Or would it be your fault that you were unable to uncover that before you got married, and your punishment would be that you have to endure it forever???
2006-11-13 11:27:16 · 12 answers · asked by tspbrady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you found out? You should have known this/her better before you got married. That is why we, as a race, need to have long engagements before committing for life.
2006-11-13 11:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I do not think that you would have to stay in a marriage simply because you did not know she was a bigot but I do have to ask that question of why you did not see it earlier? If you decided to part ways then it would be the same if you could not live together ie irreconcilable difference...so do not punish yourself and do what you need to do to find happiness...
2006-11-13 20:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived w/a man for years and begged him to not be a bigot. The terms he used were terrible, he had special names for every race and would use them to describe things about them.
So, I finally had enough and after all the years of begging, pleading and tying to change him I left and never looked back. He has had a few g/f's since and they left too because of the same thing. You have to be like minded to have any life together.
2006-11-13 19:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you meet her and marry her the next day? Come on, that's something that should have been detected within the first couple of weeks.
You need to talk to her about that and let her know its unacceptable. Just remember, some things cannot be changed.
2006-11-13 19:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people pretend to be what we want and then when they've got you where they want you, they let out their true nature. If it is intolerable to you and she is unwilling to try to change, perhaps divorce would not be such a bad idea, as evidently the marriage was based on a sham in the first place.
2006-11-13 19:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have had this information before you married her... as being with a person that is prejudice can be hard to live with at times....you cannot change a person when it comes to their ways... its like a Christian wanting a non Christian to change their beliefs ....why did you not see this before you married her.... did she not show that she was a bigot before you got married??
2006-11-13 19:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by sswan007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a sin. But maybe in time you can show her not to be a bigot.
2006-11-13 19:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in forever because nothing lasts that long....and it'[s your choice what you can accept or not accept from somebody you can say do not act or speak like that around me because it offends me and my values.
2006-11-13 19:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no......its her opinion! when she found out something really personal about you { and you know she has } did she leave you? dont ask her what she knows! shell tell you ! and you dont want to know....i promise! youll be sorry!!! just move past this and be happy.
2006-11-13 19:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can she cook ?Is she good in the bedroom ?Is she easy to get along with otherwise ?What she look like ? May be I 'll take her !
2006-11-13 19:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋