we are both adults. he is 33 and i am 26. we are in love and we care for each other. things happen for a reason and theres nothin we can do. he said he doesnt want to be with me now & maybe in the future if we both dont find anything good we could be. or if its meant to be we wil be back again. i love him so much and i do want to give him space now but i really want to try again later.. i know i should move on..but how long can i wait til he calls me ( if he really cares he will right?) should i wait few weeks or a month?
our problems couldnt be solved cus there was no solution. neighter one of us coudl do anything about it.. he lives w/ an ex ( 13yrs ago) and i was havin trouble accepting it. i went crazy and started to snoop arond n stuff. which is so bad! i wanted to leave the relationship too and was planning on breakin up....but do u think we'l have a chance in the future? i know right now we dont.. is there such thing as fate and hope?
2006-11-13 11:24:14 · 6 answers · asked by julie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
5 ppl live in that house including her sister/brother. she has a boyfriend...
my bf and his ex frienship bothered me cus they were too close.
2006-11-13 11:25:34 · update #1
if i give him and me some space.. can we talk again jus as friends if we cant be toghter again? is it posssible/?
or if i give him space, will he realize n come back ?
2006-11-13 11:27:21 · update #2
You reacted the way any normal person would. Your BF relationship with his ex should have bothered you. He was with you now and had no reason to even be in communication with her unless they had a kid. When you are committed to someone else there are things you HAVE to let go of and ex's are one of them. They only create problems and they are not worth it. Your new love should be your best friend now and he shouldn't have had a need for the friendship with his ex. I wouldn't hold my breath on being with him in the future. One thing I learned was that I had to find someone who thought on the same track as me. It prevented all that insecurity and snooping. My husband understood why I felt how I did about him keeoing in touch with his ex's and he felt the same about me doing it. It was me and him now, no one else. We had no need for these other people anymore. It was nice while it lasted but we had each other from this point on. You need a man who understands that and will repsect it. Let your ex go and find a man who will do all he can to gain your trust and keep it. YOu will be surprised that once you find him, you won't ever feel a need to snoop through his stuff or feel insecure.
2006-11-13 11:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Lovemykids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to work on your issues. If you can't get a hold of your jealousy and insecurities...you will always have this problem. No matter who you date you will end up taking these issues with you and destroying any chance of a good relationship.
Seek counseling!
He probably does love you but decided he just can't live in your little prison of doubt anymore. He must be a strong man...because it is hard to walk away from someone you love!!!
You have got to give him credit for taking control of his life...now it's your turn to take control over your life.....you can be strong..you just need to learn how!!
Best Wishes!!
2006-11-13 11:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.mypharmacy.co.uk/health_books/books/o/overcoming_jealousy.htm
Follow what this web site talks about, I did and it is working wonders for me in my relationship I hope it could help you too. Even if things don't work out between you and this guy you must learn to control yourself or the same thing will continue to happen to you in you life. I think the most important thing you need to concentrate on is yourself and work to make yourself happy because a man should not make or brake you, you are who you are with or without him and you need to know that.
2006-11-13 11:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by klynna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hes been wanting to live with this ex of his then i don't think he want you it really depends if he loves you and if he did
then you guys would go things together like going to the beach
or go to a concert but I'm sure if he and you loved each other
very much then he wouldn't be moving in with his ex.
2006-11-13 11:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by babiegum24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you love him some much you dont want any one to take him from you ...and if u guys dont get back together than it was not made 2 be
2006-11-13 11:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by Macavelli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. This relationship is over.
2006-11-13 11:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋