My b/f told me he wants me to move in w/him. which means me moving to Georgia when he comes home from iraq. been together few months, known each other for yrs. i want it to work w/him more than anything. im afraid if i dont move he will be upset & it wont work, afraid if i do move then we will grow tired of each other always being together 24/7 and i wont have any friends there so we would never have space. ive never lived with someone before, he has. so bascially i want to move cause i love him very much but b/c i love him & want it to work i want to take it sloweri think so we have a better chance of making it. am i wrong? ill take any advice whether positive or negative.
2006-11-13 11:40:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we have talked about getting married but he hasnt asked me to marry him. im willing to move i think it would be a lot of fun to move somewhere for a little while, eventually when he outta army we would move back here.
2006-11-13 11:49:18 · update #1
Tell him to make an honest woman out of you and then you'll move. Why should he buy the cow when he gets the milk for free?
2006-11-13 11:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where do you both stand on the question of marriage? Is that even a factor? Because you should understand what each of you want a bit better before you take such a big step. But even more importantly, you should NOT do this simply because he will be upset if you don't. It won't work, and you'll be far from home, living with someone with whom it isn't working out.
If you hope to marry him eventually, you should let him know that you want a husband before you move in together. And you should put an approximate deadline on it, e.g. we'll be engaged before 2 years is up, and the engagement won't last longer than one year. This will keep him from stringing you along because he's comfortable with the living together thing. But you have to mean it if you suggest a timetable. Whatever the timetable is, the two of you should both agree on it before you share a household.
2006-11-13 19:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he moves to georgia and you dont then you have to wrestle with the downfalls of a long distant relationship. (I doubt he would be mad if you didn't want to move there)
You could move there and get your own place instead of living together right away, give you two more time.
Or you could just move in with him and enjoy it. You can meet more people, get a job so you are not 'around each other 24/7.
I know if my love interest asked me to move in with him, I would and you have obviously had way more chance to get to know yours longer re: known each other for years.
Bottomline is it is your choice. Don't be compelled to make a choice you wouldn't for yourself otherwise because of how someone else may feel about it. Do what You feel is the right thing to do for You!
2006-11-13 19:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound too young for something like that. Tell him what you just told us and wait a while before making your decision. It's really better to get married before you move in with your man. Otherwise, he will never have any reason to marry you. You've heard it before, "Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?" Don't move in until you're married. That's my advice. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 19:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your boyfriend is excited to come home and excited to see you but I also see you are scared. You need to move slower in my opinion. Sugjest to your boyfriend you are not ready for such a big move just yet. Maybe you could take the trip to see him for a week and then he can do the same and see where you are after a few more months. You need your time girl don't be rushed
2006-11-13 19:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it unless you think this is a relationship that is going to really develop into something serious. If he is getting stationed to Ft Benning, get ready to be BORED!
2006-11-13 19:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by georgiadiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your instinct is correct. Take it slow. If your love for each other is strong, it will only continue to grow. He should not be upset, he should understand.
If he *really* wants to be with you, he'll move to you, not expect you to move to him.
2006-11-13 19:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After he walks you down the aisle. Never before then.
2006-11-13 19:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be living in sin. Is this what you really want?
2006-11-13 19:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
fear leads to nothing ..... make ur decision thinking of work and family ( i think ) good luck .
2006-11-13 19:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by Aspettami28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋