Im only 14 and he only 17. we have been dating for 2 months
I have really bad eatin habits and hes hates it, hes always tryin to get me to eat but im to stubbern and i wont ever eat infront of him. I have extremely low self confidence and i think im really fat and i need to lose weight. but he says that im not fat and he likes me the way i am but im never comfy around him because of how self conscious i am. Hes tryin really hard to break my habits but i got a feeling its getting worse. He says that i get to carried away with it and i could lose him. I starve myself and am sometimes bulimic. am i at risk of losing my loved one?
2006-11-13 11:28:03 · 9 answers · asked by hopeless_romantic_lee_lee43 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no my parents dont know about my eating disorder, i wont tell them because then they will watch out for me more then they already do . yes my boyfriend is aware of why i do this. I dont eat around him because its just to embarassing to do that stuff. and yes i am only 14 but keeping my boyfriend is way more important to me then keeping my own life. i love my boyfriend to death with all of my hearts content. yeah i know im only 14 what do i know about love.. i think i have a pretty good idea of what it is since i havnt been this happy since i have met him and i dont think i have gotten out of my house this much since i have met him my whole life has just been better with him because i get out and do stuff, i actually am happy for once and not depressed!
2006-11-13 11:45:57 · update #1
An eating disorder can always turn out bad. You need to go to your parents or someone you turst and get some help before you kill yourself with this. You are at risk of losing yourself. Thats what you need to be concerned about. He cares for you and wants you to get better. You need to listen to him and stop the madness. Stop being focused on losing him. If you die from this you will be losing your life and that includes him and everything else in it.
2006-11-13 11:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lovemykids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOt only are you at risk for losing your loved ones but you are at risk for losing your life. Which by the way is way more important than losing a boyfriend at 14 years of age. Girl you need help and you should talk to your parents to help you get it. Your headed down a very dangerous path. Talk to an adult that you trust if you can't talk to you parents. Your boyfriend is 100% correct you are in trouble and you need help..
I hope you smarten up and get help. God Bless!!
2006-11-13 11:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way yes but in a way no b/c if he loves u he will accept the fact that he dont eat a lot and he will stay with u but if he dont much like the idea that u dont eat a lot than he might leave u for someoen else and if he does then he does and if he truely loves u he wont leave u or he will come back to u if he does leave u to show u that he truely loves u thats how i was always told that if someone loved u but the couldnt stand something that u did than if they left and came back then they truely loved u and if they left and didnt come back then they truely didnt love u and to tell u the truth i dont like to eat around my b/f either and he dotn like the idea that i dont eat a lot either he tries his hardest to get me to eat more but it dont work b/c im just stubburn when it comes to guys trying to get me to eat more when i dont want to.
2006-11-13 11:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know and understand that you have an eating disorder? It sounds to me that he's trying to do what he can to help you, and you're seeing it as though you're being a hassle to him. Darling, he's doing what he thinks is right. You said yourself that he's been trying to get you to eat and you wont eat in front of him. Why not? I think that if you were going to lose him due to your eating habits, he would've already been gone. Are your parents aware of your disorder? Are you willing to ACCEPT his help? Think about it.
2006-11-13 11:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by Clarice H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could get really bad. Seek help as soon as possible. Your health and relationship are both at risk. Believe me your life can only get better. The sooner you seek help the sooner things will Begin to look up.
2006-11-13 11:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by ZinaBeena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should really try to break that habit if not things could get alot worse and you could wind up in the hospital i have a friend with the same problem but she is not in the hospital yet.you need someone to help you along the way
p.s. good luck
2006-11-13 11:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by advisitory 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a serious problem and can make yourself sick, your guy is not complaining he is trying to help see a doctor before you dry up and blow away, you are 14 a child is your mother aware of this problem seek medical help.
2006-11-13 11:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your at risk of losing him and your own life. Get help now before it goes to far.
2006-11-13 11:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't starve yourself... it's not good for your development and health if you don't get enough nutrients (if don't eat enough)... besides, us guys like curves, we don't want to see just skin and bones.... do yourself a favor and eat well... it'll be better for you all around
2006-11-13 11:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by Doran L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋