him for a younger man. Ironic, isn't it? Seen it happen several times.
2006-11-13 19:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will last for a while. Then, the 21 year old will wake up one morning and realize that she's laying next to a man that could be her father.
The question is, would you take him back when the younger woman makes her discovery?
2006-11-13 19:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not last with the 21 year old when she finds out that men in their forties aren't all that fantastic in the sack and turn quickly into old farts. Whether he'll come back is a different story, and if I were you I'd tell him to go to hell with such a smug feeling when he came crawling back.....
2006-11-13 21:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Phil says, "If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you." I don't think this
new relationship will last. Even though you thought everything was okay
before, it couldn't have been or he would still be with you. There may be
a possibility that he will smarten up but I wouldn't count on it. Give him a
year to do so, but don't waste your life on him.
2006-11-13 19:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by sunnymommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋